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sorry your kiddo got hurt, but i'd go ahead and use that in court against your wife to get custody.
what can't she forgive you for the past 6 years about?
she dose and thats fine but there is no reson to talk about it in front of the kids
i am so mad right nowshe said she has been unhappy for 6 years we have only been married for 3 years
sorry your kiddo got hurt, but i'd go ahead and use that in court against your wife to get custody.
what can't she forgive you for the past 6 years about?
Usually a woman with several young kids does not want out of a marriage. Im willing to bet there is more to this story. Women need a backup plan before they commit to breaking up the family........like several instances I know about, including my own. Start snooping man. I wouldnt doubt if there isnt someone of her interest that is available. JMHO.
Also the Ive been unhappy for 6yrs is typical cheaters lingo. Noone stays in a marriage that long or has kids if they were truly unhappy. Cheaters like to rewrite history.
I remember when my Ex would say periodically throughout our marriage that ..........."this is the happiest day of my life".............." I love you so much"........" I love you more than anything".........only for her to say she was unhappy for almost our entire marriage. That was BS......she said it because there was someone else she wanted to be with.
Snoop.
she said when i get mad i am scary. i know i get loud but there's never been anything phyiscal. she went on to say that she is home sick and is going to move to idaho i told her i would buy her a one way ticket but the kids arent going
you could be right if she dosent wanna be with me thats fine she can leave but i wont give up on keeping my kidsUsually women with several young kids does not want out of a marriage. Im willing to bet there is more to this story. Women need a backup plan before they commit to breaking up the family........like several instances I know about, including my own. Start snooping man. I wouldnt doubt if there isnt someone of her interest that is available. JMHO.
Also the Ive been unhappy for 6yrs is typical cheaters lingo. Noone stays in a marriage that long or has kids if they were truly unhappy. Cheaters like to rewrite history.
I remember when my Ex would say periodically throughout our marriage that ..........."this is the happiest day of my life".............." I love you so much"........" I love you more than anything".........only for her to say she was unhappy for almost our entire marriage. That was BS......she said it because there was someone else she wanted to be with.
Snoop.
The above was added for you as well pkbpkb81.................. FYI
I don't buy lebomb's theory that she's cheating. Let's be honest here - a permanently tired, grumpy woman with probably very little money and three small children is hardly a great catch for any man.
LOL.................this exact thing just happened to a friend of mine. The other guy probably doesnt want to marry her..........he just wants to hit it. So its entirely possible.
Many things are possible, but most of them are less than likely.
Damn...I hear that all the time.I remember when my Ex would say periodically throughout our marriage that ..........."this is the happiest day of my life".............." I love you so much"........" I love you more than anything"........only for her to say she was unhappy for almost our entire marriage. That was BS......she said it because there was someone else she wanted to be with.
Snoop.
But I'm not worried.
You don't have to be hitting to be scary. For some people, yelling is all it takes for someone to come off as really frightening - especially people that don't like to argue to begin with. If someone is yelling at me, the odds of me being able to state my case rationally are really, really small. Getting yelled at when you don't yell back can also be incredibly demeaning.
I'm also going to agree with desflood - I doubt she's cheating. Very few people would walk into a train wreck like that willingly.
look i know i haveen't always gone about things the right way but if she was than unhappy to whole 6 years why after 3 of thoese did she wanna marrie me
Oh I'm not defending her decision - I think she's been pretty irresponsible herself, it was really just to explicate the other perspective. Whatever happens in this particular relationship, learning how to communicate effectively will be important in the future. Not everyone will fight back with you the way you would with someone else to be heard. You just can't expect people to react to everything the same way you do.
i'm no therapist or anything but let me tell you that divorce has a huge impact on children. it did on me and only until i was around the age of 21-22 did i realize that my mother made the right choice in leaving my father. i don't talk to my father to this day if that tells you anything.
sometimes people just aren't meant to be together and regardless of whatever reason your wife has for wanting a divorce i am sure there is no reason you can give her for not wanting one. i don't believe divorce therapy works in the first place just like i don't believe psychiatry works.
what i do believe is that people are good at talking to those who are in desperate times in need of advice to sit down and listen, take in, and work things out... until the next time comes around when the divorce papers are thrown in your face and there is no more working things out.
i don't know what to tell you bro but as much as i can tell you are a great father and you should try to keep it that way. you don't want your children to hate you when they are all grown up. just stay a great father and your children will understand when they grow up that the divorce had nothing to do with them.
for whatever reason some people just aren't meant to be together for the long haul.
Marriage counseling DOES work and I've seen it with my own eyes. Not every marriage can be saved but many can when the communication lines are open and honest.
stop it already! everytime i see your damn avatar i read your comments as such with a damn dr phil accent. !
I do not know this person nor do I want to accuse anyone of anything, but I will attest to the general truth of this statement. If she already has a lawyer before she ever said anything to you, then she was not sincere about asking you to go to counseling. If she wanted to save her marriage, counseling discussions would have come before hiring an attorney.
Either it's another man or she really does plan to move back in with her family in Idaho who are encouraging her to do this. From what you have said- she is in no position financially to support herself and these children even with child support.
She must have some sort of plan- because I am sure the attorney has told her how to set things up. And you being unsuspecting means she may have been plotting or planning for a while (been there, done that).
Well, you do need a plan. I know I would.
Joint bank accounts? Joint property?
If she cleaned out your savings then YES, she has a plan.
Let's be even more honest - you don't have to be a great catch or have someone think you're a great catch to bone somebody on the side.
She thinks white knight and he thinks piece of ass he rarely, if ever, has to interact with for the sexine.
she never meet goes anywhere so i dont thank she is cheating, i guess she could have meet someone on line or hace an en high school bf waiting for her in idaho
If I had issues like this and I wanted to get advice from strangers online, I'd look to a "divorce" forum rather then a spurs forum. That's where I'd start anyway.
However, I have come to this site for general advice regarding my marriage, but only when I was bored with it...........all better now by the way.
this is a great place with good people on here and when i started this i just wanted to vent honestly i have been suprised at the amout of respones and i am greatfull
Don't get me wrong, I agree that this is a good site with good people, I just thought it would help to go to people that are going through the same or have gone through it already.
I wasn't trying to be a .............which is unusual for me so I can understand if it came across that way.
Im not saying she IS cheating.......Im just saying anything is possible.
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