Do your teens have a school night bedtime?

[TacoCabanaFajitas]

My parents pretty much let me do whatever I wanted as far as bedtimes went. I'd be up until 3-4 a.m on weekdays playing counter-strike and doing homework, my parents only request was usually that I not cuss so loud when going into a nerd rage on the mic. I had good grades, was involved heavily in music (made a few honor bands), and also had a job working 25 hours a week or more during my last 2 years of HS. I'm not sure when the bedtime thing changed, maybe 9th grade? Some people just have different hours, I'm ridiculously productive between 1-6 a.m and could never do homework before then anyways. My mom pretty much made all of the rules in the house, and basically all she would tell me is if my grades dropped or I started getting into trouble once I started partying on the weekends, then the was over and I'd be sitting in my room jerkin it all week with the lights off by 10.

[Leetonidas]

Keep her on a leash Joe, trust me. I was that age not too long ago, and I know plenty of people in that age range and every 17 year old girl is out trying to get ed down by some got at her school. Seems like she has plenty of freedoms really, you let her stay up til almost midnight and kids have school at 8:30 so I don't see the problem. There's probably some boy behind the recent at ude towards your rules so just keep an eye out because teenagers are conniving mother ers and can lie like no tomorrow. Just based on my experiences and people I know, I'd say 75% the time your kid is out they aren't where they say they are nor are they doing what they claim to be doing. Get one of those phones with the GPS tracker on it too.

[Leetonidas]

Oh and getting good grades don't mean ...I knew plenty of es that were skanking around, getting high and drunk and sucking s behind the stairwell and they were Honor Society kids... I was an A student I used to get high and skip class all the time. It's easy to get good grades, it takes very minimal effort.

[2Blonde]

Joe,
As a dad, you are doing great. you enforce rules but you are also showing that you respect your daughters by allowing them to voice their opinions. 11 sounds fine for wrapping up and getting ready for bed, but realistically they're gonna find ways to communicate when they want. She's a good kid, you should give in and tell her that as long as she continues to stay away from alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. & gets up in the morning without a hassle, along with bringing home good grades, then you will let her decide when she goes to sleep. you can always take away the cell phone if she slacks off. Good Luck

[ALVAREZ6]

Keep her on a leash Joe, trust me. I was that age not too long ago, and I know plenty of people in that age range and every 17 year old girl is out trying to get ed down by some got at her school. Seems like she has plenty of freedoms really, you let her stay up til almost midnight and kids have school at 8:30 so I don't see the problem. There's probably some boy behind the recent at ude towards your rules so just keep an eye out because teenagers are conniving mother ers and can lie like no tomorrow. Just based on my experiences and people I know, I'd say 75% the time your kid is out they aren't where they say they are nor are they doing what they claim to be doing. Get one of those phones with the GPS tracker on it too.

Oh and getting good grades don't mean ...I knew plenty of es that were skanking around, getting high and drunk and sucking s behind the stairwell and they were Honor Society kids... I was an A student I used to get high and skip class all the time. It's easy to get good grades, it takes very minimal effort.

Pretty contradictory series of posts tbh. As you and I both know, kids are going to do what they truly want to do regardless of what their parents think... Which is why your keep on the leash advice is pretty weak.

[ALVAREZ6]

stay away from sex

Dad: NO SEX ALLOWED!

17/18 Year Old Daughter with Boyfriend: Okayzzz, whatever you say dad! *wink*

Dad: That'a girl!

The above is known to happen with successful results.

[JoeChalupa]

Well, so I give in a little and sure enough I get up to go to the head and see her light is still on at 1am. I calmly tell her to shut it down. I kept my voice down though and did not talk loud.

[DesignatedT]

better let up now before it's too late tbh. You can give her a curfew but dont start calling her out on late phone calls. wtf does that hurt anyway? it's not like she's drinking and driving or anything.