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I wouldn't want to get married. But it would be cool to have a boy. And just train him to be the most bad-ass kid ever. Like, turn him into some football player or something.
Don't worry Judy ...
I'll help you scratch it.
Umm I didn't mean just you!
I wouldn't want to get married. But it would be cool to have a boy. And just train him to be the most bad-ass kid ever. Like, turn him into some football player or something.
Another baby B2B?
For the newlyweds out there, as you get older you need to be aware of the three stages of married sex.
Stage 1: Tri-weekly
Stage 2: Try weekly
Stage 3: Try weakly
hahaha. Cute
Bo just made a special trip to the mall to visit me.
And he brought me a package I had received in the mail, which turned out to be a book I ordered: " Chicken Soup for the Bride's Soul."
uh oh
no. He was an abusive asshole. Getting out of that marriage was the best thing she ever did!Are they still married?
We got married in June of '06, so it's been almost four years. I was 24 and she was 26. We had been dating/engaged for about 2 years when we tied the knot.
And I gotta say life has been great. We're getting ready to welcome our first child into this world this summer and can't wait.
Congrats on the baby!
hey who bump this thread, i was lookin for this
i guess some ppl have diff views and situations b4 they step up to the plate...
i feel my situation was similar to the good guys finish last thread...i explain...
i met up with this girl my mom tried to arrange, since i had nothing to lose i met up with her...felt awkward didnt know what to say since im not social with girls in general either im silent for the whole duration or like how i posts on spurstalk..just dont wanna offend them when i open my mouth. Sitting there next to her for 2hrs didnt say cause her family members were there and seem buzy to welcome friends and , i really wanted to ask her out for the afternoon, didnt open my mouth cause i was a chicken and didnt know what i wanted. I was analyzing every movement of hers and i liked her manners and looks, she was what i was looking for in a wife. The only problem was i didnt know wtf she wanted.
So for 3 weeks while overseas msg back and forth playing mind games and , i got tired and pop the question to her, i wanted her in my life..i dunno what the future holds but i do my very best to provide her happiness. She was obviously playing hard to get and have many opportunities for better guys, i was certain she was holding out or seeing another person so i got rejected. Till this day of this posts i still think of her and how i got played hard for 3 weeks which didnt equate to any fkn progress playing the nice guy.
I know it's difficult, but try not to be bitter. You are very young and inexperienced, so this is a good learning experience for you. I think you did the right thing not being real aggressive with her but also being honest and open about your feelings. Some day she's going to look back and think "I wonder whatever happened to that guy, he was a good person". Don't dwell too much on it and don't hold back, keep trying! There really is someone out there for you
Up to the day you posted this, you were thinking of this girl that you talked to via msg for 3 weeks while overseas? Bro, any that's indecisive or flirts online (which is a good 70% of them) ain't worth thinking about more than a day.
This thread is about marriage, and marriage to me IS a contract. Obviously, depending on family, there's a lot of pressure to enter into that kind of contract, but YOU live for YOU. The last thing you want is to be set up with someone then find yourself completely alone and unable to express yourself in a marriage or around family...it's MUCH better to just be on your own and do what makes you happy without worrying about finances and responsibility. This will last 1-2 years, but you'll have tasted a kind of freedom you want to share with someone and at some point there will be a time when you meet a girl (not trying to impress her or date her) that is pretty and kind-hearted. You won't think about finances or watching out for her, because you'll automatically feel the need to protect and provide for her. You'll know what to do and what to say, and she'll know how to listen. Or maybe she'll know what to do and say, and you will know how to listen. Maybe both.
That's when you know when to get married and have a suitable vessel for your seed under a contract.
I'm not sure I'll ever be married. Marriage is just a ceremony, a tradition; whether or not you love a person depends very little on whether you are married to them.
I don't believe in marriage. It's too confining. I would be too difficult for any woman to deal with long-term.
i dont really care man, whether you marry for love or money, or for nothing...even after living together for a couple of years you will develop feelings for each other, doesnt really make a difference if you know them a couple of years b4 hand or go into a arrange marriage. Each type does have its disadvantages and risk of breakdowns.....
