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Man, all these opinions.
Move out, start smoking weed, and go to college. Worked for me.
I believe he's bi-sexual.
Man, all these opinions.
Move out, start smoking weed, and go to college. Worked for me.
Yeah Sinister...if I'd ever told my Mom to shut the up my Dad would have put me in the hospital, I'm not kidding...and he didn't even get along with her himself. If she cried, somebodies was ass was getting whipped, and she cried a lot.
As for grabbing his finger...my big brother did something like that once to my Dad when he was about 18 or 19(I think he tried to kick him in the balls), and he got his teeth knocked out and put through the front door for it.
I don't think it's right for parents to say to their kids like you're a cancer or you need your ass kicked...respect is a two way street and if you don't treat your children with some modi of respect then you can't expect them to treat anyone else with respect either. You can't give them a free pass...but you can't treat them like property/slaves just because they are your kids eitther. They have to be taught was repect is...by being shown it, not by beind denied it.
It doesn't sound to me like your parents are kicking you out though, they feed you and take care of you and are trying to do the best they can most likely..and for that reason you need to make an extreme effort to show them respect at all times, even though they aren't "gasp" perfect.
Who knows...maybe your parents could learn something from you about respect if you show it the right way.
You know...it's kinda like if you think the world is a ty place(and most everyone does at your age)...then start doing something yourself to make it better.
This sounds to me like your parents want you to start being more adult which to them means doing less of what you want to do and more of what you are supposed to do...and your idea of being an adult is doing more of what you want to do and less of what you are told to do. Two way street...if you want to do more of what you want to do, you also have to do more of what you don't want to do.
I suggest moving out and getting an apartment with your buddies(don't do it with your girlfriend right off the bat) and getting a bike or riding the bus...
You'll enjoy it.
I was a meth addict and got kicked out the house after geting busted with a felony amount of meth at the age of 17...best thing that ever happened to me really. I avoided prison and went to rehab, then bummed around the country for a couple of years. By the time I was 26 I had paid for my own college education, bought some land, built my own house(with my own hands) and had a farm...just by waiting tables and investing in the stock market.
I then lost all that and wound up financially destroyed by age 37 and was forced to go back to my parents for help and a place to live, but that's another story...and they were very cool about it(indentured servitude and being forced to virtually rebuild my mom's house aside)...
The thing is, getting kicked out of my house was the best thing that ever happened to me because of a huge part of my problem was the lack of respect(not just to me but to each other as well) in my home. They were part of my problem simply because they were hopelessly dysfunctional to begin with...and it was too intrinsic in their relationship for them to fix.
Go for it dude...it'll be much more fun than you realize. Stay away from hard drugs, learn when to smoke and when not to...dutto drinking and all other partying(which is going to be your first major obstacle) so they don't cost you your job.
And I cannot stress this strongly enough, stay away from credit card debt and paying people to do things you can learn to do yourself(which is just about everything)...if you can avoid those things you should be able to make it financially even on a lowpaying job...watch those credit cards though, they'll ruin you and you'll never have a dime. About the only thing you should buy on credit is a house...
Last edited by whottt; 02-09-2009 at 03:51 AM.
Damn, it's ed up how many people are ragging on Sinister from their high horses. From the original post it sounds like he's the one in the wrong, but that's pretty chicken to bully up and pile on this guy. Sinister, if you're reading and haven't returned home, my only advice is to value your family. Friends come and go, gfs/bfs come and go, but your blood is almost always going to be there for you.
It's not a high horse, it's the facts. I got stomped for disrespecting my mother, and my children suffer similar consequences. I work too hard, make too many sacrifices and give them too much to put up with that .
And why is it chicken ? This forum is full of little bags that talk to other people like and don't think twice about it, who feel so EN LED to respect, yet haven't done a damn thing to deserve it. As a parent and as someone who wasn't raised to be an obnoxious asshole I'm awfully hard pressed to find an lot of sympathy. No one made him post that. I know I sure as wouldn't have.
Chicken my ass. The dude sounds like a spoiled little brat, and he is ing 20. Plus, from what he's told us, his parents didn't do anything wrong. He took their van without permission (after they had bought him a ing car) and then had tantrum because they got pissed? Give me a break!
and don't even get me started on the whole "scratching his own face" bull .
