Best place to meet single women in SA?

[Nbadan]

That's what I reckon dan, rather than the "give up and don't care" approach.

However, each tactic works for different people, and there is definitely something to the idea that you give out different vibes when "trying" to meet someone as against "not caring". Thus the 9/10 failure rate in your eg above.

that was just a theorethical rate, the point was that the more women you meet, the increased likely-hood of meeting women who are attracted to you...and I get what you mean about the 'vibes', but that's a part of making a woman feel comfortable around you in the first 5 minutes - the time it takes most women to decide whether you're a potential partner or not....

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

that was just a theorethical rate, the point was that the more women you meet, the increased likely-hood of meeting women who are attracted to you...and I get what you mean about the 'vibes', but that's a part of making a woman feel comfortable around you in the first 5 minutes - the time it takes most women to decide whether you're a potential partner or not....

Yeah, I got that about the rate being hypothetical, but it is a good point - 1/10 women might be willing to date you, but then how many of that 1/10 will you be interested in? In other words, to some extent dating is a numbers game simply because it is so rare to meet someone where the attraction is mutual, at least if you are picky like I am. I don't see the point of being in a relationship for the sake of it, only if I really genuinely dig the other person, so I have to meet a lot of women just to find a 'possible'.

Interestingly, I pretty much know whether a woman is a potential partner within the first 15 minutes too.

Melmart - yeah, I used the wrong words in "actively suppressing", I meant what you said. I get it that some people can "not look" and it just happens, but that has never been the way of things in my life (except maybe in Okinawa, where I walked off the plane and basically into the arms of my girlfriend there).

[TheSanityAnnex]

I like using nbadan's approach for getting laid. For a serious relationship though, those usually come when I least expect them.

[SpursWoman]

See, I think you got SW wrong. I don't think she actively suppressed anything, I believe what she is saying is that when you aren't looking, it just happens. That has almost always been the case for me, relationships have pretty much sprung out of nowhere, and never from a club or a bar when people are actively pursuing these things.

I've never been one of those people that have to be with someone to be happy. You don't have to be part of a couple to get laid when you want to.

I met my ex-husband at a club I had no desire to go to, but my best friend conned me into it. Surprisingly, she's still my best friend.

[CosmicCowboy]

The Salvation Army has a womens shelter right down the street from my office. That looks like such a target rich environment even TPark could probably score there