BTW, an update on Dave's situation.
He's going. He hasn't gone into any great detail, only to say that he's still battling his lovely bride on a daily basis about it. I know Janet called my mom, and sister-in-law trying to rally support for her cause, and she struck out as they told her they thought it was a good idea that this trip was happening. I gave him some of the advice you all passed on and so maybe that helped.
I think he may have taken a completely different approach and resorted to bribery. In the same breath that he told me he was going, he told me that Janet went and bought a new suv yesterday. She already drives a pretty nice car, and so I asked him if she traded that car in. He said 'nope' and then pretty quickly ended the conversation. So, by my estimate, this golf trip is costing my brother something like $35K. Oh well....I'm hoping that those four days will help restore his manhood. It's worth $35K for that.