Ouch.

[iminlakerland]

I guess I have to accept being alone. Of course I dont know how, but we'll see.

You need to be able to be happy on your own, before you get involved in a relationship. If you arent happy with who you are and life itself how can you expect to make a relationship work?

[Brutalis]

Two things.

1.) Never ask a girl how many guys she has been with before you unless you two have been together years. We're talking 4+ years. It doesn't matter, and eventually it will become an issue. Especially if you two run in the same crowd.

2.) "Honey, I kissed someone else" usually means "Honey, I slept with someone else and telling you I kissed them is a way of easing the guilt I'm feeling."

Either way, cheating is never an accident, so if you she wanted to see what it was like to kiss this person, who knows who else will draw her interest.

I'll throw in a 3.....

3.) Mom and dad were always right when they said, there are other fish in the sea. Easier said than done to just move on, but atleast try. I cheated a lot when I was 18-22. It was an ego thing and that's why it happened so often. Let's hope this girl isn't doing it for the same reason.

Either way it sucks to be in your shoes right now. Good luck, and I hope things work out with whatever you choose to do.

sigh, thanks .

[MannyIsGod]

Manny gets into the most arguments I have seen..

Liar

[iminlakerland]

denial

[MannyIsGod]

Hey dude, for what it's worth, I'm sorry and I hope it works out for you.

[Brutalis]

You need to be able to be happy on your own, before you get involved in a relationship. If you arent happy with who you are and life itself how can you expect to make a relationship work?

Try to comprehend this if you can.

Before her, I was a grade A asshole. I hated girls seeing how all my friends got screwed over it seemed. I did not, and still dont, hunt for pussy. Im not that sort of guy. I have learned to be with a girl who loves me as I her. Her mistakes are horrible and tragic but yet they happend and I have to deal with them with some righteouss sense. Which would be leaving her.

Thats where my own problem starts. I dont know how to live or what to do without her. She is everywhere I look in my house, my car, my everything. My family loved her dearly and I guess I have no choice in this but to take it or let it take me. Understand.... I have no hope right now because maybe I am just a dumb person. Or maybe millions of people would feel the same if they were in my shoes.

[Louae]

Brutalis,

You can take this and tell me to off, or appreciate the insights of someone who's been there. At 20, you don't need a girlfriend. You need to be bending over every co-ed you can get your hands on, becuase the older you get, the more difficult casual sex is to obtain.

Right now, you can go to house parties, Padre, etc and find women just looking to hook up. In a few years, you'll be buying expensive dinners and stupendous bar tabs trying to get laid. And they won't look as good then as they do now. Live it up while you can, and worry about finding that special someone when you're ready to settle down.

Of course, if you're looking to settle down now, best of luck putting this past you.

TRUER WORDS WERE NEVER SPOKEN

Listen to the man, this is the best advice you'll ever recieve. Life is short. Live it to the fullest and be sure to wrap it up.

[3rdCoast]

Manny gives good insight on a vast array of topics, which I suppose would result in a lot of disagreements which in turn leads to the arguments, however, I do enjoy all of it.

Back on topic - I hope things work out for you in this tough situation

[Brutalis]

Hey dude, for what it's worth, I'm sorry and I hope it works out for you.

Sorta easy to spot a liar now.

[iminlakerland]

ok im out of this now, i tried to put my two cents in didnt mean to offend you, i guess i dont comprehend and yes i dont know your entire situation. So hopefully things work out for you...

*backs out of topic*

[Louae]

I just dont understand what the point of posting this here was. Maybe I'm just being a , but you're not going to find some magic answer here as to what you should do considering no one knows either of you and everyone here only has your side of the story painting you as noble as (which I doubt is true).

Your best bet is to ask the magic 8 ball or take some time and make a decision.

Nope, you're just an asshole.

[Kori Ellis]

I dont know how to live or what to do without her. She is everywhere I look in my house, my car, my everything. My family loved her dearly and I guess I have no choice in this but to take it or let it take me. Understand.... I have no hope right now because maybe I am just a dumb person. Or maybe millions of people would feel the same if they were in my shoes.

You feel like this because it just happened. Now go back to my advice on taking some time. You'll be okay. Breaking up (if that's what you are going to do) sucks. Even if you don't really love the person (which I'm not saying you do/don't), it sucks. It's hard. But be strong and just take some time.

