Yes. That's what it was. It wasn't abuse. By all accounts, he just made a mistake. His wife did too. He's not a horrible human being just for snapping and responding badly after repeated provocations. I think she has every right to be pissed at the media spinning this out of control, especially if she knows that she played a bigger role than people assign to her. She obviously hit him first (in the video), and she may well have been physical with him previously. There's no way that anyone who does that SHOULD feel like they're a victim. Yet, the media completely disregarded her own agency in the ordeal. They turned her into a victim to make Rice into a monster. That is the media's fault, not Rice's nor Palmer's.
Ray deserved his punishment (not to this extent, but still) for overreacting and using dangerous force. However, Palmer was not a victim just because she's weaker. I simply don't think it's fair for people to call this DA when there are legit cases where one family member actually does abuse a person who's not fighting back or even doing anything wrong. Ray has done a lot of good in the community. To be compared to OJ Simpson, for people to say that he was did was worse than that Hernandez did, is completely baseless.
As far as the elevator thing goes, I don't think it was that bad. It looked creepy, but it made much more sense to take her out of the elevator than it did to leave her in there. Elevators move, after all. I don't know why he didn't carry her out, but maybe he was too drunk.