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Do they have a cure for AIDS yet?
If the only thing that matters is an orgasm than maybe masturbation is the answer.
Do they have a cure for AIDS yet?
Actually ... I thought about this a lot last night and it became even more disturbing to me. I couldn't afford to have another child on my own...I'm already raising two that my ex-husband refuses to pay a dime for (you know, just like jcrod would do) ... my daycare alone in the summer is over $900/month, how the could I survive another $5-600/mo for an infant? I don't qualify for any government assistance at all, unless I had triplets then I might a little bit ... but I'd lose my house, no question...my car really doesn't have that much longer to go...so when it finally dies I'd be totally FUBAR'd.
And he'd just get to walk away without having any liability at all? Man...what a ing deal that'd be for you guys. That seriously makes me not want to have sex ever again until either my insurance covers voluntary hysterectomies or I can save up enough to pay for one myself....because the only birth control that's 100% effective is abstinence or not having the equipment to make one...and to if I'm going to put myself in the position for whoever to be able to just leave without recourse if something like that ever happened and he decided he didn't want it or the responsibility that comes with it...with the law behind him. I mean, my ex-husband used to tell me all of the time that he loved me and would never leave me hanging...so even committed relationships aren't enough to make sure any child I might have has a roof over its head. You never know how someone will react to that second little line turning pink until it actually happens. And adoption or abortion aren't choices for me.
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Last edited by SpursWoman; 03-10-2006 at 11:19 AM.
Got dammit! Just let those li'l varmints live outdoors! And their mother, too!
They won't even have to live outdoors. Once the man walks out the door they all just cease to exist...just like me and my two don't really exist. To make his life easier, of course. Because that's the only important thing.
SpursWoman, I feel your pain. There but for the grace of God...and all that.
But, for those who think all the responsibility should be on the man...and those who think all the responsibility should be on the woman (the "other" one, whatever the case)...the bottom line is...there is no one, (no one!) on this earth that a person can totally, 100% trust...except themselves - no one you can rely on 100% of the time except YOU. So...if you want to have sex and you don't want to be a parent, be responsible yourself, don't depend on someone else. And if you screw up, or there is just an unavoidable accident, be a man...or a woman...and take care of your responsibility and quit ing about it. That's all I'm saying.
Well, that's the last time I'm having sex.
I think they should make it simple. All the responsibility of the child should come down to whoever was on top
I'll do you one better. Now I think we can all agree that an equal share of the burden of raising the child should be on the mother and father. However, nature provides us an ingenious solution. The child is already genetically equal parts of the mother and father. So if the child is forced to raise itself then technically each parent is bearing an equal load while neither has any real responsibility.
That logic is so airtight you could build a submarine from it.
At what point? Don't you ever change positions, mid-stream, so to speak?
My opinion is that even in the heat of the moment some thinking has to take place. I personally assume that every sexual encounter will lead to a baby. Is that reality? No. That mindset forces me to remove alcohol from impairing my judgement and to ask myself before anything happens 'Am I willing to be a parent at the end of the night?'. It takes a split second, nothing more. And if the answer is no, our night only goes so far. This is from having a father, while I was conceived and born in wedlock, disappear for three years after my parents divorced. I couldn't do that to a child of mine. Now what the mother does - that's an entirely different story and something I have had to face in my life. But for my part, before I go to bed, I commit to that kid that doesn't exist. It's just a part of the responsibility of sex.
I'm just as strict about test results. It is the ultimate mood killer not to show them. This is why I'm not big on one-night stands. Because it does kill the mood to ask 'hey, do you have herpes?' But somewhere between our first kiss and past relationships, I show up with my tests and ask for hers. Our generation knows too much not to be careful, no matter our baser instincts.
As you can see, I'm not one for sex outside of a relationship. In fact, I am no fun at all.
As for this guy - it's my opinion that if he is the father of this child, he should just accept that it's as much his responsibility as it is hers. Her decision to have the abortion or not is independant from the life of this child. Don't compound a mistake in judgement with another error. His chance to weigh in was the night they had sex.
Last edited by Darrin; 08-15-2006 at 06:10 AM.
is it true when talkin on the telephone with ur GF, she can get pregnant?
In the words of my father, "A man who is not willing to take responsibility for his child is not a man".
is it true when talkin on the telephone with ur GF, she can get pregnant?
Only if while on the phone with you, there's another guy there with her in your business...so to speak.
Only if while on the phone with you, there's another guy there with her in your business...so to speak.
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