You're right about one thing, I don't understand the military.
Man, we shouldn't allow straight guys in the military either, because all they want to do is women!!!!!!!!
#1 I shouldn't have to trust ANYONE with my sexuality, because it's none of their business.
#2 My sexuality is part of me, but it is not a defining characteristic of how well I do in the military.
#3 Did you ever think the reason they didn't tell anyone was because of the stupid policy that gets them kicked out if they do?
#4 What difference does it make who wants to who, as long as they do their job?