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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    I'm pretty sure the day they move out would run a close second.
    That is what I thought until my parents told me the day I left for the Corps was one of their worst days.

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    Joe, you're a good man.

    I think you handled it as well as you could have.

    I don't know why, but when I read your initial post, I felt a sense of panic. I've got a good 14-15 years before I go through this with my little one. But, I'm not sure if I'll handle it as well as you did. The whole hand holding/closeness thing would drive me ing insane.

    You did well, man.

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    She's turning 15 this month and yesterday we went to Fiesta Texas and he came along. Their "friendship" which I had heard about for weeks turned into something more about a month ago as she finally told us, which we already knew, that they were more than friends and that she really like him. Of course she had a mother-daughter talk and I had to hear it from my wife which is cool but something I just simply was not/am not ready for.
    I officially met the young man about 2 months ago and I gave him my "don't mess with my daughter" look and firm hand-shake and sized him up while I asked him a few questions to try to trip him up.
    First thing I liked was that he was not wearing saggy pants and addressed the wife and I as Sir and Maam and while trivial means a lot to me. Over all the meeting went well.
    So we met his parents a few weeks ago and yesterday we picked him and off we went to Fiesta Texas.
    It was all good until, and I knew it was going to happen, I saw them holding hands and walking arm-in-arm together that it hit me like a ton of bricks. My oldest has turned a major page in her life and my little girl now has her attention locked on another male and it hurt.
    I gave them their space but did not allow them to wander off by themselves and I did have to tell the wife to tell her to cool a bit when I felt there was a little too much touchy feeling going on for my liking and if she didn't I would and I won't be PC about it.
    The worse part is that I know the first one's don't stick and that she is going to get hurt and our first loves are hard and that is why they call it heartbreak.
    After we got home last night we had a father-daughter talk and I was blunt and to the point and we laughed and cried together and in the end she knew that I was behind her 100% and will be there when she needs me and that I also will not stop being a father to appease him or her friends. She knows that. We also had the Rhianna/Chris Brown talk and that NO MAN has the right to abuse her physically, mentally or verbally.
    Parenting is indeed the toughest job in the world but it is a job that I relish and would not trade it for anything else in the world.


    I'm glad to see you're giving the guy a chance and not just auto-hating him because he likes your daughter. Parents are usually extremely hard on their daughters' boyfriends, which I'm sure everyone can agree with, but like I said kudos on not just automatically disliking the poor kid. You're obviously a good father, Joe.

    You should offer her boyfriend a doobie, see where it goes...

    But always be diligent. Teenage boys, while capable of sincerely caring for and loving females, are horny little bas s.

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    You just talked me out of having kids.

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    I don't have limits sonic21's Avatar
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    you handled it extremely well, you're lucky to have a daughter who's not hiding her boyfriend from you (most 15 years old girls usually do that).
    I will marry my first gf next year. I met her when we were 16 and we knew her dad wouldn't handle it well, so we waited 4 years before telling him.

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    Joe,
    Your daughter is blessed to have you for a dad.

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    She's turning 15 this month and yesterday we went to Fiesta Texas and he came along. Their "friendship" which I had heard about for weeks turned into something more about a month ago as she finally told us, which we already knew, that they were more than friends and that she really like him. Of course she had a mother-daughter talk and I had to hear it from my wife which is cool but something I just simply was not/am not ready for.
    I officially met the young man about 2 months ago and I gave him my "don't mess with my daughter" look and firm hand-shake and sized him up while I asked him a few questions to try to trip him up.
    First thing I liked was that he was not wearing saggy pants and addressed the wife and I as Sir and Maam and while trivial means a lot to me. Over all the meeting went well.
    So we met his parents a few weeks ago and yesterday we picked him and off we went to Fiesta Texas.
    It was all good until, and I knew it was going to happen, I saw them holding hands and walking arm-in-arm together that it hit me like a ton of bricks. My oldest has turned a major page in her life and my little girl now has her attention locked on another male and it hurt.
    I gave them their space but did not allow them to wander off by themselves and I did have to tell the wife to tell her to cool a bit when I felt there was a little too much touchy feeling going on for my liking and if she didn't I would and I won't be PC about it.
    The worse part is that I know the first one's don't stick and that she is going to get hurt and our first loves are hard and that is why they call it heartbreak.
    After we got home last night we had a father-daughter talk and I was blunt and to the point and we laughed and cried together and in the end she knew that I was behind her 100% and will be there when she needs me and that I also will not stop being a father to appease him or her friends. She knows that. We also had the Rhianna/Chris Brown talk and that NO MAN has the right to abuse her physically, mentally or verbally.
    Parenting is indeed the toughest job in the world but it is a job that I relish and would not trade it for anything else in the world.
    You are a great father , and dude you know what?

