If you were ever widowed, would you eventually re-marry?

[JoeChalupa]

One and done is my motto.

[easjer]

Too many things that depends on.

I would want SFIE to remarry, if he chose to, because I want him to be happy. I would be open to the idea after awhile, I expect, but it would depend. It would be hard to find another man like SFIE, who would love me and interest me in the same way (the way I think it takes to be married to someone long-term, I mean).

I think - though I can't be sure - that he would like me to remarry, so I was taken care of.

We've only been married 3 years though, and are both still under 30. I think if he died soon, I would be more likely to remarry, because I want children someday. If I were 68, I would be less likely to remarry, I think.

Then I think of my grandmother, who remarried after my grandfather died (8 years later - hardly right away). After Herb died, she remarried again, about 2 years later. I have never been certain whether she preferred companionship and found it in these men (both long-time friends who were widowed), or if she loved them (in a way different from her 40 year marriage to my grandfather), or if she was just afraid of being alone.

[thispego]

Don't s just put everything into perspective?

you'd know. .

[thispego]

I thought thispego was a woman.

seriously? i guess im y, but....

i was just commenting on the fact that you constantly remind spurstalk that your wife is hot

[MiamiHeat]

Mrs. Chopper and I had this discussion the other night, and have probably discussed it three or four other times over the years, and we both said we probably wouldn't. We're both young enough, and she's certainly attractive enough to do so, but we agreed that we'd probably just live a single life should the other ever pass on.

We've both put a tremendous amount of time and effort into our marriage, and gone through a lot of ups and downs over the years. It probably took 15 years to get into the amazingly great groove we're now in, and we both agreed that we don't know, at this point in our lives, if we'd ever meet someone worthy of putting that much effort into a relationship with. It's funny, our interests are so varied that we've achieved this sort of 'separate togetherness' in that we each lead our own individual lives, but have this great married connection, too. We have different hobbies, different friends and interests, but still have a lot in common. Our ability to be our own person I think allows us to have a relationship that's still fresh and intriguing after 18+ years. From what I see with other couples who are either suffocatingly intertwined, or on the other extreme, can't stand to be near the other person, I'm not sure I'd ever find a relationship like the one I'm in ever again.

Anyone else ever considered what they'll do should their significant other not be there someday?

Let's just get it out of the way now. Your girl is cheating on you

[SpursFanFirst]

I'm going to die an old cat lady so this has nothing to do with me.


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+1

[balli]

seriously? i guess im y, but....

I've always pictured you as an angry Lloyd Christmas.

[thispego]

I've always pictured you as an angry Lloyd Christmas.

lol yeah, thats what im going for

[ploto]

I do not believe that you can really answer this question in advance. My belief at one time was also one and done, but sometimes someone leaves, whether by choice or by death, and eventually you may at least become open to the idea of having another person in your life. I also know that some people with kids may wish for their children to have a step parent, as well.

Not to be unromantic, but I know an older person who is not getting remarried because it would negatively impact Social Security benefits.

[td4mvp21]

+1

You both are young give it time

[2Blonde]

My hubby and I have talked about it several times. Our feeling is that you go through so much to make a marriage work and the older you get, the less likely you are to take on that load. Also, we have what I consider to be, such an amazing time together after almost 12 years together that I don't think I'd really want to share that with someone else. He is my other half/completes me..yada, yada, yada....

[CavsSuperFan]

Its not that easy…When women get over 40 they get cranky & constantly compare you to the ex husbands…

You are having beer & eggs for breakfast…I hate that!... My ex always had beer & eggs for breakfast on weekends….

You are going for a bike ride! My ex had a geek bike like you & wore those stupid bike shorts all the time…

You are watching Apocalypse now again? Does the ending change after 100x’s…

You are going to the hobby store to get more stuff for your electric train? Don’t forget to wear your “loser” T-Shirt…

[I. Hustle]

Its not that easy…When women get over 40 they get cranky & constantly compare you to the ex husbands…

You are having beer & eggs for breakfast…I hate that!... My ex always had beer & eggs for breakfast on weekends….

You are going for a bike ride! My ex had a geek bike like you & wore those stupid bike shorts all the time…

You are watching Apocalypse now again? Does the ending change after 100x’s…

You are going to the hobby store to get more stuff for your electric train? Don’t forget to wear your “loser” T-Shirt…

Wow you have it tough.

[tlongII]

If I ever got married my wife would kill me thus making the question irrelevant.

[Richard Cranium]

If I ever got married my wife would kill me thus making the question irrelevant.

So what you are saying is she'd hire someone to "hit it".

[Summers]

Its not that easy…When women get over 40 they get cranky & constantly compare you to the ex husbands…

You are having beer & eggs for breakfast…I hate that!... My ex always had beer & eggs for breakfast on weekends….

You are going for a bike ride! My ex had a geek bike like you & wore those stupid bike shorts all the time…

You are watching Apocalypse now again? Does the ending change after 100x’s…

You are going to the hobby store to get more stuff for your electric train? Don’t forget to wear your “loser” T-Shirt…

Wow, I'm sorry you suck at making a woman happy. I'm approaching 40 and I find I'm mellowing and becoming more horny with age.

Yes, I'd remarry if I found someone worthy and I'd want my husband to also.

[Dr. Gonzo]

I don't know.

[Blake]

if I ever remarried again, I would be verrrry picky.

Even if I liked her a lot, if she isnt smart and can't sustain herself financially, then the answer is no.

[balli]

Its not that easy…When women get over 40 they get cranky & constantly compare you to the ex husbands…

You are having beer & eggs for breakfast…I hate that!... My ex always had beer & eggs for breakfast on weekends….

You are going for a bike ride! My ex had a geek bike like you & wore those stupid bike shorts all the time…

You are watching Apocalypse now again? Does the ending change after 100x’s…

You are going to the hobby store to get more stuff for your electric train? Don’t forget to wear your “loser” T-Shirt…

Holy . No offense if you somehow still love your wife or are catholic, but man, you need a ing divorce, ASAP.

[JudynTX]

Negative

[SpursWoman]

...and no, I wouldn't re-cohabitate. It took me almost 33 years to find the one guy I totally & absolutely trust, adore, like, love ... etc.

That kind of lucky find only happens once in a lifetime.

So, I'd die alone surrounded by a bunch of cats.


I still think I'll die first, though.

[angel_luv]

Bo and I came up with this idea:We live happily married, still completely in love until I am 121 and he is 120 at which point, hopefully, the Rapture would come, so we'll never be apart from each other.

[Trainwreck2100]

Bo and I came up with this idea:We live happily married, still completely in love until I am 121 and he is 120 at which point, hopefully, the Rapture would come, so we'll never be apart from each other.

Why wait for the rapture, if you want to go together there's always a plane crash.

[gatoloco]

Bo and I came up with this idea:We live happily married, still completely in love until I am 121 and he is 120 at which point, hopefully, the Rapture would come, so we'll never be apart from each other.

i can see you coming up with that idea...and bo happily nodding while trying to get your bra unhooked...

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

It would have to be a pretty small window of time for me to really consider remarriage, namely either some time very soon or some time in the fairly distant future. I'm only 25, so it's tough to see myself going through the rest of my life alone should something happen. I couldn't give an exact cut off date, but at some point I think I'd come to feel that I don't feel like investing the time and energy that it takes to make something that big work.

Or if easjer should go first when we're in our 80's or 90's, I will live the rest of days throwing down little blue pills and nailing the hottest gold digging nympho stripper I can find until my heart and/or hips give out.