How badly did I screw these up?

[Anti.Hero]

Obama is already starting to hurt your love life.

[Findog]

Obama is already starting to hurt your love life.

haha, probably true

[dirk4mvp]

I'm gonna move to FTW and we can do some tag team pimpin

[Findog]

I'm gonna move to FTW and we can do some tag team pimpin

with as much skills as i've demonstrated lately, you're better off staying put

[PM5K]

That was the gayest text message I've ever read.

Thirded....

[PM5K]

Let me also say that the text message was NOT a drunk text, I bet if you were really drunk, and had sent her a drunk text, you probably would have gotten laid....

[Findog]

Let me also say that the text message was NOT a drunk text, I bet if you were really drunk, and had sent her a drunk text, you probably would have gotten laid....

Yep. Five years ago I would've done something like this and wondered why I never heard from her again. It took me the better part of 10 minutes after I sent that text on Friday to realize how badly I'd ed up. Now I know better, so I'm kicking myself for it.

[jack sommerset]

text message!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[baseline bum]

You should have sent her the ' you . I don't need your stank ass anyways, I'm going to the house with James Donaldson tonight' drunken text an hour after not hearing from her.

[Findog]

You should have sent her the ' you . I don't need your stank ass anyways, I'm going to the house with James Donaldson tonight' drunken text an hour after not hearing from her.

I think going to the house with James Donaldson is always a good idea if things fall through on the not paying for it front.

[Findog]

In any event, thanks guys for telling me what I need to hear, instead of soft-pedaling with "that's not so bad." It's always better to be in touch with reality and face the music.

[Trainwreck2100]

Case #1: Three weeks ago I meet up at a happy hour with two female friends (both taken and unavailable). A friend of theirs is with them, and we really hit it off over the course of the evening. I'm such a lightweight that after 5 beers, I'm buzzing pretty heavily. Things are going well enough that in my alcoholic-induced haze, I actually whisper in her ear "Hey, let's get the out of here!"

Yeah, she definitely did not want to sign on to the idea of going somewhere alone with some guy she just met. I didn't really press the issue, but she did give me her number and asked me to call her. When I woke up the next day sober, I was really embarrassed about it, since I could understand her reluctance. I didn't proposition her in a crude way, but it was clear what I wanted at the time. I was too ashamed of the way I acted to contact her. So I let two weeks go by, finally sent her a message of facebook and things seem to be progressing slowly but nicely. This one might be salvaged.

Case #2: There's this other girl Laura that I slept with a few times back in the spring. Long story short, I don't want a relationship with her, and I've had to kind of hold her at arm's length at times. When it came to having sex, she drove that train more than I did. Anyways, anytime we ever try to get together, it seems one of us cancels on the other. So last night I promised I would meet her for happy hour, but I made it clear I was going to watch the debate with a buddy of mine and we could go out after that. So my buddy Dave and I go back to his apartment while she continues happy hour and promises to catch up with me later.

After the debate, we head over to the neighborhood hipster bar and Dave's friend Holly shows up. Holly works in the same building as I do. I don't normally go for lots of tats and piercings, but Holly is ING HOT! We hit it off. We both discover that we were born on the same day (2/3/78), and her being into astrology, she seems to think that this has great significance. (I think it's a crock of , but whatever). Holly announces that some guy had stood her up that night and that her vagina is basically open for business. We're hitting it off to the point that I am dreading Laura showing up. Laura finally shows up and I can't hide my interest in Holly. It should be noted that going into the evening I felt I had a 1 in 3 shot at sleeping with Laura. I work in Dallas and ride the train in from FTW, and Laura had told me earlier she had no qualms with driving me back to FTW to get my car. (Can't leave it overnight or it'll get towed.)

Holly gets pretty buzzed/slightly drunk, announces she's leaving to go to another hipster bar to meet up with a friend in town from Austin and she may be back. She gives me a kiss on the cheek and asks for my phone #. Very, very affectionate. As she leaves, she says to me "We are going to be such good friends." So she leaves, and Dave is making faces at me, and I tell him about the "good friends" remark, and ask him if I have a shot with her. He says "I think you have a shot with her TONIGHT."

So I debated this, but I sent her the following text at 1:35 after she left at 1:20:

"I like you, and not in a platonic way. If the feeling isn't mutual, that's cool, I don't have an ego to bruise, just friends is cool. Just putting it out there..."

Yeah, so Laura left and said she was going home because she was "tired." Holly never replied to my text.

Dave said I made one big mistake: At one point he eavesdropped in our our conversation and noticed I was talking about my alcoholic dad. Holly was bringing up her messed-up family life and I was just trying to relate. Dave feels it was a mistake to get into "heavy" stuff so soon, that usually lands you in the friend zone. Also, my friend Daniel believes the text message I sent is typical sensitive wussy boy, in that last night she was simply looking for Mr. Right Now and I basically presented myself as Mr. Right.

Now I gotta hope I don't run into her at work. She works on the 29th floor, I'm on the 32nd. I normally don't have reason to be on the 29th floor in her department.

That's not so bad

[Greg Oden]

That's not so bad

well, he could always be in your shoes

[CuckingFunt]

Yeah, at this point, I'm not really interested in how to salvage it, more on strategies for how to avoid her at work. I didn't think the text message was *that* bad, but the consensus is overwhelming in this thread, it was embarrassingly bad. I'll chalk it up as a learning experience. I guess the bright side/silver lining is that I was doing well enough to be in a position to choke it away like the Mavericks do.

The consensus from the men is overwhelming. The two women who have posted in this thread (myself and duncan228) seem to agree that you really didn't up that bad.

Trust me, "I like you, and not in a platonic way" wouldn't even register as a blip on the radar of ed up/drunken text messages I've received. A solid, confident date invite should easily make up for that message.

[dickface]

Just whip the out next time.

[dickface]

The one thing to always keep in mind is that all women are s, especially when drinking. If they're into you and you play it right, they'll be the ones inviting you to sex them up.

You gotta lead the horses to the water instead of shoving a bucket into their faces.

[CuckingFunt]

Just whip the out next time.

Unsolicited outage is a surprisingly ineffective technique.

[IronMexican]

Should have used the popcorn trick.

[Findog]

Unsolicited outage is a surprisingly ineffective technique.

I have to concur. At one point in the evening, Holly said "I LOOOOOOVE the !" but I felt exposing myself wouldn't go over well.

[Anti.Hero]

Should have used the popcorn trick.

ahh yes.


34.5% failure rate to. this. day.

[duncan228]

The consensus from the men is overwhelming. The two women who have posted in this thread (myself and duncan228) seem to agree that you really didn't up that bad.

And considering it's women he's trying to get/understand/deal with maybe more women could chime in on this. Gotta help Findog out.

[ploto]

This thread is scary on so many levels.

[marini martini]

This thread is scary on so many levels.

No !!!

I 'm not touching it with a ten foot pole!!!

[Bandit2981]

If you aren't thinking of marrying this chick, just chalk it up as a learning experience and move on

[Melmart1]

And considering it's women he's trying to get/understand/deal with maybe more women could chime in on this. Gotta help Findog out.

Yeah, I don't see how people think this is so bad. It's not ideal or great but it's not as bad as the men make it seem. I bet you anything that next time she is drunk and horny she texts you and you meet up. Just don't blow the second chance!