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You don't need balls of steel. You just need balls, period. You need to get yours out of her purse and use them.
It doesn't take balls of steel... believe me, it's bothersome. I let my five-year relationship go on about 6 months too long because I was too worried to end it, but it finally stressed me enough physically and mentally that I had to suck it up and finally do it.
It was really hard to let her go, but I was forced to. This advice is to save you from the stress I was under those last six months (and consider I was also working four jobs at the time I broke up with her).
You don't need balls of steel. You just need balls, period. You need to get yours out of her purse and use them.
You don't even have to be upset in how you ask her what I suggested. Just tell her to give you time to say something, calmly explain what I mentioned (or some variation), say goodbye and tell her you're hanging up. Don't respond to her telling you to let her respond and hang up.
She had no plans of getting back together with you ... she just said that she was going to say that once she learned (or thought, anyway) that you had someone else all lined up. So she would no longer be the bad guy (dumper) in her mind, but you are now (the cheater).
while you do need to step up to her a little more, i gotta give you credit that you got a good heart, and you have a quality that women do like, in that you treat them well, always trying to treat them like a queen. you just gotta realize the line between treating them well, and kissing their ass. women love and respect people who treat them well. they dont respect people that they know they can walk all over, and if you dont have respect in a relationship, it simply will not work. now some women respond to it differently. some take advantage of it, as your ex did. others feel that it is a quality that they dont like in a man, and will let you know, often by breaking up with you. sometimes you almost purposely have to piss them off, just to show them that you have a pair and that will really let them know you are resilient and will stand up for them. they will like that much more. but at the same time, dont forget to treat a woman well (which i dont think will be your problem).
Don't let the door hit ya on the vagina on your way out.
Obviously you can't handle a see ya later bone so just stop answering your phone. If you don't man up and deal with this one now then you will have the same type of girl the rest of your life. Learn to fix it now with this one and it will get easier and easier.
Okay I'll bite. First of all, Back to Basics: If I smoked, I'd need a few after reading your eloquent descriptions.
Secondly, dirk4mvp, sorry you have been hurt. But you need to heed these guys advice and make a clean break. Having been an 18yr old girl, you are giving her waaay too much power over you. She's as dumb and confused as you are. The thing is, right now she is learning about how much control she can exert over a man (what I call the Princess Power).
I was never much of a game player myself, but damn I knew some girls who were ruthless. Constant games. Poor guys didn't stand a chance. Someone here said something about being wary of of girls under age 25---well I would increase the age to 30. Most women under age 30 have an agenda: to get married. But they don't know how to get there so they resort to all kinds of tricks, mind games to see if it works. You know when I was in my 20's and dating a lot, i wondered why guys were so screwed up and into the game playing. I know now that so many of them are ruined by the psycho hose beasts out running around. I really feel sorry for single men under 30. So just move along, and meet lots of people and keep things casual. I'm not discounting your feelings for the girl, but at 18, I would venture to say that it was probably an infatuation. You have lots of time to find the "one". In fact you don't really need to actively look, because real love happens when you least expect it!!
this works. makes them actually sit and seriously think about what the they want.
She had no plans of getting back together with you ... she just said that she was going to say that once she learned that you had someone else all lined up.
I didn't have anyone lined up.
I'm starting to seriously wonder if I should go on the date with that girl she hooked me up with. It would piss her off so bad.
I always thought you were a dude
I know, but she thought you did at the time. I'm telling you ... that's her way of shaking the blame.
Oh to be 18 again when these kinds of things were crises...
I dumped my first serious girlfriend in high school over less than that. I had gone to a speech/debate tournament out of town and while I was there I happened to have a few conversations with this girl named Rita. I had absolutely no interest in this girl beyond a little meaningless small talk between events. So when I got back, my GF of eight months calls and tells me she had this dream that I hooked up with a girl named Lisa at the tournament. I broke up with her, there, on the phone. No regrets about it at all.
You do not need to be wasting your time with someone who snoops through your cell phone like that. Let her destroy someone else's life. People like that are not secure enough to sustain a happy relationship because they are complete narcissists. Frankly, her distrust of you is probably brought on by stuff she's done to you in the past (or is still doing) that she doesn't want you to find out about. She'll change as she grows up (so will you) but at this point in your lives you don't need to wait for it.
That's a real woman talking
I know, but she thought you did at the time. I'm telling you ... that's her way of shaking the blame.and then she can move on to practice her "power" on someone else!!
she had her way with me all the time. if she would ask me do to something, I was there to do it. I'd drop everything I was doing and make circles around plans I had made to fufill what she wanted me to do. I probably should have layed down the lay a bit more.
Solid. I'm pretty sure everyone here older than me has gone thru something similar so they know what they're talking about. Life is a messed up game sometimes.
so this is where everyone is at. what's going on?
hey, how is it going?
Are you the true wisdom giver I seek in order to fully understand life in a complete way?
quite good. this morning i bought a family size box of honey comb and took it to work and cannot stop eating that .
I'd have to say yes. Hit me with your best shot. If its about chicks I know them and I know some if you need some if you know what I mean
i guess you can post those nudes of her now, huh dirk4mvp?
man I'm all about the snacks at work. I got chicken express and bags and bags of flaming hot sunflower seeds.
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