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    Bosshog in the cut djohn2oo8's Avatar
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    For those of you who have gone through it how did you get through it ?

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    I lost my grandmother in November 2018. It hurt because of all the childhood memories, but I took it in stride. My mom on the other hand never stopped crying over it.

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    If you lost a parent, my condolences.

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    Hasn't happened yet but I'm at that age where it's becoming a bigger possibility with each passing year. To be honest I don't know how I'll react. Also my condolences if you lost someone.

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    Hasn't happened yet but I'm at that age where it's becoming a bigger possibility with each passing year. To be honest I don't know how I'll react. Also my condolences if you lost someone.
    Probably best to act apathetically, like that it is simply a matter of carbon, nitrogen, oxygen and other elements being passed on from one living organism back into the environment, as part of the course of nature and the natural cycle of life on Earth.

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    It's ok to be a man Dirks_Finale's Avatar
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    If you lost a parent, my condolences.

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    It's rough is all I can say.

    Condolences if you've lost one.

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    It's rough is all I can say.

    Condolences if you've lost one.
    RIP Chucho's mom/dad. Tbh.

    I guess losing a close parent (not, for example, an estranged deadbeat dad) turns one into an i-don't-give-a- psycopathic internet edgelord.

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    probably gonna put andy on ignore again. nothing useful ever comes from him

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    RIP Chucho's mom/dad. Tbh.

    I guess losing a close parent (not, for example, an estranged deadbeat dad) turns one into an i-don't-give-a- psycopathic internet edgelord.
    Are you 15? Life hasn’t come at you fast yet. You’ll see.

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    probably gonna put andy on ignore again. nothing useful ever comes from him
    I like it. And I didn't even ignore Avante.

    I think we should start a movement.

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    Best Believe. Ball Buster's Avatar
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    Cry often.

    The time around a parents passing, leading up to and afterward, is just awful. It could take a year or two before life starts to feel normal again. Try to be at peace with the understanding that everybody dies.

    After it’s been a while, like around nine months I recommend going to grief counseling classes. It can help you deal with lingering emotions, and get you in a better place mentally.

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    This le made me think of my favorite Oscar Wilde line: To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness.

    I recommend therapy if you are struggling. Speaking with an expert is always a good move.

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    RIP Chucho's mom/dad. Tbh.

    I guess losing a close parent (not, for example, an estranged deadbeat dad) turns one into an i-don't-give-a- psycopathic internet edgelord.
    Nobody likes you Andy. The mods don't even care when you cry that someone tells you to off yourself.

    What's your excuse for being a lonely person who is universally disliked and shat on at every turn? You're basically the less-paid-attention-to Derp.

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    44 / 50 Millennial_Messiah's Avatar
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    Are you 15? Life hasn’t come at you fast yet. You’ll see.
    My grandmother died two years ago and it was heart wrenching, but it gave me a pretty nihilistic view of life

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    Hasn't happened yet but I'm at that age where it's becoming a bigger possibility with each passing year. To be honest I don't know how I'll react. Also my condolences if you lost someone.
    Same tbh. Both are in their 70s. I don't like to think about it.

    Condolences, djohn

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    probably gonna put andy on ignore again. nothing useful ever comes from him
    That's not my name/nickname and ignore list is dumb. It's just the times

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    I like it. And I didn't even ignore Avante.

    I think we should start a movement.
    I take back my statement from this morning. It was nihilistic and dumb with respect to going on from my work. spurraider21 don't put me on ignore please

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    Lost my dad in 2019 when he was 62 years old. Always felt like my parents were going to die super old and that would take the sting off but 62 years old wasn't old and it just ing sucked. One day he was alive, then we took him to the hospital because he was in pain, he was diagnosed with cancer and died three months later.

    Left a huge hole in my life and it's just been a process of living life knowing you'll never talk to them. But time goes by and it's gotten a lot better. You just keep on going because life keeps on going.

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    Hasn't happened yet but I'm at that age where it's becoming a bigger possibility with each passing year. To be honest I don't know how I'll react. Also my condolences if you lost someone.
    This. Condolences djohn2oo8

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    Believe. Adam Lambert's Avatar
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    Sorry for your loss.

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    Believe.
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    For those of you who have gone through it how did you get through it ?
    understanding and acceptance

    enjoy the time you have every day because they will be gone way too early/too soon and you are left wondering why you took them for granted

    my dads passing threw me for a loop and i became a bit destructive as i was still young

    my moms passing slowly destroyed me and then allowed me to be reborn again as it took a couple of years of suffering while i cared for her
    which allowed me to get to know her all over again

    making me feel like a child - AND- a caregiver/parent all at once


    just a brutal life-changing time - but with understanding that this is all part of the deal of life

    you grow, accept, appreciate and move on - trying to live an exemplary life that both your parents would be proud of


    but enough happy stories for one day...


    oh - and sorry for your loss if applicable

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    Savvy Veteran spurraider21's Avatar
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    i haven't had to go through it yet. have lost grandparents/uncles, but not parents.

    sorry for your loss

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    Bosshog in the cut djohn2oo8's Avatar
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    Thank you guys I really do appreciate it. Got a call from my mom last night that my dad was taken to the hospital but the last update she had was he was doing fine so she went home. Got called back, he coded out 5 times with two heart attacks. Drove from Houston to Beaumont, got told he was gone when I got there. Congestive heart failure and kidney failure.

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    Bosshog in the cut djohn2oo8's Avatar
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    Cry often.

    The time around a parents passing, leading up to and afterward, is just awful. It could take a year or two before life starts to feel normal again. Try to be at peace with the understanding that everybody dies.

    After it’s been a while, like around nine months I recommend going to grief counseling classes. It can help you deal with lingering emotions, and get you in a better place mentally.
    Thanks that’s all I feel like doing right now. I have spells where I’m okay and spells where I can’t hold it together

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