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I'm not married but I don't want any form of porn in my house- at all, ever.
Ok, here's the deal. I was having a debate/discussion with a married guy friend and the discussion turned to porn in the marriage. He felt it was ok to openly watch and admit to his wife that he was watching porn while married. She doesn't choose to partake in this activity, and appears to maybe have a problem with him partaking, but it goes on anyway.
In my marriage, my wife's view is that porn is a form of cheating in the marriage-basically using another woman other than your wife to achieve sexual gratification (blowing a load). This was a battle that I didn't want to fight, also considering that I was never a big porn guy anyway.
I also have another friend (married) who keeps it a secret. Tells his wife it's just her and that he doesn't need porn, but then looks at it on the side without telling her.
All of the above brings me to asking the question of men and women in the Spurstalk community, what's your take? Is porn ok in the relationship? Is it a form of cheating? Can it become a problem in terms of having good intimacy with your spouse? Or can it be a part of intimacy when both individuals use it or allow the other spouse to view it?
Just curious on the takes you guys have, thanks.
I'm not married but I don't want any form of porn in my house- at all, ever.
Im not married but if I was..........well I guess its hard to say. Does skinamax count?
I'll give it up if you marry me.
I don't think it's cheating and don't see anything wrong with watching it. I feel it can help a relationship. It can give the guy pointers on how do certain things properly.
i cant stop fappin....imagine if ur hand has a mouth oh yeh
Peewee would mess up in 10 mins.
I suppose if someone was neglecting their spouse because of porn, that wouldn't be good. But then there's probably more serious issues in the relationship.
I've been married 10 years and have never turned to porn for some satisfaction. Everything my Hubby and I do is special and so damn good..........
mrsmaalox is dead on and it all comes down to what she said.
For the first time I would have to agree with Maalox as well, nicely put.
No, I generally advise against allowing porn in your house, married or not.
For married guys, long story short, it kills the desire you have for your wife. If the only boobs you ever see are your wife's, that helps you to want her more. And it gives her honor and makes her feel good about herself, knowing that you're not comparing her to other women.
I just think that a mature adult who is committed to their relationship knows the difference between the reality of what they live and the fantasy of porn. If not, that falls in the "more serious issues" category.
The key word there is neglecting. That would be a problem akin to a drug addiction. But my husband openly watches/reads porn and I have no problem with it. I don't feel disrespected by it. He's still completely attentive to my every need and in love with me. I don't feel like I'm in any kind of compe ion with porn girls. We have kids now, so I can't exactly drop what I'm doing at any given moment to have sex. If he wants to go take care of business by himself instead of dry humping me while I'm trying to wash dishes, I have no problem with it.
I'm still waiting for Angel to get back to me.
You don't like to dry hump?
Give your man a break.
Why is there always a connection between serial killers & pornography…?
My sentiments exactly.
That's like saying everyone who dies in a plane crash ate a bag of chips within 3 days of their flight.
This world has seriously gone to when it becomes offensive to share porn within a relationship. WTF is wrong with you women. Either it up or let us get our jollies elsewhere....at least we aren't sticking it to some disease ridden .
The connection is usually violence, not sex.
It's very distracting.
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