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I'm thirty-four and still haven't gotten it down.
No really...if the kids four and he hasn't gotten it by now, it's mommy's fault.
I got a text from a friend who would like for me to baby sit her 4 year old son but that he wasn't potty trained. She asked if that would be a problem since I'm supposed to watch him from 6pm to whenever the game ends tomorrow night. I don't have a problem baby sitting the little one but I would assume that he would know how to potty by now.
I know that all my nieces and nephews learned by no later then age 3
I'm thirty-four and still haven't gotten it down.
No really...if the kids four and he hasn't gotten it by now, it's mommy's fault.
@ the first part of your comment.
I just left a message on her cell phone and told her it wasn't a problem but that she needed to provide an extra set of clothes just in case
I have a potty training video that my Sister in Law left behind one day. I wonder if I should play it for the little one with out offending my friend.
Mo, take him outside, and show him how a guy does it, in fact show him how to write his name
Mo, take him outside, and show him how a guy does it, in fact show him how to write his name
Who's Mo?
Sorry, got you confused with my buddy, Mo
Who's Mo?
Sorry, got you confused with my buddy, Mo
Oh, ok...
Potty training was never a big obsession for me.....and I had 3 kids in diapers all at once. I just believed that the earlier you start, the bigger the fight you will face. Toddlers lives are a perpetual power struggle, as they try to establish their individuality; I hated the idea that it would automatically become an issue of power. And developmentally I didn't think they really understood the logic behind it. Obviously my kids all potty trained late, at about 4 yrs old. With each one I'd break out the real underwear every couple of months and suggest a try at the potty; sometimes they adamantly refused, sometimes they tried but were easily distracted. Then the magic time finally came, when I suggested, an obvious light bulb switched on in their little heads and voila! Potty trained! No struggles, no accidents. Not a big deal. Of course I have to mention that I was with them 24/7 and didn't have the pressure of needing other people to care for them.
So Los, if your a guy, use my first suggestion, if not keep a diaper on him, and make him change it himself. Oh, and put a plastic tarp on the couch
Have fun, and remember, no liquids after 6P.M.
How can he not be potty trained by 4. Thats definately the parents being lazy and the kid might be a little mental too. I mean an accident every now and then but what kid at that age would be comfortable ting himself and sitting in it. If my kids doesn't have it down pat by 3 I'm gonna be pretty upset.
If my kids doesn't have it down pat by 3 I'm gonna be pretty upset.
Uh Oh!
I'm a girlSo Los, if your a guy, use my first suggestion, if not keep a diaper on him, and make him change it himself. Oh, and put a plastic tarp on the couch
Have fun, and remember, no liquids after 6P.M.
@ the tarp on the couch.
I do believe that my friend is at fault here. He tells her when he has to go pee-pee but not when he has to go poo-poo.
I tell my boss here at work if I have to go pee-pee or poo-poo.
She doesn't like it.
I find that you and I are on the same page about a lot of things, this included. My pediatrician once told me that with everything we demand of little children and all the pressure we put on them, yes, even toddlers, that trying to potty train too early is just too much for them. He said he'd never known a child to start kindergarten not potty trained. Of course,there are medical conditions that are exceptions. My son was in day care and they never pressured him to potty train, but when he saw some of his friends going into the "big kids" class (about age 2 - 2 1/2), he wanted to go too. Potty training was required for that, so we talked to him and bought him some big boy underwear and in about a week, he pretty much had it down. I was, however, pregnant at the time, and shortly after my daughter was born he relapsed and we put him in pull-ups, but that didn't last long. I think my daughter was pretty much accident free by 2, but girls are easier to potty train for the most part.
Let me rephrase
Upset with myself and my wife.
Both my boys trained late--in their 3rd year. It just became too frustrating for the both of us when I tried earlier. But once they were ready, they were trained really fast and we had very few accidents. I think after that, both of them only wet the bed once or twice at night.
My youngest could sit in it all day and not care. I wasn't lazy and he's definitely not mental.
If you show you're upset, it's not gonna make him train any quicker. It will only make things worse. And yeah, I was one who thought my kids would be trained by 2.
That's not uncommon at all. For some reason, poo-poo is scary to a kid. And not being 100% potty trained at 4 is not the end of the world. If he still wears a diaper, maybe there's a problem, but if it's just a case of still having accidents, well, she can discuss it with her pediatrician to see if there is an underlying problem.
Biggest factor right there. You can cajole, beg, plead, get perturbed, pray, bribe, or whatever...but until they decide it's time, there will never be any consistency in their 'training'.
It's pointless to try and force it upon them before that light goes off in their little mind...it only brings confusion to the child and frustration to the parent.
I gave my boy a disapproving tone when he crapped himself the other day. Asked him why he didn't tell me he needed to use the potty. He promptly started telling me he needed to break it down for the next day and half with no issues. Its just didn't last. I don't for one second believe that me jumping on him did any harm and if anything it seemed to help him stay on top of it. I didn't yell, I instructed, and let him know I didn't approve of him pooping himself when he knows better. As his little mind grows so will his ability to retain long term.
If thats considered being upset and counter productive then we disagree.
Everyone's situation is different and I'm in no way saying your kids are mental or you're a bad parent but at 4 the mind should be developed enough to have potty training down solid. Pun intended.
I really don't get the doctors that think we pressure kids by pushing them to learn.
My son says
can't do it
can't do it
too hard
I can't and so on all the time. I see him get frustrated and he's only 2. I tell him no you don't say that now do it and we'll work on it together then finally after awile he'll get whatever it is that we are trying to do and he's satisfied and repeats it time and again for satisfaction. Each time I get the can't or won't or too hard I remind him of kicking the ball or hitting the ball or putting the shapes in the right spot and so on. Over the last 6 months I see his ability to refer back to the things he couldn't do but now can and use it as positive reinforcement for the next great challenge. Somewhere along the line I think we all became too passive. Anyway I'm not a drill instructor but I'm not going to abandon expecting things out of my child if I think he's capable of getting something down.
I remember when my daughter was first born the small crap was easy too clean and too a few people very cute, But remember the older they get the bigger they and there poop gets.
Buddy, you got it. My boys took forever. I think the oldest was about 3 1/2 before being "fully" trained, and the younger was closer to 4. They just weren't ready to do it yet. Period. And it definitely wasn't for lack of trying on my part
The girl, on the other hand, did it herself when she was 2 1/2 and there were never any problems or accidents.
Well, if it works, more power to you. But boys do take longer to train and everyone I've talked to (and my boys are long past potty training) who tried to get them trained earlier than 3, failed. YMMV
ETA...I'm not saying you're wrong for your approach either. You know your son. Good luck!
My niece is 2 1/2 and been using the pot for about 2 months already.
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