Jordan and Kobe are bullies. If you don't stand up to them and actually be willing to get into a physical fight with them then they will continue to mess with you. Parish and Cartwright both proved that when they both stood up to Jordan at practice. I always find Jordan's relationship with Cartwright interesting since they both had a love hate relationship. Cartwright was the one who always checked MJ when he got abusive and out of control during the first three peat. The advantage Cartwright had was he knew Jordan couldn't get him traded since the bulls desperately needed him when they went up against Knicks to guard Ewing. Kerr was also 30 years old when he got into that fist fight with MJ. All the guys I mentioned who stood up to MJ were in their 30's. A lot easier to stand up to MJ when you are a grown man vs being a kid. I can't imagine any 18 year old not being intimidated of MJ.
Kwame would have most likely been a better player if he played with a Duncan,Bird,90's Hakeem,Dirk, Steven Nash. He just had the misfortune of playing with two of the worst leaders of all time.
I don't think you can develop as a young player playing with either MJ or Kobe. You have to be a ready made product to succeed with those guys. Jordan and Kobe I feel killed Kwame's love for the game where he just viewed the NBA as a job and decided to make the choice a lot of people do at their regular jobs which is do enough to make sure you can't get fired but don't work hard to improve and get better.