Cheating On Your GF/ BF

[Trill Clinton]

So you'd be fine with your woman staying with you and ing someone else?

i'd like her to tell me my sex game is wack before she decides to have sex with someone else.

[mrsmaalox]

i'd like her to tell me my sex game is wack before she decides to have sex with someone else.

Yea that would be the ideal. But if she didn't and just went and did someone else?

btw, I've had that "your sex game is wack" conversation and I know someone else who has done it too, and in both cases it was not received well

[FkLA]

Being honest isn't morally correct?

Sure, honesty itself is but what she is being honest about/her actions afterwards completely trump that.

I have had a couple relationship ships end, though, because I realized I wanted to someone else and I said so.

WTF is this supposed to mean then? This doesn't sound anything like your last post tbh.

[CuckingFunt]

i'd like her to tell me my sex game is wack before she decides to have sex with someone else.

That only works if a whack sex game is the reason she wants to get with someone else. It isn't always.

[Trill Clinton]

As do I. Which is why I've never done that.

I have had a couple relationship ships end, though, because I realized I wanted to someone else and I said so.

so this doesn't mean you broke up because you wanted to someone else?

[The Gemini Method]

I wonder, with the advance of social networking and whatnot, the rate of how many people have cheated...would it be half or something less?

[CuckingFunt]

WTF is this supposed to mean then? This doesn't sound anything like your last post tbh.

It means exactly what it says. I've expressed an interest in someone outside of the relationship, and that fact caused the end of the relationship. It doesn't say I left anyone or that I was heartless/callous in the way I expressed my feelings, or any of that. That's all you and a few others have assumed.

[CuckingFunt]

so this doesn't mean you broke up because you wanted to someone else?

It means the relationship ended because I wanted to someone else. There's a difference.

[Trill Clinton]

Yea that would be the ideal. But if she didn't and just went and did someone else?

btw, I've had that "your sex game is wack" conversation and I know someone else who has done it too, and in both cases it was not received well

if i found out, we break up. if i never find out...i dunno.

[FkLA]

It means exactly what it says. I've expressed an interest in someone outside of the relationship, and that fact caused the end of the relationship. It doesn't say I left anyone or that I was heartless/callous in the way I expressed my feelings, or any of that. That's all you and a few others have assumed.

you can express it as nicely as you want but that won't change the fact that you ended a relationship with someone you love to someone you don't. You really think being honest about it gives you a moral pass?

[FkLA]

It means the relationship ended because I wanted to someone else. There's a difference.

Same ing thing. You can't sugarcoat something like that tbh

[leemajors]

FkLA sounds like a person who throws a fit when his girl says she thinks someone other than him is attractive tbh

[mrsmaalox]

if i found out, we break up. if i never find out...i dunno.

Yep. I don't even know for sure if we'd break up. Sexual transgressions aren't as important to me as emotional ones are.

[FkLA]

FkLA sounds like a person who throws a fit when his girl says she thinks someone other than him is attractive tbh

Yeah that is exactly me tbh.

white knight

[leemajors]

Yeah that is exactly me tbh.

white knight

You being stupid = me white knighting?

[FkLA]

You being stupid = me white knighting?

The action afterwards doesn't trump her being honest? I guess from now on I can get away with immoral as long as I'm honest about them beforehand.

[ChumpDumper]

Some incredibly insecure males here.

[CosmicCowboy]

Some incredibly insecure males here.

yep Kool on the right

[leemajors]

The action afterwards doesn't trump her being honest? I guess from now on I can get away with immoral as long as I'm honest about them beforehand.

What action? The relationship ending and her hooking up with someone else, if that even happened? What is immoral about that?

[CuckingFunt]

you can express it as nicely as you want but that won't change the fact that you ended a relationship with someone you love to someone you don't.

If I'm up front at the start (and all subsequent stages) of a relationship about the fact I don't value/require physical monogamy, about the fact I like to meet and flirt with new people, about the fact I like physical intimacy (not necessarily ing, but also hugging and snuggling) even in my platonic friendships, and about the fact all of this can/may lead to my wanting to to sleep with someone else, then someone deciding to enter into a relationship with me even in light of this information should know full well what they're getting into. If/when they then decide to end the relationship because a situation I've prepared them for actually happens, it's absolutely not the same thing as me leaving someone to go someone else.

You really think being honest about it gives you a moral pass?

Basically, yes.

Absolute physical/sexual monogamy doesn't work for a lot of people. I've recognized over time that it doesn't work, and even more importantly, isn't necessary for me. Disclosing that information and defining a relationship structure that works for both people in a relationship, and sticking to it, is in my opinion absolutely the mature and moral course of action.

[Trill Clinton]

let me get this straight. you're in a relationship with someone and out of the blue, you decide to break up because you want to /get into another relationship with someone else...how is that not wack and considered cheating? developing feelins for someone else while still in a relationship isn't cheating?

[ChumpDumper]

I cheat on my girlfriend because I love her so much!

[FkLA]

What action? The relationship ending and her hooking up with someone else, if that even happened? What is immoral about that?

You serious, bro? Shes single because she purposely ended a relationship with someone she loved so she could . If the relationship simply ran its course, shes single and she hooks up then cool nothing wrong with that. We know thats not the case though (her words), stop white knighting tbh.

[The Gemini Method]

I'll say this about cheating... It seems like everyone is ing everyone these days. Swingers, Cheating, Gay Sex, horse sex, did you know I hear you can legally rape a rock because the rock "can't say no".

I think it is not more prevalent per se--but it is exposed more as more and more flaunt their indiscretions and people are more likely to expose their feelings when affected by a partner's infidelities. There are also more social networking and dating sites with the guise of 'finding' true love when its really a meat market and a place to get a quick . The other things like banging a rock...well, I don't know if I even know how to begin to answer that.

[Creepn]

If I'm up front at the start (and all subsequent stages) of a relationship about the fact I don't value/require physical monogamy, about the fact I like to meet and flirt with new people, about the fact I like physical intimacy (not necessarily ing, but also hugging and snuggling) even in my platonic friendships, and about the fact all of this can/may lead to my wanting to to sleep with someone else, then someone deciding to enter into a relationship with me even in light of this information should know full well what they're getting into. If/when they then decide to end the relationship because a situation I've prepared them for actually happens, it's absolutely not the same thing as me leaving someone to go someone else.



Basically, yes.

Absolute physical/sexual monogamy doesn't work for a lot of people. I've recognized over time that it doesn't work, and even more importantly, isn't necessary for me. Disclosing that information and defining a relationship structure that works for both people in a relationship, and sticking to it, is in my opinion absolutely the mature and moral course of action.

That's pretty ed up tbh. A lot of people, and probably the ones that wanted a relationship with you aren't wired that way. There is a high chance they will fall in love with you but it's ok because you laid out "ground rules". In reality you're just using her/him though.

You are just asking to get killed by a craze lovesick lesbian.