Long Distance Relationships

[TxJudsonRocketTx]

So TSA let me get this right, people talking about playing a computer game on a message board need to get a life, but a guy posting about his love life on the same board and giving everyone his life story is ok? hah you crack me up. Do you not have friends you can talk to or do you just prefer pouring your heart out online?

[TheSanityAnnex]

So TSA let me get this right, people talking about playing a computer game on a message board need to get a life, but a guy posting about his love life on the same board and giving everyone his life story is ok? hah you crack me up. Do you not have friends you can talk to or do you just prefer pouring your heart out online?

It's apparent you're still butthurt about getting abused in the "music for drones" thread because all you do is follow me around and try and "pwn" me. Your obsession with me is quite alarming, you've even gone as far as taking a quote of mine out of context and put it in your sig in an attempt to get back at me.

I'm simply asking for advice from people who have dealt with long distance relationships and I fail to see how that is giving people my life story. I don't have any friends who have done the long distance thing so I don't see how they would be of any use.

I didn't even tell you to "get a life", I simply commented on the guy who said he dropped out of classes because of a video game. But since you wanted to stick your head out its your turn. Get a life Judson. You were going to spend 3,000 dollars on ing computer gaming system. You complained about there not being any compe ion for you anymore on your xbox360 nba2k7 and said it made you sad, which leads me to believe you've spent A LOT OF TIME playing it. I'm guessing you also own a PS3, a Wii, and have saved every gaming system you've ever owned. I would even guess you have a "gaming chair" with attached speakers and vibrating gadgets. You are probably a Halo God, and I bet you are really excited that they are making a movie out of it too. You are a gaming nerd who needs to get a life.

And next time you want to try and "pwn" me for asking a relationship question on a message board, you may want to recall that gay ass thread you posted "a question for the womens" http://spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=46653
You posted a picture of your room and asked them if a girl would like it or not. ing pathetic. Maybe when your room doesn't look like that of a ten year old, you'll get a real girlfriend and have your own relationship questions to ask the board. Until then, stick to masturbating to anime and dreaming of Lara Croft. And quit following me around, you are only making yourself look foolish.

[TheSanityAnnex]

If you'd like to continue this, please take it to the troll forum.

[NorCal510]

So TSA let me get this right, people talking about playing a computer game on a message board need to get a life, but a guy posting about his love life on the same board and giving everyone his life story is ok? hah you crack me up. Do you not have friends you can talk to or do you just prefer pouring your heart out online?

[FromWayDowntown]

I agree that the key to making any long distance relationship work is a light at the end of the tunnel. I was in a LDR during my first year of graduate school. I was about 5 hours away from her, but she had already decided to follow me to the same school, so our relationship only really had to survive for that one year. And it basically did, though other things eventually brought the relationship to an end.

I think another facet that is terribly important to making it work is ensuring that you make time to make it work. It's easy initially, I think, to have the regular phone calls and to plan visits. What I found is that as I got entrenched at school, there was compe ion for that time -- studying, school events, social events, and things like that. I was crazy for my girl and didn't find it too terribly difficult to make the choice among those possibilities -- she always won. But I had friends going through the same thing and several of them had their LDR's crumble by making the wrong choices in that regard. I think, in many ways, the choices you make in that context are a real litmus test for your view of the relationship; if you choose her over all else, you're in the right place.

I certainly wish you luck. I envy those who've found the love of their lives.

[OldDirtMcGirt]

Yeah, I'm at ASU and there is no shortage of hot chicks out here. But I've had my share of hot chicks and am at the point in my life where that isn't what I'm after anymore. I truly believe I've found that one person that I'm willing to sacrifice everything for. It really ing sucks it took me moving to Arizona to figure that out because now I've only complicated things.

There's a point in life where you don't need hot chicks? This is an intriguing concept.

But on a serious note, the reason I bring it up is that guys (especially dudes in their early twenties) are superficial creatures. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but especially at that age it's all about the primal instinct. You got to check yourself to see if just seeing an old girl friend didn't just spark some passion and a kind of "grass is greener" type of at ude. Emotions are some tricky , and if you try to rush in unprepared they'll bite you in the ass. Especially when you're committing to somebody at an early age. Even if you think you truly believe it, there's always the decent chance you'd be wrong (it's happened to me more than once).

Personally, I'd just keep in contact, keep being good friends, and keep the relationship at that for awhile now. Make sure it isn't this weird lust type of , both of yall go on dating, and then maybe in six months or a year and you guys have still kept in touch you finish school and get back together. Getting into a long term relationship and then regretting it's a mother er, especially when you're getting into a long term relationship that you regret... and you're not getting laid. That's got killing spree written all over it.

Relationships should be fun. Yall should want to be together. It shouldn't be kidn of a struggle to keep in contact and remain faithful. The is much more natural if you keep within close proximity. Typically (in my experience) a long distance relationships keeps people tense with all of the fidelity issues, calling times, etc. It shouldn't have to be an ordeal.

[TheSanityAnnex]

There's a point in life where you don't need hot chicks? This is an intriguing concept.

There's a point where you can stop looking for hot chicks every night because you've found a hot/smart/funny chick that matches your personality.

But on a serious note, the reason I bring it up is that guys (especially dudes in their early twenties) are superficial creatures. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but especially at that age it's all about the primal instinct. You got to check yourself to see if just seeing an old girl friend didn't just spark some passion and a kind of "grass is greener" type of at ude. Emotions are some tricky , and if you try to rush in unprepared they'll bite you in the ass. Especially when you're committing to somebody at an early age. Even if you think you truly believe it, there's always the decent chance you'd be wrong (it's happened to me more than once).

