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  1. #51
    4 Star Asshole Strike's Avatar
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    Thanks for the advice and opinions. I wasn't looking for validation. The congratulatory high fives and hand shakes I got from friends and family were enough.

    There are no right or wrong opinions, although the whole donkey show, back to the future, taco bell thing was a bit disturbing. I was just looking for a little advice. The whole "quasi-married limbo" as Professor put it is getting tired.


    Another person helped by the people at SpursTalk.

  2. #52
    Spur-taaaa TDMVPDPOY's Avatar
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    hey dude if you need a lawyer....contact this guy


  3. #53
    4 Star Asshole Strike's Avatar
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    hey dude if you need a lawyer....contact this guy

    Great idea. I'll end up in jail!

  4. #54
    Spur-taaaa TDMVPDPOY's Avatar
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    hey if ur on the rebound, maybe you should hang out with one of the posters on here....who hang around with young single moms....

  5. #55
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    Of course you're allowed to see other women, you're marriage is over for all intensive purposes.

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    I can hook you up with a lot of fine chickens from the Portland area

  7. #57
    4 Star Asshole Strike's Avatar
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    hey if ur on the rebound, maybe you should hang out with one of the posters on here....who hang around with young single moms....
    No single moms.

  8. #58
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    You appear to have a sound handle on the situation. I suggest acting swiftly on filing for divorce, as it appears there isn't a need to further try nor reconcile. Good luck to you.

  9. #59
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    so atm ur not interested in chicks, single moms....


    how about ladyboys?

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    Man you are long overdue for a new adventure. You don't have to be in a relationship to have relations.

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    So here's the deal. My wife moved out of my place April 8th. I told her I wanted a divorce because of infidelity on her part. Since the day she moved out, she has called and texted me every day telling me how much she wants me back, how much she still loves me, etc. Most of the time, I just ignore the texts. When I ignore her, she starts to get paranoid and asks me if I'm seeing someone. Then it goes into full on accusations of me "cheating" on her. For the record, I'm not seeing anyone. I haven't seen anyone since she moved out. I never cheated, never screwed around, whatever. So her accusations are completely baseless. When I finally text her back, everything's back to normal. An interesting recurring thing we kind of have. I would just change my number but she'll call my parents' house looking for me, causing me more drama than I care to deal with. So I just let her text me endlessly and tune it out.

    Of all the many things she continuously tells me, one is that she doesn't want "the guy" with whom she cheated. Says it nearly every day. Well, I got home from work this morning and hadn't received any texts. I usually do before I get home. Didn't think anything of it. As the day progressed, still nothing. Started to notice the oddity of my silent phone. So I popped off a text around 3:30 simply saying "u ok?" She replied and asked to see me when she "gets back". Hmm, that's weird. She never goes anywhere. I inquired, she ignored. I continued to inquire, she continued to ignore. I called her phone. Straight to voicemail.

    Ok. She's now avoiding me. She never avoids me. EXCEPT when she's with "the guy". Now I know what she's doing. Keep in mind, I no longer care if she sees "the guy". I no longer want her so as far as I'm concerned, she's free to do what she wishes. I'd just like her to act like an adult and just tell me straight up. After nearly 10 years of marriage, I don't think I'm asking for something unreasonable. And the fact that she repeatedly accuses me of having an affair annoys me a bit since she's obviously being just a tad hypocritical.

    So, as far as I see it, I'm free to see other women since she's back to/still seeing "the guy". She wouldn't be able to say peep about since hasn't a leg to stand on. I know she'll get mad if I start dating but I really don't care. As long as she's doing what she's doing, I'm free to do the same.

    Am I wrong here?
    alright bud, just compelled to read this story. Here's an unmarried mans advice who has seen a lot of relationships but been thru few that have lasted more than say 6 months. Be warned, lol.

    Alright i read the first few sentences that your wife moved out because of HER infidelity. Lets remember that here!

