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I'm only spending about $800 or so on the ring itself, not including the diamond, so if she gets it replaced, it won't be a big deal. As long as there's a big rock on it, I'm sure she'll be happy with it, right?
Well does she know you are asking her?
If not, you can't exactly tell her to browse for some selections that you can choose from.
I say, if you know your woman, you'll figure out what she'll like. I would have never wanted to pick out or change my engagement ring.
To each his own.
I'm only spending about $800 or so on the ring itself, not including the diamond, so if she gets it replaced, it won't be a big deal. As long as there's a big rock on it, I'm sure she'll be happy with it, right?
She doesn't sound at all like she wouldn't like whatever he picked out. Maybe she's like me ... I don't want to pick out my own, I want a surprise. And my mother picked out and bought my first wedding band because Loser didn't think I needed one. So trust me, I would love anything....as long as it is yellow gold and not super-gaudy. And a size 7.
And I also don't want him to feel pressured into getting me something he can't afford just to make me happy....like he probably would if I was there gawking at the $180K rings.
What Danyo sounds like he wants to get is perfect. If she wants a little more sparkly or bling-y ... she can pick out her own wedding band. Tradition doesn't require that that be a surprise, too.
She has reason to assume we're reaching a serious level in our relationship, but she has no idea I'm ready to propose. Regardless, it feels tacky for me to ask her what she wants. It would be like having her pick out her own Christmas gift. I'm glad you agree with me on that topic.
Danyo,I'm only spending about $800 or so on the ring itself, not including the diamond, so if she gets it replaced, it won't be a big deal. As long as there's a big rock on it, I'm sure she'll be happy with it, right?
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That's my philosophy!Yes, she would. You have to squeeze those to size it.
Oh wait, we're still talking about rings, aren't we?
I know for sure I HAVE to spend more on her ring, then I would on rims for my truck. Cause if I don't stick to that rule and she finds out, I won't be married for long.....
One of the sweetest things I ever heard was when two friends of mine back in Georgia got engaged. He took her out in a rowboat on the little lake at the springfed swimming pool near where we lived. No one could hear them (but we could see them), they were completely alone on the water. He got down on one knee (a couple of our guy friends said he actually had scoped the boats out and tried this beforehand to be sure he wouldn't make a fool of himself) and asked her to marry him. When she said yes, he put a bubble gum machine ring on her finger and the next day they went to pick out her diamond together. They are divorced now (after almost 25 years), and she doesn't have her engagement ring any longer, but you know what? She still has that bubble gum machine ring! Her daughter is getting married in September and she said she will give it to her to keep.
I know for sure I HAVE to spend more on her ring, then I would on rims for my truck. Cause if I don't stick to that rule and she finds out, I won't be married for long.....
"WTF?? You care more about your truck than me...!!!
I could easily see it.
Last edited by SpursWoman; 07-18-2006 at 01:02 PM.
That is sweet.
What I also think is really sweet, are that at my mom's business (which catered mostly to older people) I knew a lot of women that were very wealthy and are/had been married 40-50 years, but still insist on wearing the little 1/4 - 1/2 carat, plain old solitaire their husbands bought for them when they were just starting out and dirt-poor.
Of course, everywhere else on their person they'd have the gem equivalent to the contents of Fort Knox ... but still that little bitty thing on their left ring finger.
Well, the bubble gum machine ring was kind of an inside joke thing, anyway. The first time they went out, he put 50 cents in one of those machines coming out of the movie and got a ring, which he put on her finger. But, she lost it somewhere; we never let her forget about it, saying she was immature and irresponsible (she was and still is one of the most mature and responsible people I know). It probably wouldn't work for just anyone.That is sweet.
What I also think is really sweet, are that at my mom's business (which catered mostly to older people) I knew a lot of women that were very wealthy and are/had been married 40-50 years, but still insist on wearing the little 1/4 - 1/2 carat, plain old solitaire their husbands bought for them when they were just starting out and dirt-poor.
Of course, everywhere else on their person they'd have the gem equivalent to the contents of Fort Knox ... but still that little bitty thing on their left ring finger.
I know what you mean about the little old ladies and their little diamonds. I grew up a military brat. I knew a lot of military wives when I was growing up who had very small diamond engagement rings, or like my Mom, no engagement ring at all. A lot of the husbands tried to replace (or give the first one) after they retired, the kids were grown and gone, and they had a little more money for stuff like that. Most of them will tell you they like the original ones better. My Mom only had a slim little gold wedding band until they were married 25 years. She always thought she wanted a wide gold band. That year, on their anniversary, my Dad put a wide gold band on her plate at breakfast. She was blown away. But, just a couple of years later, she got breast cancer and had her lymph nodes removed, so they recommended she not wear any rings on that hand (causes swelling). So, she didn't wear it very long after all. She told me the other day she didn't know where it was; but she had the original one in her hand when she told me that.
Damn, now I know for SURE I have to make the first ring unforgettable...... along with the proposal.
Damn, now I know for SURE I have to make the first ring unforgettable...... along with the proposal.
(just remember, unforgettable does not necessarily equate to the most expensive or elaborate thing you can find...sometimes simple but tasteful is best)
I didn't mean unforgettable as in expensive, but thanks!
(just remember, unforgettable does not necessarily equate to the most expensive or elaborate thing you can find...sometimes simple but tasteful is best)
In divorce settlements...Jewelry, engagement rings, earnings, bracelets etc are considered HER PROPERTY...While a Harley Davidson Road King is considered YOUR PROPERTY....
Get a Harley & Call It Good...
Different perspective. My now ex bought me a more expensive engagement ring with a much more expensive diamond than I told him I wanted. I knew he was buying the ring and I had told him I wanted something small, simple, and plain. But what was I to do then? You can't tell the guy you don't want it. So I wore that thing for almost 20 years. It's a symbol of a man who gave it to me- not for me - but for how it looked to other people.
No offense, but maybe you believe that because he's your ex?
With age comes wisdom. My point is simple- get her what SHE would like and not what YOU think she SHOULD want. Respect her taste and her preferences.
And just so you know- he said those words- "but how would it look if I only got you something small?"
I did the same thing. When she said no I threw her over the side of the boat.
I know you didn't, but I wanted to stress it anyway.
Do you know off hand how much that ended up being. I just wonder about what kind of prices they have, since they "never have sales".
10k
They have plenty in all price ranges.
well that completely changes the story then......
If I was able to read her mind and know she'd be completely happy with a .00001 carat ring, then I'd get it for her. But I know if I ask her to choose, she'd go the cheap route just to be nice.
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