[Jekka]

Try to comprehend this if you can.

Before her, I was a grade A asshole. I hated girls seeing how all my friends got screwed over it seemed. I did not, and still dont, hunt for pussy. Im not that sort of guy. I have learned to be with a girl who loves me as I her. Her mistakes are horrible and tragic but yet they happend and I have to deal with them with some righteouss sense. Which would be leaving her.

Thats where my own problem starts. I dont know how to live or what to do without her. She is everywhere I look in my house, my car, my everything. My family loved her dearly and I guess I have no choice in this but to take it or let it take me. Understand.... I have no hope right now because maybe I am just a dumb person. Or maybe millions of people would feel the same if they were in my shoes.

One of my best friends is going through a really similar situation right now, with much the same emotions, and I can honestly say that from watching and talking with him, it does get easier. It takes a while to get back to where you're okay, but you can't allow yourself to love only once just because a relationship is over.

[Brutalis]

ok im out of this now, i tried to put my two cents in didnt mean to offend you, i guess i dont comprehend and yes i dont know your entire situation. So hopefully things work out for you...

*backs out of topic*

its over anyways.

[Brutalis]

One of my best friends is going through a really similar situation right now, with much the same emotions, and I can honestly say that from watching and talking with him, it does get easier. It takes a while to get back to where you're okay, but you can't allow yourself to love only once just because a relationship is over.

ohhh k.

[Brutalis]

You feel like this because it just happened. Now go back to my advice on taking some time. You'll be okay. Breaking up (if that's what you are going to do) sucks. Even if you don't really love the person (which I'm not saying you do/don't), it sucks. It's hard. But be strong and just take some time.

and, Blah.

[MannyIsGod]

Sorta easy to spot a liar now.

Ok, I hand you an olive branch and you call me a liar?

off dude, I made an effort and you threw it back in my face. I stand by everything I said in this thread, especially about how you are only given the side of the story that makes you come off innocent.

[Brutalis]

Ok, I hand you an olive branch and you call me a liar?

off dude, I made an effort and you threw it back in my face. I stand by everything I said in this thread, especially about how you are only given the side of the story that makes you come off innocent.

You were an asshole, then another asshole, then try to smooth it over. Then turn into an asshole again.

Uhm k.

[Brutalis]

Man, I'm telling you, every day that you wake up it hurts less and less until one day you wake up and that hurt is just gone. It will be a good when you realize that you can function normally in everyday life and the sight of her favorite movie or passing by someone on campus that wears the same perfume as she does, doesn't instantly remind you of her anymore.

I feel like thats too much to think about.

[Louae]

Man, I'm telling you, every day that you wake up it hurts less and less until one day you wake up and that hurt is just gone. It will be a good when you realize that you can function normally in everyday life and the sight of her favorite movie or passing by someone on campus that wears the same perfume as she does, doesn't instantly remind you of her anymore.

Like that advice that came out of Swingers. Damn, that was a good movie. I need to pull it out sometime and watch. It had some good laughs.

[T Park]

looks like to me Manny was giving this guy the truth and he just kept calling him an asshole.


Dont bring up a topic in here, if you dont like the answer.

Believe me, I speak from experience.

[whottt]

The main thing I gotta ask you...

Why do you care what guys she was with before you? What does it matter? You either like her or you don't...and she either wants to be with you now or she doesn't...

As for her screwing around with another guy...

Don't be a chump...

She did what she wanted to do...she didn't give a about you when she did it...she wanted to kiss this guy and she did it, was she worrying about her true love when she did it? No, she was thinking about possibly getting by ed this guy she is strongly attracted to...and it wasn't you buddy. Your little angel was seconds away from having her lips wrapped around another man's , and now she's got you feeling sorry for her...Sound like a recipe for happily ever after?



You still wanna be the nice guy?



She dissed you and ed you over...yet you are the schmuck feeling sorry for her and getting advice on a basketball message board...

Don't be a clown...this girl is turmoil and misery...she created this miserable feeling you have now...not you. And she'll suck you dry until you got nothing left and then dump you like you are garbage in your deepest misery(but she'll still want you to like her even then)

Do you want more of it? You like the feeling? You are going to get more of it.

