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I still haven't cheated.
I've been tempted... oh yes.
but never did it.
You need to come to grips with reality. Just about all dudes cheat if they can. I'm assuming you're a chick and that is why you don't know this.
I still haven't cheated.
I've been tempted... oh yes.
but never did it.
No. Not all dudes cheat.
If the right cir stances come about you will.
Maybe not all, but it's over 90%.
Every single one of my married buddies has cheated.
That's fine, just don't say ALL men cheat.
I know it's a fine line but It seemed OK to me at the time since they were all hitting on me and not the other way around.
My wife would have to stop loving me and stop giving me sex, which would mean our marriage is over anyway.
other than that, i wouldn't
Misguided though it may be, that's where I'm at currently. Plus, I've come to the conclusion that marriage is unnecessary to begin with. There's really nothing I can think of that you can get with the contract that is marriage that you can't get with a non-married, committed relationship.
But, that's just my opinion. If marriage works for other people, excellent.
That's because in human culture, we have traditions and we copy cat each other.
Marriage has become a caricature of what it really is at it's core. People just assume marriage is the 'next logical step' when you 'love' someone.
A lot of people don't really sit down for self-reflection. About themselves, who they are, what they REALLY want out of life, what are their priorities, reflect on their relationship, their compatibility with their partner, their goals,
do they have self-control and conquered the primal flesh, are they determined to make the marriage work, no matter what.......
A lot of people don't think about this. They just monkey-see monkey-do and jump into marriage because it's the normal thing to do when you believe you are really in love and want to stay with that person.
Me. 100%.
Attachment.
Marriage is a societal, financial, familial, and legal recognition of your union.
You now both are responsible for each other, by law, by friends and family, through finances, etc...
Non-marriage couples can end *just like that* at the snap of a finger and it's like nothing ever happened.
There's nothing holding the two of you together. No ties financially, heck, the woman might not even tell her family about you.
That sounds like a minus, not a plus.
I know it's 100% of all men are tempted, and would LOVE to that girl they have their eye on,
but some of them would never want to actually do it.
Personally, some women I see in some pictures can get the 'wide eyed look' out of me, like "woah..." you know,
that's normal.
the problem is some guys actually act on it.
X2............... In my first marriage (FAILED), I was at a bar with my buddies...........5 of us. We were at a happy hour after work. I was the only one at the table that was married (had my wedding ring on)............this girl comes over and starts talking to me. I kept trying to push her off to my boys..........but she was persistant. To make a long story short, she walked me to my car at the end of lots of drinks and I ended up kissing her and squeezing her tiggos in my car. Well she gave me her number and I got hers, and I took off for home.......... half way home I started to get a more clear head. I opened my sunroof and threw her number out. Early the next morning at 4am, my cellphone rings.....right next to our bed!!! It was ol girl saying how much fun she had...........I quietly whispered to NOT call me again. I was married and made a mistake by trying to talk to her. I never heard from her again.Damn that was a close one, but I did say NO to carrying on an affair.
So, those things don't happen in a marriage? Married people don't keep their finances/income/assets separate while married? Rare, maybe, but it does exist.
You can have joint accounts with someone with whom you're not married. You can be responsible for someone else, and they you, without the contract. You can have the personal commitment without the legal one. Just because it's sanctioned by a local, state, or federal seal doesn't necessarily make it better.
I'm guessing you haven't been married for very long.
75% of men cheat.
50% of women cheat.
We ALL KNOW that EVERYONE and every single couple goes through troubled times.
It's going to happen, right?
Well, what if the non-married woman got stressed out one day, freaks out, and makes a mistake. " it, I can't take this anymore, ahhh, I'm leaving"
Then later, she regrets it.... but it might be too late. You broke the man's heart, etc...
However, when married, it forces you to calm the down and you can't just make a rash decision like leaving, because of the ties together.
So, it can help you to remember : We are together, and we should make it work
7 years
Obviously I would love to the #(#*# out of some women I see
but I would never do it
Everyone feels the temptations, that's normal for both men and women.
I believe its getting more even.........I see many more women cheat than ever now.
There are some women out there who target married men. It's a challenge to obtain something that really isn't yours. Know what I'm saying?X2............... In my first marriage (FAILED), I was at a bar with my buddies...........5 of us. We were at a happy hour after work. I was the only one at the table that was married (had my wedding ring on)............this girl comes over and starts talking to me. I kept trying to push her off to my boys..........but she was persistant. To make a long story short, she walked me to my car at the end of lots of drinks and I ended up kissing her and squeezing her tiggos in my car. Well she gave me her number and I got hers, and I took off for home.......... half way home I started to get a more clear head. I opened my sunroof and threw her number out. Early the next morning at 4am, my cellphone rings.....right next to our bed!!! It was ol girl saying how much fun she had...........I quietly whispered to NOT call me again. I was married and made a mistake by trying to talk to her. I never heard from her again.
That's exactly my point. If you feel you "can't take it anymore", going back for more simply because you're legally bound is, in my opnion, foolish.
If the only thing forcing you to calm down is the ties of a contract and not the ties of your own personal commitments, then maybe you shouldn't be with that person.
EDIT: Typo
plus, who the says marriage is for everyone
it's not like it's supposed to be 'normal'
what I don't get, is why some people like Tiger Woods get married so early
they should just stay single for a while until they are GENUINELY BORED of it
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