That's when you know when to get married and have a suitable vessel for your seed under a contract.
i do feel like its sub-servant if you go into arrange marriage, then ur force to take care of the other person....but luv is luv right?
can i have ur chinese wife then??
I know it's difficult, but try not to be bitter. You are very young and inexperienced, so this is a good learning experience for you. I think you did the right thing not being real aggressive with her but also being honest and open about your feelings. Some day she's going to look back and think "I wonder whatever happened to that guy, he was a good person". Don't dwell too much on it and don't hold back, keep trying! There really is someone out there for you
where are you getting this bull from lady?
why don't you stick to giving advice to your own team.
yeah, some day she's gonna be thinking back alright, after she gets done ridin her man of the moment and he pisses her off or something.
every women wants different things in a man,
but the best chicks want a man with a badge, not a man with a vag.
lol, but what's the use of a contractual obligation like marriage if you don't love someone? I know we all have different definitions of love, but "developing feelings" in an arranged relationship sounds like convenience more than anything. It's a "go with what you got" at ude and I think it's actually pretty close to what a lot of people end up doing anyway...so yea, the idea of settling for what you got in front of you isn't much different than anyone else. But I personally wouldn't call it love.
And remember, when you love someone you don't feel like you're "forced to take care of him/her." It comes naturally, it doesn't feel like a burden.
I'm not married btw, I'm not stupid.
Thanks!Congrats on the baby!
To add a little more to the discussion...
I don't think age matters as much as experience. I had done alot of living before I met my current wife. That means I did the single, girl-chasing thing and even had a very serious relationship that lasted a couple years.
I learned alot from both and have taken some of those lessons learned into my current relationship. Being smarter about how to handle situations and having the desire to make it work is a good combo.
Having said all that, my wife and I haven't really had a big test...until now. As you may be able to guess from my ST name, my job is prone to being "mobile" from time to time. Got the news today that a six-month vacation overseas is a strong possibility in the very near future...possibly before my wife delivers our first child!
I'm definitely working to stick around for our baby being born, and either way she'll be heading back to TX to be near family for support. Still, there's never a good time to be gone and it can't help our relationship that it comes at this critical time.
I have faith we'll make it through, but the stress and loneliness will be unavoidable.
Do all of you married folks get along with your in-laws?
I do!!! They're dead!!!Do all of you married folks get along with your in-laws?
Not always... in fact there have been times when we did not get along at all.Do all of you married folks get along with your in-laws?
But I think all the parties involved in my case at least want to get along.
Bo is the youngest and his mom's favorite so she took it very hard when he got married and I became the woman in Bo's life.
There were some boundary issues at first and sometimes still, but I feel like both Bo's mom and I have made an effort and thus have made some positive strides.
Bo's dad is a great cook and has always been nice to me, so he is good in my book.
My mom thinks Bo is awesome.
When my mom she made a special trip to Bo's shop to bring him and his staff breakfast one day and a candy bar the next without coming to see me at work either day. And this is all the worse since Bo and I only work about ten minutes apart!
I teased Mom about that for a good week saying that it was not fair that Bo was both his AND my mom's favorite.
That's a good one!
Actually, these days we get along fairly well. Back in the day, things couldn't even pleasantly be described as tense.
They did not attend our wedding, and that was a good thing (and they were respectful about it, which was also good). There were a lot of problems when we got engaged (fewer before then, because they hoped he would 'come to his senses' and break it off).
But once we were married, it's like they shrugged and said 'what's done is done' and have attempted to make the best of it.
And I've tried, on my end, to be open to that. I get along quite well with SFIE's sister and one of his brothers is ok with me (I don't see him much, but he's been a wonderful help to us now and again, which I appreciate). I'm getting along fairly well with another brother and sister-in-law after we've had a chance to go out and do more together and get to know each other a bit more. I get along fine with his father and the other sister-in-law and can have civil conversations with his other brother and his mother. Which is a far cry from how things were when we were married.
Certainly, the pregnancies and losing Gabriel have worked to change the at ude some and things have been softer since we lost Gabe. But there are ways in which they are simply completely foreign to me and I have to wonder if SFIE was secretly adopted, because he's just not like that.
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