Real Women

[Kori Ellis]

This all sounds really great, but... when I look at quite a few threads posted in this forum referring to women as " es", male-centric lists that say women who like sports have to be on probation to prove it, plus the many threads started about half-naked women that someone would "hit", I'm afraid that I've lost faith.

Don't take The Club so seriously. Besides, you are really beautiful (inside and out). Men would be honored to "hit" it .. and settle down with you.

[Spurminator]

Honestly, it's not that men don't share some of the blame, but I think there's definitely a vicious cycle just among women when it comes to perception of what a woman should look like. It's not just Maxim that shows unrealistic images of women... It's the Cosmos, the Vogues, the Seventeens, the Peoples... Many of these publications are run by women, and they are most certainly purchased by women.

It seems to me that women judge the appearance of other women more than men do... Am I alone in that observation?

[bigzak25]

Don't take The Club so seriously. Besides, you are really beautiful (inside and out). Men would be honored to "hit" it .. and settle down with you.

no joke.



and I can only speak for myself, but i post in the Club like i would talk with my buddies...so sure, chauvenism comes out, but i guarantee you that i wouldn't be married if i didn't respect, honor, and cherish the woman i have at home and respect women i meet in general.

for example, i would never take it upon myself to pull a g-string to insert money,
i always respect the dancer and let her decide where she wants her cash.


in all seriousness though, you ladies make this board fun.

and i don't think it's a secret to anyone here that sex sells. it's all about making the cash. Hot girls move product. Movies, magazines, whatever. That's reality.

[Spurminator]

To continue that thought... When I'm out with my wife, we occasionally see a woman who is probably a bit overweight and underdressed. I usually don't even think twice about it, but it drives my wife crazy... Especially if any part of the belly/hips are hanging over the top edge of the pants.

[SpursWoman]

It's not just Maxim that shows unrealistic images of women... It's the Cosmos, the Vogues, the Seventeens, the Peoples... Many of these publications are run by women, and they are most certainly purchased by women.

It seems to me that women judge the appearance of other women more than men do... Am I alone in that observation?

How many signatures and avatars of ripped abs, cut thighs, and a 10 inch bouncing around do YOU have to scroll through if you want to read a thread?


If it weren't such a big deal for men, it wouldn't be such a big deal for women.

[bigzak25]

To continue that thought... When I'm out with my wife, we occasionally see a woman who is probably a bit overweight and underdressed. I usually don't even think twice about it, but it drives my wife crazy... Especially if any part of the belly/hips are hanging over the top edge of the pants.

see now that's funny, cuz i would think that a woman seeing another woman like that would praise that fact that that girl obviously does not care what anyone thinks...or are they just embarrassed for her?

[SWC Bonfire]

How many signatures and avatars of ripped abs, cut thighs, and a 10 inch bouncing around do YOU have to scroll through if you want to read a thread?

Ga a hasn't posted in a while.

[JoeChalupa]

I thank God all the time that my wife didn't choose me for my "looks" or else she wouldn't have given me the time of day.
I was an "acquired" taste and it was my personality and sense of humor, although some of you have have met me will have their doubts, that was the reason for her saying "yes" to a second date and the rest is history.
But I must admit that it was her looks that first attracted me to her but that was just icing on the cake.

I also agree with Jekka. It wasn't until I broke out of my shyness that I started making more headway with women and was surprised that women who I used to think were "out of my league" would actually go out with me.

[SWC Bonfire]

This thread is silly. Sounds like some people want reassurance that they are attractive to society. From what pictures I have seen of GTG's, the women of this forum don't have anything to worry about, let it go.

[SpursWoman]

or are they just embarrassed for her?

my favorite quote of all time happens to come from my mom:



"Just because they make a bikini in a size 52, doesn't mean you have to buy one!"




If I say anything it's definitely because I'm embarrassed for her. Some things just don't look good on some people and the denial can't possibly be that bad.

[timvp]

To add to what Spurschick said.

One thing I cannot stand is when a guy (or girl, but most likely a guy ) will be with their SO and comment and/or stare at some chick that walks by right in front of them.

Kori looks at every chick that walks by. She stares them down from head to toe. 100 times out of a 100, she notices a girl before I do.

She'll be like "Wow, that girl has awesome clothes/ s/legs/hair/makeup/skin/teeth!" Or she'll say something like "Look how tacky that girl is, I can't believe she's wearing that!" She's an equal opportunity observer.

Me, on the other hand, I couldn't tell you the difference between Jessica Simpson, Carmen Electra, Jessica Alba or any of the other girls that most guys drool after. If you show me a picture of a "hot chick", there's about a 1% chance I could name them.

