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Ha! I just told my kid no!
let me say ahead of time that I'm sure everyone will have an opinion on this topic and your all welcome to it. I won;t apologize for mine and I'd love to hear yours.
ok, lets get to it.
Normaly I could give a rats ass how other people raise thier kids....some people spank, sopme don't. Fine.
Some people have bedtimes for the kiddos , some don't. Fine.
Some people have timeouts , some don't. (I've actually recieved verbal tongue lashings from people trying to save my daughter form the "horrors" of a timeout)Fine. Fine Fine Fine. Whatever , it;s your kid not mine.
BUT - this thing I ran into recently has got my head spinning. Get this: I actually spent time iwht a group of parents who don;t belive in using the word no.
They will not tell thier children NO.
One of the ladies said that her 8year old regualry asks for cookies beofre dinner.. "Instead of denying him I ususally make a compromise like he can have 2 cookies now and 2 on his dinner plate, that way he knows there are always options" huh???
some other examples of what I was told that day:
" if Hunter (yes the kids name is hunter) is told NO then he'll stop striving and trying. We don;t want to hamper his creativity"
"If it's not convienant for the fami;ly for Susan to sleep over her friends - we don't say NO.. instead we'll suggest that she do so on another night or that her friend can sleep over at our house. It requires alot of compromise on our part but it;s worth it to ensure a communicative relationship with her" She's 11 btw.
"Instead of telling Felix NO we try to distract him from what he is doing or what he is getting into" Felix is 2. Apparently this applies to things like drawing on the walls with crayon, pullign the cats tail, throwing food or cups, adn hitting his younger sister.
I'm an admitadly new parent and i usually ask other parents for ideas and such to help me form our "plan" for raising out kids..... but I'm sorry:
what kinda ball-less dr phil pussy parents are these??
how can you not tell your kids no????
what are these kids gonna do when thier boss or landflord tells them NO???
what about a bank loan? When they get denied will they try to negotiate ? " ok... uhm, how bout you give me 1/2 the loan now nad 1/2 on my dinner plate?"
ugh.
I'm the friggin boss in my house and not every darn thing needs an explantion or a compromise. I'm sure there are compromises to be made- but to completely BAN the use of the word NO???
crazy. I'm telling you it;s crazy.
Ha! I just told my kid no!
I just had to go stop my 1-year-old from playing in the toilet. Should I have not told her no? Oh God, she's crying. What have I done???
I say just let your kids listen to me, I make great music from the heart.....your kids will turn out just fine, this i promise you
For a reason? Or just for good measure?
Not only "no", but...."Oh, lll no!"
They are the same parents that will be crying because their teenage kids are screaming at them, doing coke in their rooms and pros uting themselves for cigerettes.
I will tell my kid no for everything and then spank them for asking.
I'm telling you all, get them to listen to me Justin Timberlake
Yeah, one of my sisters tried that crap on me one time. I just rolled my eyes and continued to tell my nephew no. Her husband did the same thing.
I tell my daughter no on a regular basis. She might as well get used to it now. Hey, then maybe she'll work harder and be thrilled when someone says YES!
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For a reason? Or just for good measure?
AND, He just copped a snotty at ude with me so he got sent to his room.
My youngest is the type of kid that will keep asking and bugging you until he thinks he can wear you down. So he hears NO a lot.
Oh man I friggin hate that!!!!
Oh man I friggin hate that!!!!
I just ignore him, which makes him ask louder!
Where do I pick up my Mother of the Year award?
My daughter is going away on a retreat with our church this weekend. I am so excited. 2 days w/o her..She thinks she's the one getting a vacation.
Amen.
Yeah, when my brother and sister were kids still at home, it was popular not to spank children. The buzzword then was "choices". Always give your kids more than one choice when you are trying to get them to do (or not do) something. My Mom said, "Oh, you have choices. 2. One, you can do what I tell you to do. If you choose not to do that, your only other choice is to get your butt beat with the belt." Worked like a charm. Every time.
My daughter is going away on a retreat with our church this weekend. I am so excited. 2 days w/o her..
Here ya go, Sweetie !
*S Y*
SPURS MOTHER OF THE YEAR
now thats what I'm talking about!
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needles to say, I have declined an invitation to get together with those numbnuts again. I don't think I could seriously keep my big mouth shut should I see them.
I had a great tan when that was taken!Here ya go, Sweetie !
*S Y*
SPURS MOTHER OF THE YEAR
nice extensions.
Kids need boundaries and routine. This has been proven in psychological study over psychological study.
Kids need to hear NO. Especially young kids (in the toddler range). Trust me when I say that toddlers do not understand reasoning or choices. They are too young. As kids get older, offering choices is a good thing. But when a kid asks for cookies before dinner and they not only give him cookies before dinner but during dinner, the kid is not learning that he has 'choices' - what choices have there been? He's gotten exactly what he wanted, more even, without sacrificing anything. He's got his parents manipulated. But little kids don't need to be distracted (though that is a good technique when they are fretful but not actually doing anything bad) when they are doing something wrong. How are they supposed to learn that you are not supposed to draw on the walls if you aren't told no?
And time out is a time tested, good method!
(No I don't have kids, but I've read a lot on child psychology).
easjer, you will make an awesome momma!
I think my youngest first words were, "Oldest son's name. NO!"
My daughter doesn't even say "yes".
she says NO (=no) and Nokay (=yes).
I say no to much!
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