If I ever talked to my dad, he would have took the way out and called the cops. Of course, I don't talk to my dad that way.
OK, lemme get this straight...
1) This little got lives in his parents basement.
2) His parents give him his own car to drive.
3) He took his Mothers van without permission. He still doesn't understand why that might bother them.
4) When his mother asked for the keys to the car they give him drive he refused.
5) He told his mother to shut the up.
6) When his father interceded he shoved him.
5) Then this badass parent abuser runs out of the house screaming, scratching his face, probably bawling like a baby and has to be restrained by a GIRL to "keep him from hurting himself".
*sigh*
WTF???...No wonder this country is going to ...
Bull . This is mob mentality at its finest. Everyone wants to come kick this guy when he's down.
Umm ... he had a temper tantrum because he got told no.
And WTF is that scratching business? Whatever happened to just stomping your feet and holding your breath?
Last edited by SpursWoman; 02-09-2009 at 11:34 AM.
yeah, there's some mob mentality here, but I think this dude needs to weed through all the name calling and sort out the good advice that's being thrown at him.
at the end of the day, I blame the parents. They should have straightened his ass out a long time ago.
Kids today are pampered and given so much it's disgusting.
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Oh that.
The dude is 20 years old. Exactly when the does personal responsibility start? There is no such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect world.
he's definitely responsible at 20 years old.
But if his parents wouldn't have babied him the previous 19, he probably wouldn't be running out the door screaming like a girl and scratching his face.
If I was his daddy, for starters, he wouldn't have had friends in my house playing guitar hero in the basement until he got his sh1t straight.
Blaming the parents is a cop-out. The only person you can blame is yourself. The only time I blame the parents is when they let the kids do whatever the they want. I would rather get my ass kicked every day by my dad then be one of those little whiny kids.
More or less, that.
Don't get me wrong. I think the kid has a lot of the blame for sure....
I don't enough about this kid, but I'm betting these parents basically let him do whatever he wanted to growing up.
Now that he's adult size, he's still trying to do whatever he wants like take a minivan that belongs to mom and it's not computing in his head why he still can't do whatever he wants.........so he punches dad and scratches up his face.
I've seen this with my nephew. He was a spoiled brat growing up. Now he's a worthless 20 year old that works part time at Wendy's, full time on the bong.
The mother focker has been arrested at least 4 times and among other things, has had the audacity to take my car out without asking when he has stayed over.........and he was 15 at the time.
He didn't hit his pop because he thought he could do whatever he want. Nor is that why he told his mom to STFU. He was trying to apologize and his mom kept interrupting him, probably hysterically. That 's ing annoying and doesn't make what he did right, but that's why he told her to shut up, not because he thought he had a right to the car.
The physical altercation with his dad resulted from the verbal altercation with his mom, which resulted from her interruptions, which resulted from his apology, which resulted from trying to jack the minivan. escalates and you can't just blame everything that happened on the root cause or mistake he made.
wow, it sounds like you were there and saw the whole thing.
Just read the man's/child's post.
I did.
Am I really supposed to read into it as much as you did?
Whoa, no orders... I meant I just read. As in phonetically pronounced- red. Like, I just read the man's post. Sorry about the confusion.
And I'm just saying- I'm not reading anything into it. That's what he said happened.
ok
Today I get a call from a weepy, sick 13 year old with a low-grade fever and swollen tonsils begging me to please, please drop everything I'm doing at work and come pick her up from school. And of course I did, because I love her. So on the way to get her, I ran into Walgreens and got her some thoat lozenges, Chloroseptic spray, some Theraflu, some Tylenol Cold medicine, a big box of Kleenex and a 3 liter of Sprite Zero.
Two-way street, my ass.
damn.Today I get a call from a weepy, sick 13 year old with a low-grade fever and swollen tonsils begging me to please, please drop everything I'm doing at work and come pick her up from school. And of course I did, because I love her. So on the way to get her, I ran into Walgreens and got her some thoat lozenges, Chloroseptic spray, some Theraflu, some Tylenol Cold medicine, a big box of Kleenex and a 3 liter of Sprite Zero.
Two-way street, my ass.
you forgot to get her some new clothes from hollister, a new ipod and a new car for when she turns 16.
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