I don't know why, but I've always been like that. Famous girls that guys adore have never fazed me.

But before I get praised for my views, I have to say that my point of view was probably due to the fact that I always thought that females were beneath me (pre-marriage of course ). A chick on the screen was the same as a chick in real life, I didn't really care more than that. It was just a game ().

Luckily, I'm married to the best wife in the world. She's perfect. She even goes as far as giving me the "chick report" whenever we go out.

[SpursWoman]

This thread is silly. Sounds like some people want reassurance that they are attractive to society. From what pictures I have seen of GTG's, the women of this forum don't have anything to worry about, let it go.

If you don't like the thread, by all means quit opening it. It's an issue that affects the majority of women...how fortunate for you to be above it all.

[Kori Ellis]

She'll be like "Wow, that girl has awesome clothes/ s/legs/hair/makeup/skin/teeth!" Or she'll say something like "Look how tacky that girl is, I can't believe she's wearing that!" She's an equal opportunity observer.

I think the thing that I say the most is, "Damn, that girl's s are HUGE!" and then LJ says, "They are??" and then I say, "LOOK!"

But I honestly am not noticing it out of jealousy or wanting to look like them. I've actually never looked at another girl in my life (real or in a magazine) and thought "Oh, I wish I looked like that." I have wanted to improve myself .. but not based on how anyone else looks. I just like to look at people. Especially tacky ones -- how some people dress to go out is amazing to me

[Spurminator]

How many signatures and avatars of ripped abs, cut thighs, and a 10 inch bouncing around do YOU have to scroll through if you want to read a thread?

Well, like I said, men certainly share the blame.

I do think there's a difference... Sure, men like gorgeous women. But they're ornaments. We realize they're a fantasy, and I don't think there's very many of us who expect women to try to look like Jessica Alba. Most of us, except for drunken frat boys in Cancun for Spring Break, would be too intimidated by someone like that to even approach them.

Women, on the other hand, barrage themselves with magazines that basically TELL them how they're supposed to dress/look. Do you agree?

[Shelly]

This thread is silly. Sounds like some people want reassurance that they are attractive to society. From what pictures I have seen of GTG's, the women of this forum don't have anything to worry about, let it go.

I don't think so.

Besides, I'd hit myself!

[timvp]

Oh and before I forget, some of my fellow males in this thread are getting a bad rap. How many of you girls would think different of Tony Parker, Manu Ginobili or Rasho Nesterovic if they worked at McDonalds? I'm guessing that there wouldn't be as many women fawning over them.








P.S.

With Rasho, it's probably more a question of "when" than "if".

[SpursWoman]

We realize they're a fantasy, and I don't think there's very many of us who expect women to try to look like Jessica Alba.

But WE want to be your fantasy, dammit!!

[samikeyp]

I don't think so.

Besides, I'd hit myself!

and I would pay good money to see that!

[SpursWoman]

P.S.

With Rasho, it's probably more a question of "when" than "if".

[tekdragon]

But WE want to be your fantasy, dammit!!

Do you make tortillas? Because you might already be!

[PM5K]

Don't take The Club so seriously. Besides, you are really beautiful (inside and out). Men would be honored to "hit" it .. and settle down with you.

Oh yeah, and most of the time we just say it to be funny.

[SpursWoman]

Do you make tortillas? Because you might already be!

I just laughed water up my nose....thanks.

[angel_luv]

I would think Rasho was cute even if he worked at McDonalds. My baby can wear a cap! = ) Besides I would love being able to see him all the time.


Seriously though. Looks are not the determining factor for me when it comes to guys who work fast food jobs.

A part of me feels that working at McDonalds is a starter job and that someone Rasho's age so either be managing the store, in college, or working a job where there is the possibility of a grown up future.

On the other hand, I know that working at Mcdonalds is hard, honest, and necessary work.

I thought I was right to not want to date a guy who works at McDonalds. But maybe that just makes me a snob.

[Shelly]

I think the thing that I say the most is, "Damn, that girl's s are HUGE!" and then LJ says, "They are??" and then I say, "LOOK!"

But I honestly am not noticing it out of jealousy or wanting to look like them. I've actually never looked at another girl in my life (real or in a magazine) and thought "Oh, I wish I looked like that." I have wanted to improve myself .. but not based on how anyone else looks. I just like to look at people. Especially tacky ones -- how some people dress to go out is amazing to me

Which is exactly why I love watching What Not To Wear! Especially the British version!

[angel_luv]

What I like about the American "What Not to Wear" ( have not seen Brit one) is that they stress people dressing in a way that flatters THEIR body type. People ARE PUT in clothes that are tRUe to their style in an age appropriate way.