    I would like to tell you one thing about Chinese stuff

    Old chinese people always said that a daughter was actually her father's girl friend in their "previous life"

    I don't know whether i say this word correct or not.

    Well,it's about chinese religon and quite hard to explain it clearly

    But anyway, you are a fantastic father though

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    God, I'm glad those days are over for me. Don't be suprised if you start getting a strong craving for Gin.

    They don't call me Marini Martini, for nothing!!!

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    It sounds like you handled it well, good luck.

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    Next time he comes over to your house, sit at the table and clean your gun.
    Agree with this. One of my brothers experienced the "gun collection" trick and he doesn't even think about touching that girl. Also be sure to act a little bit crazy.

    Good luck

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    True, but I didn't find my true love until I was 34 yrs and I've had my heart broken several times.
    I don't know anyone who is with their FIRST love but then again one could say that I was in love before but it wasn't my TRUE love like me.
    I'm still with my first love. We were teenagers when we got together, so I was her first love and she was mine. I turn 26 soon, so that's about 6 and a half years together and we are still just as happy and silly as in the beginning.

    So there is hope. Your daughter just has to make sure she understands that UNDER NO CIR STANCES does she have to give up her body to please her boyfriend.

    She has to be SURE this guy loves her. If he does, he doesn't mind waiting.

    If she understands that and practices it, that should put your mind to rest lol

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    this is why I hope for sons

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    Tough situation, man. I think you handled it pretty well. My oldest is now 15 yrs. old and finishing up her first year of high school. The thing I try to remind myself of is that teenagers have secret lives that they don't tell parents about until about 10 years later when they've hit adulthood.

    Of course, in my situation the real mind blower is that my daughter told me she likes girls instead of boys. So, overall I'm really happy. I haven't had to deal with the whole intimidate the boyfriend thing yet. But, I might have to intimidate the girlfriend instead? Life was not this complicated when I was in high school.

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    this is why I hope for sons
    Yeah... then all you have to worry about is some girl coming to the door claiming your son knocked her up. What's the difference?

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    Shutty.. Bukefal's Avatar
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    this is why I hope for sons
    lol, me too

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    If you have a son, you only have to worry about one penis in the world; if you have a daughter, you have to worry about every penis in the world.

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    If you have a son, you only have to worry about one penis in the world; if you have a daughter, you have to worry about every penis in the world.
    Assuming the son and daughter in question are straight.

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    I also referred to my 15 year old girlfriends mother and father as mam and sir as I was porking her in their own bedrooms, in the kitchen, in the jacuzzi and anywhere else I could get my rocks off.

    It's all good though, you just have to accept that they can/are/will find a way to bump uglies under your nose, its a teenage right of passage.
    Last edited by Heath Ledger; 05-04-2009 at 01:30 PM.

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    Depressing thread. My daughter is 6. I have no clue how I will handle it when she starts dating. I keep her busy with school,soccer,dancing and acting. My plan is to keep her busy until she moves out. No boys. Good luck Joe!

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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    I'm still with my first love. We were teenagers when we got together, so I was her first love and she was mine. I turn 26 soon, so that's about 6 and a half years together and we are still just as happy and silly as in the beginning.

    So there is hope. Your daughter just has to make sure she understands that UNDER NO CIR STANCES does she have to give up her body to please her boyfriend.

    She has to be SURE this guy loves her. If he does, he doesn't mind waiting.

    If she understands that and practices it, that should put your mind to rest lol
    Best wishes and glad to hear the flame is still burning which is the key. I know I wasn't ready and since I was a late bloomer I was still learning.

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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    I also referred to my 15 year old girlfriends mother and father as mam and sir as I was porking her in their own bedrooms, in the kitchen, in the jacuzzi and anywhere else I could get my rocks off.

    It's all good though, you just have to accept that they can/are/will find a way to bump uglies under your nose, its a teenage right of passage.

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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    Tough situation, man. I think you handled it pretty well. My oldest is now 15 yrs. old and finishing up her first year of high school. The thing I try to remind myself of is that teenagers have secret lives that they don't tell parents about until about 10 years later when they've hit adulthood.

    Of course, in my situation the real mind blower is that my daughter told me she likes girls instead of boys. So, overall I'm really happy. I haven't had to deal with the whole intimidate the boyfriend thing yet. But, I might have to intimidate the girlfriend instead? Life was not this complicated when I was in high school.
    There was a time when we thought she may be gay because she simply didn't show interest in boys and wasn't very girlish but that has changed over the past year or so. Didn't matter though and she knew it wouldn't.

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    My oldest turns 12 on the 30th. I'm dreading the day she actually starts going out on dates, sure she's had boyfriends and they're going out.....but not anywhere outside of school.

    She is so beautiful too....

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    You have to watch out for the girls nowdays, too! Gone are the notions that boys are the only horn dogs and girls are the innocent victims being pressured by boys to do things they do not want to do. Some of the girls are very aggressive.

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