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Well, I'm going up to Boston this weekend from thurs-saturday to check out Northeastern.
Duncan228 & Kyle congrats. to you both!!! And Kyle do you love the Spurs & Duncan as much as your Mom?
Exciting times, cherish your family
Well, I'm going up to Boston this weekend from thurs-saturday to check out Northeastern.
Please don't take this the wrong way, because I'm NOT having a go at you or parents in general, just making an observation. It always amazes me how much a person's outlook changes once they have a child. I've seen it happen to all of my friends who have had kids, and it's just as pewee describes above.
There's a lot of psych literature out there that says a switch is turned on in the brain that basically rewires a person's priorities once they become a parent (ie. child first, everything else distant second). Makes evolutionary sense.
I'm 33 and so single and set in my ways that I doubt I'll have a child, and that saddens me, but it's all about finding the right woman, and she hasn't materialised yet... actually, she probably did but I didn't marry her, fool that I am. Oh well, live and learn.
I have a question for the parents out there - I really like kids over about 5 years of age, although not so much babies. Does that change when you become a parent?
Your own kids are wonderful at every age---other people's not so much. Your own kids just get more and more awesome but there are definitely good and bad points with every year of age.
You change when you become a parent because you have to become less selfish. It is fascinating to seem them change every day...especially when they hit their milestones.
However, some parents tend to make their life all about their children and tend to forget to have a life of their own and that's sad. It can be very easy to forget who you are. I've know a lot of people who wouldn't go anywhere without their kids.
Honestly, babies are the easy part. Once they hit 2-3 and start talking back is when you sometimes wonder why you wanted to become a parent.And don't get me started on the teenage years.
Ruff, I think it does.
The child is yours, there's no way to really describe what that does to you.
Like you said in your post, everything changes.
You have this tiny, dependent, person that you've brought into this world.
I never knew the feeling that I would throw myself in front of a train to save someone until I became a parent.
It's deep inside, primal.
In my experience, every stage has prepared me in some way for the next stage. Pregnancy to birth, crawling to walking, going to kindergarten and now, to college.
Nature is an amazing force. The bond a parent has with a child is part of that power.
You're who you were before becoming a parent, but you're so much more.
Hope that helps somehow.
Thank you for the comments, ladies.
You've made me feel more at ease about not being into babies, however I wonder if I've left it too late for my own children. I've lived alone for 8 years now, and the thought of living with anyone gives me bad shivers. Only a truly special woman can change that I guess. Where the is she?
I think I may just be one of those people who lives a solitary life. Maybe it's time to get used to that idea.
Even if the kid is yours, there is no guarantee that you will bond with that child. That's why there are a lot of ty parents in the world.Thank you for the comments, ladies.
You've made me feel more at ease about not being into babies, however I wonder if I've left it too late for my own children. I've lived alone for 8 years now, and the thought of living with anyone gives me bad shivers. Only a truly special woman can change that I guess. Where the is she?
I think I may just be one of those people who lives a solitary life. Maybe it's time to get used to that idea.
I'm am not one that thinks everybody needs to be a parent.
Ditto. While I personally know some amazing parents, there are a lot of people out there that have kids for the wrong reasons, and it ends up getting taken out on the kids. If it's something you feel like is meant to happen to you, then things will work themselves out
We're all pretty excited, it's a milestone kind of event.
He's still waiting on other schools, but this was really cool to get.
Just wanted to share with my ST family.Cool
Pedo perv.
Seriously, Ruff . . . I never thought I'd be into the whole baby scene.
It's one of the coolest parts of my day when I wake up and see her sleeping. When I get home from work, I'm just waiting for her to come home so I can hang with her.
She even watches the Spurs games with me without much complaining. I just prop her up on a pillow on the couch and she watches the game with me.
It's the coolest thing ever.
The teenage thing, however . . . I don't think I'm looking forward to that.
You are so right. I feel really bad for kids whose parents stay together "for the kids". The kid always knows and always feels responsible for their parents lack of happiness. I was the accidental product of 2 people who had nothing in common and really didn't like each other much. But they felt they had to do the "right thing" and make it work. It's too much for a kid to have to deal with, and it took about 35 years for me to FINALLY get that there was NOTHING I could do to change it and make everyone happy.
Thanks for all the congrats.
It's so weird with ST.
I got big, good news, and after our immediate family, sharing it with ST was my first thought.
ST does feel like home to me and you guys are the large, extended, and sometimes strange family.
heh, even though im new, i sorta feel the same connection. Good bunch over all we got here, even the knuckleheads...
Congratulations again btw...and sorry im late to the party
There is a connection Soul Patch, there really is. ST is a special place.
Thanks for the well wishes.
These are the people(mostly moms) that I hate the most. Every convo is about their kids. Whip out baby pics at the bar. Talk to me about dumb their kid does and how special little Taylor/Connor is.
I don't have the heart to tell them that their kid is butt ing ugly and more than likely a complete dip .
I don't know what's weirder; posting on the same board as your son or thinking you have some sort of real connection with Spurstalk?
This thread is full of all sorts of strange .
I know, right?
That's really ing cute of you.
Actually Duncan228 is probably the finest person here.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
She may very well be, I didn't say she wasn't. I'm just saying it's weird.
Now y'all are just ganging up on me.
I would never gang up on katy. Katy rocks my socks off.
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