When I came out here, I thought the grass was greener. There was plenty of hot, fresh booty running around the ASU campus. After testing out the waters for the last 8 months, the grass ain't that green.

Personally, I'd just keep in contact, keep being good friends, and keep the relationship at that for awhile now. Make sure it isn't this weird lust type of , both of yall go on dating, and then maybe in six months or a year and you guys have still kept in touch you finish school and get back together. Getting into a long term relationship and then regretting it's a mother er, especially when you're getting into a long term relationship that you regret... and you're not getting laid. That's got killing spree written all over it.

I've already invested four years in this relationship, and I don't regret a minute of it. If it is meant to be, it will work itself out.

[OldDirtMcGirt]

If you're already invested four years into it, then you might as well reap some profits from your investment. Good luck to you. Long Beach ain't that far away, I typically drive up to San Diego once every other week so it isn't bad.

[timvp]

But LDR with an ex?

That's selective memory, IMO.

This might end up being the best post in the thread.

[TxJudsonRocketTx]

Norcal did you like how he acted he didnt see my post?

[TxJudsonRocketTx]

Norcal said it best

Every thread I post in what do you do? I spend money on a computer because (A) I need a new one for school anyways, and (B) I play computer games as do millions of other people around the world do. So I make a thread for some help in putting it together and what do you do? Pop in to talk about it, talk about being a hypocrite. Every chance you get you to attempt to show everyone on here that you have some sort of life outside of this board, but I think everyone can see how big of a in bum you are when 10/20 of the average post you make a day are little stabs at people like "Get a life forum" anytime someone that doesnt share your interest makes a thread. Do I pop into threads about the Kings or your albino rappers to talk ? Or anyones threads for that matter just to insult them? Give me a break dude, talk about following people around. I dont own a PS3, just a 360 and the only games I really enjoy playing are NBA2K7 and Forza, so yeah most of my gaming time is spent on them. At least I do that during the day, youre on here pretty much 24/7, weekends and weekdays, and if youre not trying to talk to Norcal because he drives a girls car youre taking shots at someone else. Maybe someday I can be like you and bash people online, then make a thread where I sound like a bad 50 Cent love song. Your "owning" of me in the music for drones thread? You, e, and Norcal ( who was black at the time) basically took the same re ed stances on everything and when you pick the you want to respond to
Seriously answer the question, do you not have friends in real life that you can talk to about this personal?

[Kori Ellis]

If you'd like to continue this, please take it to the troll forum.

Exactly.

If you guys feel more manly, for whatever reason, by cutting each other down, do it in the Troll forum. This thread is for actual discussion about long distance relationships.

Thanks.

[Xolotl]

You two can do it if you're committed to each other....and yo man send me some eegees I'm going crazy here in TX without any

[Moocher]

I'll go back to the troll forum before I ruffle some feathers in here.

[mikejones99]

Leykis 101 can save your life. tune in now

[TheSanityAnnex]

Leykis preaches ing as many es as you can while you're still young, and waiting until you are older to settle down.................looks like I'm following his advice.

[TSA's LDR Girlfriend]

TSA I was surfing the web when I saw this.

How sweet of you!!!!

Let's meet up this weekend and make some plans to live together.

Don't worry honey, you shouldn't be depressed! I haven't ed any guys in California, yet.

[FearDaDuncaN_SA]

I'm getting back together with my exgirlfriend who lives in Long Beach, CA......I'm in Tempe, AZ.

I just spent the last four days with her and realized she is the one for me. We talked about our situation for hours upon hours and have both made the committment to make the trip at least once every two weeks, or once every week. She's got one more year until she's an RN and I've got about a year and a half before I'm done with school. I'm not going to lose the girl of my dreams twice, I'm determined to make it work.

What are your experiences with long distance relationships? Am I ed from the start, or is there a chance?

There's a chance. It's just going to take a lot of work because it can get pretty tough. I know! I'm speaking from experience and compared with yours, let me just tell you that you have it way easier!
For one, once upon a time, I met the guy of my dreams. He was in the Army and we were separated by hundreds and hundreds of miles!!
Between my classes, his classes and Army life, we hardly ever saw each other. But, we talked on the phone almost every single day and emailed each other quite a bit.
When things were progressing and things were starting to get way more serious, I find out that he was going to Bosnia, for 8 months!!!
I cried like a baby because I thought that time away from him was going to rip apart whatever we had going on! I was just terrified out of my mind and I didnt want to loose him.
He had felt the same way as well.
He was like," Well, I'm not going to be around for the next couple of months and you're going to forget all about me with all those college boys hanging around. This voice? Forget about because you may not hear it, but a few times a month or sometimes not at all...."

It hurt. I'm not going ot lie.
But, I told him that I didnt care. That I was a lot stronger than he thought I was.
And I was!
Trust me, we were sending microcassette tapes, back and forth, just so we could hear each other's voices.(It would take two weeks for them to get through!)
(Why didnt he call me, you ask? It was his job over there. He only got a chance to call me once a month, if he was lucky!)
And we missed out on birthdays together, some holidays and even Valentine's Day...sniffs...That was tough!
But, we loved each other.
We did the best we knew how and we made it work because sometimes, you just know that the other person is "the one."
Now, seven years of marriage later and one child together, we're still happy and content.
It's fun! I love this journey and wouldnt trade it for anything else!

It'll work.
It'll take effort.
But, it'll work if the both of you believe it's worth trying for...

GOOD LUCK!