Bad Parenting

[spurs=bling]

I used to get the belt. That was my reason for staying in line. Belts hurt. Belts hurt a lot.

i agree.


and preach on Obi.

[adrienne]

That's ridiculous. Sure, it can be bad to say no to your child....like if the question they asked is "do you love me?". But if they're asking for a pony, are you supposed to negotiate with them? Are you kidding me?

I was told no all the time as a kid. Even though they've always had money, my parents made me work for things that I wanted but really didn't need...that doesn't mean I was deprived of anything. They taught me the satisfaction of really earning something. I didn't need to hear yes all the time to know they loved me, they showed me by being kind and supportive and by actually telling me how much they loved me...and now I love them even more for not spoiling me rotten as a child.

[spurs=bling]

"do you love me?".

i pull that one on my dad all the time

But if they're asking for a pony, are you supposed to negotiate with them? Are you kidding me?

i asked for a horse and i got one

[ObiwanGinobili]

i pull that one on my dad all the time





i asked for a horse and i got one

spoiled brat!

[spurs=bling]

spoiled brat!

hey!!

if i mess up i'll get my butt whooped

[HB22inSA]

That's ridiculous. Sure, it can be bad to say no to your child....like if the question they asked is "do you love me?". But if they're asking for a pony, are you supposed to negotiate with them? Are you kidding me?

I was told no all the time as a kid. Even though they've always had money, my parents made me work for things that I wanted but really didn't need...that doesn't mean I was deprived of anything. They taught me the satisfaction of really earning something. I didn't need to hear yes all the time to know they loved me, they showed me by being kind and supportive and by actually telling me how much they loved me...and now I love them even more for not spoiling me rotten as a child.

That's almost exactly how I was raised...

[adrienne]

Should I have mentioned that in my dad's old age (okay, not old....he's in his early forties) he's turned into a softie and has a harder time saying no to me? I was an only child until my brother was born when I was 13, and so as he saw what it was like to have a boy...and I got into my late teens...I guess he just appreciated me more and more. I'm daddy's little girl more than I was when I was a little girl, lol.

[spurs=bling]

Should I have mentioned that in my dad's old age (okay, not old....he's in his early forties) he's turned into a softie and has a harder time saying no to me?

why can't my dad be a softie with me? i guess he has to get older than 40......















joking

[ObiwanGinobili]

my dad just sucks.

his 3 fav things in the world:
1. drinking
2. feelign sorry for himself.
3. fighting with his kids liek they are his siblings and thus acting like more of a child then them.


but my mom is the bomb diggity. We affectionatly call her "drill sargent".

[spurs=bling]

my dad just sucks.

his 3 fav things in the world:
1. drinking
2. feelign sorry for himself.
3. fighting with his kids liek they are his siblings and thus acting like more of a child then them.


but my mom is the bomb diggity. We affectionatly call her "drill sargent".

lucky you , you still have your mom.

and we call our dad "drill sargent"

i would list why but that would take me a thousand years

[HB22inSA]

Should I have mentioned that in my dad's old age (okay, not old....he's in his early forties) he's turned into a softie and has a harder time saying no to me? I was an only child until my brother was born when I was 13, and so as he saw what it was like to have a boy...and I got into my late teens...I guess he just appreciated me more and more. I'm daddy's little girl more than I was when I was a little girl, lol.

They all get soft with there little daughters eventually, especially after they leave the nest...err, the house.

[Kori Ellis]

Though we don't have kids (yet), I'm all for saying "No" but I'm against spanking

[spurs=bling]

Though we don't have kids (yet), I'm all for saying "No" but I'm against spanking

well i hope you have kids soon.


i'm off for the day, going to talk to a cute guy i met today

[jcrod]

Though we don't have kids (yet), I'm all for saying "No" but I'm against spanking

Like I said I don't spank my kids and my daughter is the most behaved kid I've seen. My boy on the other hand, even at the young age of one, looks like he's going to be more than a hand full.

[ShoogarBear]

Though we don't have kids (yet), I'm all for saying "No" but I'm against spanking

Yes, you'll just be banning them for a couple of days.

[ShoogarBear]

well i hope you have kids soon.


i'm off for the day, going to talk to a cute guy i met today

Speaking for your dad, I hope there's no connection between those two statements.

[spurs=bling]

Speaking for your dad, I hope there's no connection between those two statements.

no, there is no connection

[BIG DADDY JOSH]

Obiwan......i agree with everyone on all sorts of levels but i think you missed the point of what those parents are doing with their children......it is risky because it is not the norm and it is FREAKIN hard to do..... but they are simply applying child guidance techniques on their children... granted it sounds messed at first sight AND it depends alot on how your children are......but they are teaching their children to communicate and problem solve.....you can't always not say "NO"...i think they were blowing smoke up your ass BUT....it is one parenting technique that is out there and when done properly...the results are awesome.....