There is no altruism in this sort of thing...if you think she's going to be eternally greatful for your benevolence in giving her a second chance...You are true chump of epic proportions...You're a nice guy...but do you want to be a nice guy so much you are willing to be a victim and chump to do it?

What she will conclude from you taking her back is that you are doormat and a sucker and she can pretty much get away with whatever she wants with you...You will never get respect doing that...you will get it even worse.

She might eventually change...but only after she gets put through the ringer with an asshole that you will never be able to be from the sounds of it...

You aren't gonna get happily ever after with this...what you will get is a woman who wants to keep the door open and is willing to indulge what ever extra-relationship desires she wants.

My advice...take the high road, shake your head in disbelief with a laugh, and kick her ass to the curb politely.

Teach her a lesson and then check back later on...


There will probably still be chance for something more in the future with her if you really want it(because no other guy is going to be able to put up with that )...but you will never get what you want with her unless she respects you...and she won't respect you if she can you over and make you a headcase just by throwing a little guilt your way.

She ed you over...you want someone who wants to be in love...not someone who goes around kissing someone just because she wants to...

You won't find it here...she's not mature enough for it.

And why are you looking so hard for a permanent relationship rigth now anyway? You aren't even in college yet...don't waste your youth trying to find something you have no control over finding and agonizing because you can't...Go out and get laid and when it's time for you to have a permanent relationship you will find it...

Until then, don't let this girl turn you into a ing fool. If you take her back...don't whine when she does it again, because you set yourself up for it.

[Brutalis]

The main thing I gotta ask you...

Why do you care what guys she was with before you? What does it matter? You either like her or you don't...and she either wants to be with you now or she doesn't...

As for her screwing around with another guy...

Don't be a chump...

She did what she wanted to do...she didn't give a about you when she did it...she wanted to kiss this guy and she did it, was she worrying about her true love when she did it? No, she was thinking about possibly getting by ed this guy she is strongly attracted to...and it wasn't you buddy. Your little angel was seconds away from having her lips wrapped around another man's , and now she's got you feeling sorry for her...Sound like a recipe for happily ever after?



You still wanna be the nice guy?



She dissed you and ed you over...yet you are the schmuck feeling sorry for her and getting advice on a basketball message board...

Don't be a clown...this girl is turmoil and misery...she created this miserable feeling you have now...not you. And she'll suck you dry until you got nothing left and then dump you like you are garbage in your deepest misery(but she'll still want you to like her even then)

Do you want more of it? You like the feeling? You are going to get more of it.

There is no altruism in this sort of thing...if you think she's going to be eternally greatful for your benevolence in giving her a second chance...You are true chump of epic proportions...You're a nice guy...but do you want to be a nice guy so much you are willing to be a victim and chump to do it?

What she will conclude from you taking her back is that you are doormat and a sucker and she can pretty much get away with whatever she wants with you...You will never get respect doing that...you will get it even worse.

She might eventually change...but only after she gets put through the ringer with an asshole that you will never be able to be from the sounds of it...

You aren't gonna get happily ever after with this...what you will get is a woman who wants to keep the door open and is willing to indulge what ever extra-relationship desires she wants.

My advice...take the high road, shake your head in disbelief with a laugh, and kick her ass to the curb politely.

Teach her a lesson and then check back later on...


There will probably still be chance for something more in the future with her if you really want it(because no other guy is going to be able to put up with that )...but you will never get what you want with her unless she respects you...and she won't respect you if she can you over and make you a headcase just by throwing a little guilt your way.

She ed you over...you want someone who wants to be in love...not someone who goes around kissing someone just because she wants to...

You won't find it here...she's not mature enough for it.

And why are you looking so hard for a permanent relationship rigth now anyway? You aren't even in college yet...don't waste your youth trying to find something you have no control over finding and agonizing because you can't...Go out and get laid and when it's time for you to have a permanent relationship you will find it...

Until then, don't let this girl turn you into a ing fool. If you take her back...don't whine when she does it again, because you set yourself up for it.

Yep. Except for the guilty . Her crap was around long before me and I think thats messed her head up. Anyways I'm leaving her one way or the other.

[JoeChalupa]

On that call...She would have lost me at o.

[E20]

I feel for you man and hope everything works out. Personally, I would never go after girls. Everybody knows they carry cooties.