that can easily be done by the woman as well, and women are way more vicious at it
as usual it is always the man that has to go through the hoops.
Yuppers. As a somewhat older, 35ish married guy long out of the game, I have come to realize that a relatively mature approach would have done wonders for my younger self.
Yet another thing I wish I could download into the brain of the 19 year old version of RandomGuy. God, he was a dumbass.
I was never the bragging kind, but just didn't quite get the hang of women until being married to one for 13 years.
I apologize for the generalization. But just in the course of my life and the experience I have discussing sex with other women, in my particular social circle, that is not the case. But you're right women can do it as well. I just don't think it is as common.
And I may be wrong, but I don't consider "privacy" and "discretion" jumping thru hoops!
privacy and discretion excluded. sorry. that opinion of mine just came from the fact that it seems the always has to conform to the woman. i'm not saying i subscribe to the clubbing-of-the-woman-over-the-head-and-take'em-to-my-cave-to-violate dogma, but that would be a whole of a lot easier. i know you have to "play the game", but it's pretty lop-sided in that part.
My reference to trust had absolutely nothing to do with being talked about the next morning or various levels of decorum, for the record. Even in a one-night stand context, I don't see myself getting close enough to a man who was so obviously lacking in respect that calling me a the next day would even be a concern.
The context to which I was referring, however, had more to do with being honest about why you're ing. I would need there to be enough trust for me to openly tell the guy that it's just sex and nothing more, and I would need there to be enough trust for him to openly tell me the same thing. For instance, guys who tell women that they're more important to him than they may actually be just to get her into bed have no room to complain when she's still expecting some sort of closeness or intimacy a few days later. And vice versa, frankly, because I know plenty of women who have used the same games to get men into bed.
You may be onto something there.
That's what I meant too. For whatever reason two people decide to have sex, if they both agree it's cool. Ridiculing a person because you won't see them again is a violation of trust. Sure chances are you'll never know if you were talked about or not, but just hearing another woman being talked about that way could make it hard for others to be more trusting.
ouch.
on a much lighter note, nice add to your sig.
I guess, but... that's just too damn much worrying for me. I don't act like a , so it really never enters my mind that I would be talked about like one.
Well... except at SpursTalk, of course. Though I think my reputation here is closer to obnoxious know-it-all than attention , these days.
Why don't you just run along outside and play, and let the grown ups talk?!
You're telling me!!
being that you asked, that about does it for me. have a great rest of your thursday.
by grown up do you mean the over 60 crowd. I wouldn't want to leave you talking to yourself.
Sex!
Marriage rocks!!!!!
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