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I think your first step should be to stop the alcohol. You need all your faculties intact to be able to deal with this.Hang in there!
I got home from work Tuseday night and the wife said she wanted a divorce, when she told me i calimly walked out of the house and went stright to the bar and have only stopped drinking long enough to go to work. Now she wants to get counsling at the church.
I am willing to do it just to keep her from moveing my kids out of state (she's from Idaho and her parents still live there)
and this past week she has been supper when ever i have tried to talk to her abiut it.
I wanna keep my family togther but i am so mad at her right now i don't know what to do.
I think your first step should be to stop the alcohol. You need all your faculties intact to be able to deal with this.
so, you have no idea why she wants a divorce?
Calm down & be honorable…(Stuff happens)…
What State do you live in?
do the marriage counseling and try to listen to each other and find common ground.
hurting each other isn't going to get you anywhere. put the kids first, and give your marriage an honest shot.
quit the alcohol if you can on your own, if not, go to AA.
There are a lot of unanswered questions here, why does she want it, do you want it, etc. As far as the kids go, she probably can't legally move them out of state without your written permission. If you end up going through with divorce, that will be addressed in family court.
she said we fight too much and i yell at her when we are fighting. oh and during football season i dident pay attion to her.
we have been married for 3 years and togther for 6 it all just came out of left filed.
That suck major ass, bro. But hang in there. Hope everything works out.
are you wasted right now?
Is she cheating?
Texas and as for the drinking it was just a 4 (needed to get it out of my system) day binder i sobered up this weekend and went to the zoo with the kids on sunday and on satrday took the kids to the buckaroo brekfest.
Is this a habit?
i dont thaink so
yelling during an argument accomplishes nothing but a negative effect.
be mature during these moments. she'll notice the change.
no i normaly dont drink durring the week at the time i wanted to yell and blow up but got scared i would wake the kids up so i left
Dude that sucks. Stay off the sauce.
Well, you asked on a public forum, so here it is:
So she's gotten your attention by asking for a divorce she clearly doesn't want. The ball's in your court. Sounds like you don't really care other than to avoid the inconvenience of having your kids in Idaho. She wants you to fight for her and win her back. If alcohol and football are more important, you should just let her go.
Divorce is a very long road when children are involved…Child support, visitation, tuition, it never ends…You need to 1st look at cleaning up your act…
Church counseling is a great idea because the people evaluating your situation are allowed to give you blunt input…State Counselors have to be careful to not hurt your feelings & will always advise more counseling…
Good lord man, this is your chance out!!! Don't waste it! If you're a good father I doubt she'll be able to take your kids out of state if you don't want her to. If you're a bad father maybe it would be best if she did.
Texas seems to be more balanced in divorce hearings than other states…In states like CA the wife can make false aquisations to keep your children from you & garnish your wages…
I can’t stress the importance of behaving honorably, avoiding bad company & try to find that person that your wife was attracted to in the 1st place….Your children will remember everything that happens for decades to come…
i haven't been a good husban but i am a great dad and i am not going to let my kids grow up with only getting to see me when there out of school thats not good for anyone
i know and there so young 4 and 2 and 10 mons. there my world i cant not see them
I have been staying at a friends but come home in the morrings to see them before i go to work. after work i go over there and put them to bed. After there in bed she wont even talk to me about anything so i just dont know what to do she is dragging her feet on starting the counsleing and it is driving me crazy.
Three kids 4 and under? Dude, have a drink.......she aint going nowhere.
If your children are your world - then the biggest gift you can give them is to love their mother and do everything in your power to save the marriage. You've already admitted you haven't been a good husband - so change your behavior!
Oh - and don't listen to ANYTHING ballijuana says - he's an idiot.
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