Ouch.

[johnny00]

As for her screwing around with another guy...

Don't be a chump...

She did what she wanted to do...she didn't give a about you when she did it...she wanted to kiss this guy and she did it, was she worrying about her true love when she did it? No, she was thinking about possibly getting by ed this guy she is strongly attracted to...and it wasn't you buddy. Your little angel was seconds away from having her lips wrapped around another man's , and now she's got you feeling sorry for her...Sound like a recipe for happily ever after?



You still wanna be the nice guy?



She dissed you and ed you over...yet you are the schmuck feeling sorry for her and getting advice on a basketball message board...

Don't be a clown...this girl is turmoil and misery...she created this miserable feeling you have now...not you. And she'll suck you dry until you got nothing left and then dump you like you are garbage in your deepest misery(but she'll still want you to like her even then)

Do you want more of it? You like the feeling? You are going to get more of it.

There is no altruism in this sort of thing...if you think she's going to be eternally greatful for your benevolence in giving her a second chance...You are true chump of epic proportions...You're a nice guy...but do you want to be a nice guy so much you are willing to be a victim and chump to do it?

What she will conclude from you taking her back is that you are doormat and a sucker and she can pretty much get away with whatever she wants with you...You will never get respect doing that...you will get it even worse.

Rock On Whott.

That is the truth man!

You know why Brut?
Because he's speaking from experience.
It's happened to me.
And it's probably happened to a few other people on this forum. Don't let it happen to you, but it probably will because you will think you and her are different. That you have some angle that we can't see,and we don't know her like you do,or she's really sincere in her apology.

Learn the lesson from people who know.
Or learn it the hard way my friend.

And one day you can give this great advice because it happened to you too.

[Gatita]

Manny was giving good advice. Most people were. Your just not in the right state of mind at the moment. You are hurt and going through sh*t. Give it time and you will see the bigger picture. We have all been through a similiar situation. Lord knows I have had my share. Your young and though you feel it is the end of the world, it truly isn't. Life will go on, you will find someone better, and one day you will think back and say to yourself "what the f*ck was I doing with her?". You will laugh about it and be glad that things turned out the way it did. Try concentrating on what is really important to you right now, school. Get yourself together. You don't need to be worrying about others right now, especially a "girl" who is being scandalous and hurtful. Do for yourself while your young and still can. Go out, have fun, meet people. One day you will find that someone while you least expect it. I know I did.

[spurster]

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Assuming the situation set up here, it sounds like this woman is not anywhere close to being ready for a mature relationship.

[Faccia di Angelo]

I do better with music...

Dry Your Eyes Mate
-The Streets

"In one single moment your whole life can turn 'round
I stand there for a minute starin’ straight into the ground
Lookin’ to the left slightly, then lookin’ back down
World feels like it’s caved in – proper sorry frown
Please let me show you where we could only just be, for us
I can change and I can grow or we could adjust
The wicked thing about us is we always have trust
We can even have an open relationship, if you must
I look at her she stares almost straight back at me
But her eyes glaze over like she’s lookin’ straight through me
Then her eyes must have closed for what seems an eternity
When they open up she’s lookin’ down at her feet

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

So then I move my hand up from down by my side
It's shakin’, my life is crashin’ before my eyes
Turn the palm of my hand up to face the skies
Touch the bottom of her chin and let out a sigh
‘Cause I can’t imagine my life without you and me
There’s things I can’t imagine doin’, things I can’t imagine seein’
It weren't supposed to be easy, surely
Please, please, I beg you please
She brings her hands up towards where my hands rested
She wraps her fingers round mine with the softness she’s blessed with
She peels away my fingers, looks at me and then gestures
By pushin’ my hand away to my chest, from hers

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

And I’m just standin’ there, I can’t say a word
‘Cause everythin’s just gone
I’ve got nothin’
Absolutely nothin’

Tryin’ to pull her close out of bare desperation
Put my arms around her tryin’ to change what she’s sayin’
Pull my head level with hers so she might engage in
Look into her eyes to make her listen again
I’m not gonna in’, just in’ leave it all now
‘Cause you said it'd be forever and that was your vow
And you’re gonna let our things simply crash and fall down
You’re well out of order now, this is well out of town
She pulls away, my arms are tightly clamped round her waist
Gently pushes me back and she looks at me straight
Turns around so she’s now got her back to my face
Takes one step forward, looks back, and then walks away

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

I know in the past I’ve found it hard to say
Tellin’ you things, but not tellin’ straight
But the more I pull on your hand and say
The more you pull away

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now."

I think its for the best if you move on, as painful as that is. I'm sorry