Same thing in my house. They totally love him and are dying for us to get married....even though he has no problem laying the hammer down on them. With my complete participation, of course.
He's just more big & scary I think...so it's more effective.
Yeah, but with all of the lawyers and bull nowadays, this might be considered "child abuse."
And your 5-year-old could legally "sue" you for it.
They've screamed "I'm calling CPS on you!!!" at me several times. Then I tell them if I'm going to jail for child abuse, I'm going to make it count.
I totally agree
He's just more big & scary I think...so it's more effective.
...2Blonde
So are some of the people here on this very forum!
They've screamed "I'm calling CPS on you!!!" at me several times. Then I tell them if I'm going to jail for child abuse, I'm going to make it count.I'm gonna try that one next time.
...2Blonde
Cussing is a little overrated. I don't cuss (that much) but I don't think it does too much horrible damage to kids. As long as the kids know that they aren't allowed to use the words in public places or at people, then it's pretty much a non-issue. , my brothers and I were allowed to watch rated R movies by the age of three and we turned out alright.
So are some of the people here on this very forum!
No comment.
hmmm.....perhaps a 'hint' thread is in order again!
No comment.
No "F" bombs are allowed in the house.
No "R" rated movies for those under 17, unless approved by the parent council.
No make up allowed for those under 16 unless for Halloween.
No dating allowed for those under 16 in the house.
Am I wrong for not wanting to be a "friend" to my daughters?
Parenting is indeed the hardest job in the world and we all have different resumes and SOP's. Some say my way will back fire but I hope they are wrong.
I just think it's horribly disrespectful, especially in a school or work environment. People do still get offended by it, especially from children. Believe it or not, as bad as I can get, I didn't cuss at school...even in college. And certainly not at work....well, at least not when anyone can hear me.Cussing is a little overrated. I don't cuss (that much
Believe it or not, as bad as I can get, I didn't cuss at school...even in college.
Me either. I have a bad mouth now, but I would never have thought to cuss at school or in front of my (grand)parents. I actually got in major trouble when I was 10 for saying "Oh my God" about a Yankees-Dodgers game when Bob Welch struck out Reggie Jackson.
I got my first taste of soap when I was hauling food to the car for my mom who was catering some party or another and the door slammed shut right on me with my hands full.
"Damn door!" Got me 1/2 bar of Ivory soap. WTF?! I was helping her!
But I didn't do it again. That soap is N-A-S-T-Y!
My 6th grader nephew (last year) got suspended for 10 days for telling the basketball coach to go himself.
Hi Blondie,
I'm not really questioning your husband's parenting skills (though it may seem that way) I do question the practice of mouth/soap washing in general and especially when it comes from a new step-parent that the child is adjusting to. But like I said, we didn't really have many details...just a lying 5 year old
As far as the mouth washing, I can honestly say it did me no good whatsoever and for me those memories are a little disturbing. I don't even remember what I did to set my mother off....just remember my mother totally losing it and dragging me down the hallway by my ear or scruff of my neck like a dog and forcing soap in my mouth screaming hysterically all the way and roughly scrubbing my mouth. To me that was demeaning and scary...and it happened about 6 times. And the thing is she appears to have total amnesia about all of this and denies ever doing it. I almost thought I was imagining everything but my sisters assured me it happened. So some parents (I'm not saying you and your husband, but definitely my Mom) have distorted memories of how these things affect their children.
anyway, thanks for telling us a little bit more of your story and please know that I'm really not trying to cast judgment on you or your husband.
But maybe someone reading this sees themselves in my mother and hopefully will stop before they lose too much control with their kids.
That definitely sounds extreme ... I've only actually had to do it one time each...but having done it just that one time, the threat of a repeat performance is usually enough and it stops at that.
I can't imagine every calling my Mom a . Although I have done the standard teen "I hate you/slam the door thing". Now my daughter does that. I just laugh and say "I love you , too".
Our latest punishment for her when she gets high & mighty is that we make her wait on us. Last week she had to wait on my husband for 3 days and me for 4 days. She had to pick up after us and everything. I would call her hon her phone and make her come in my room just to throw something in the trash for me or turn on my bedside light.
...2Blonde
now that is pure ing genius!!!
how could that backfire?? What you;ve got going on sounds reasonable to me.. heck it sounds like the same law of the land that my mom laid out on us.
Most kids adopt thier parents values as thier own... hoe-ish white trash alcholics predominatly raise up hoe-ish white trash alcholics.. and people who raise thier kids with some kind of value system and self respect... well they get the good kids.
way to go Joe. you da man.
sounds like good old fashioned parenting to me Joe.
Cussing is a little overrated. I don't cuss (that much
I second that, i was watching nightmare on elm street along with every other horror movie possible at the tender age of 2 I came out completely alright, if anything i know how to escape the clutches of Freddy Krueger, or how to make Jason turn into a balling little girl. They were learning experiences, but saying in class.. i said it all the time growing up along with , skank, mother er, piece of , ass, pussy, and those were all directed towards the teacher....of course they never got mad cause i was an honor student.
Sorry Batman. Not buying it.
Why wouldnt you buy it, its the truth, i cant help it, im smart and i dont even have to try
Jelly,Hi Blondie,
I'm not really questioning your husband's parenting skills (though it may seem that way) I do question the practice of mouth/soap washing in general and especially when it comes from a new step-parent that the child is adjusting to. But like I said, we didn't really have many details...just a lying 5 year old
As far as the mouth washing, I can honestly say it did me no good whatsoever and for me those memories are a little disturbing. I don't even remember what I did to set my mother off....just remember my mother totally losing it and dragging me down the hallway by my ear or scruff of my neck like a dog and forcing soap in my mouth screaming hysterically all the way and roughly scrubbing my mouth. To me that was demeaning and scary...and it happened about 6 times. And the thing is she appears to have total amnesia about all of this and denies ever doing it. I almost thought I was imagining everything but my sisters assured me it happened. So some parents (I'm not saying you and your husband, but definitely my Mom) have distorted memories of how these things affect their children.
anyway, thanks for telling us a little bit more of your story and please know that I'm really not trying to cast judgment on you or your husband.
But maybe someone reading this sees themselves in my mother and hopefully will stop before they lose too much control with their kids.
I'm sorry your mom lost control. I don't believe you should ever discipline your kids when you are out of control yourself. That's when you tell them to go to their room so you can take a few breaths and figure out the best course of action.
...2Blonde
I buy some of it. I got away with some really inappropriate behavior because of my intelligence.
exactly thats what i mean, but in elementary i had my own ISS room, it was like that scene from lock down when they put Sylvester Stallone in the hole...they kept turning on a red light fully bright making me stand up and say my whole name and my school id number
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