    The next part i can relate to, a girl wants you back-she made a mistake-of course she texts you all the time-and i bet you were like=see a text, whatever-ill deal with that later. Right or wrong? Cuz on a more basic level a chick would always text me who i didn't like but we hooked up, but she didn't get the point so kept on doing it and doing it and when i wouldn't respond for awhile she'd be like "oh you have a new girl", lmfaoooo. I was like wait were not together, your crazy, and i only hooked up with u drunk. But i digress. Your on a diff level

    on the accusations, why didn't you just say "what, who is the ones fault we are at where were at". I believe what you say you didn't do anything after she moved out but that wouldn't be cheating imo, your wife started that, remember, SHE broke the vows. You owed her nothing at that point.

    Now onto the getting home and texting her, c'mon, you know she's shady, she's moved out, text u all the time, it seemed like a comfort thing for you , right? to here her saying im sorry and like that? Bro, F her she's playin with ya, i know you were married to her and care for her deeply but you should never text her and should be onto your own thing.

    She owes u honest explanations, but a woman who cheats while living with you , then moves out and acts all weird is exactly a woman who id expect to give me a lie. Shes shady, you know that don't convince yourself otherwise, remember the first few sentences-she cheated.

    But, the question is do you still love her, from your post it seems as though you have moved on, but is that really how you feel? If it is, yes go to a strip club immediately, go to a bar, start meeting women there's a ton of ladies out there-but if you still love her, your going to have to talk this out with her and come to some type of peace, agreement, whatever. Hopefully your done with her, sounds like a ty situation, sorry to here it man, but you can move on. IDK if that all made senese, kind of buzzed, but good luck, things will work out!

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    The fact that I haven't sought out new companionship is not because of any attachment to her. I just have no desire to be in any kind of relationship right now.
    I know I am in the minority here, but I wish more people would take some time when a long-term relationship ends and be alone to sort through things and deal with things. It is healthy that you can do this. Good luck.

    As to the hypocrisy, it has been my observation that people who accuse you of cheating are cheating themselves.

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    She doesn't want the car and she doesn't have a driver's license anyway.
    How good of a job/career can someone have without a license, if any? Good riddance.

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    Same thing happened to me stike........wife was cheating.......filed for divorce, she bothered the outta me from then on. She really got pissed when I started dating. She said......... "well if I cheated, then you cheated too, because our divorce isnt final yet".......... in psycho babble bull . Anyhow, my EX didnt leave me alone until she got remarried. Bothered the out of my new wife and I. Callin all times of night and . Anyhow, the cheater always freaks out when they are busted, and their spouse throws in the towel and moves on with their life. Expect her to be a until she actually gets remarried. Hopefully you dont have kids...........sounds like you dont. That will be a much cleaner break. I have to see my EX biatch every other week. in !!!! Anyhow, I dont hate her anymore.

  15. #65
    4 Star Asshole Strike's Avatar
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    so atm ur not interested in chicks, single moms....


    how about ladyboys?
    Has nothing to do with being interested in chicks. I'm not interested in dating or being in a relationship. A random hookup would be cool but I'm not looking for anything right now. I'm happy being by myself right now.

    And no single moms because I don't want to have to deal with/hear about someone's kid.

  16. #66
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    Just be happy you're not my parents who took 5 years to agree to a divorce once they separated. Those were a rough 5 years

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    Oh and as for your question... I don't think you are "wrong" but you have to really stop caring if she's still seeing the guy or not. After she said texted about when she "gets back", you should have just left it alone instead of trying to continue contacting her.

    unless its for evidence in the legal proceedings.

  18. #68
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    Just be happy you're not my parents who took 5 years to agree to a divorce once they separated. Those were a rough 5 years
    That sucks. Knowing my ex, she'll get served with the papers, freak out and try to avoid the whole thing. Good for me since the divorce goes through if she doesn't respond or contest it within 30 days.

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    unless its for evidence in the legal proceedings.
    Wasn't the point at the time but I did save the texts where she told me she was with the guy a few days ago.

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    That sucks. Knowing my ex, she'll get served with the papers, freak out and try to avoid the whole thing. Good for me since the divorce goes through if she doesn't respond or contest it within 30 days.

    Just be glad you don't have kids with her. Almost all divorces that get really ugly and start getting expensive are because of kids.

  21. #71
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    Strike, if you live in Texas and have no kids go for it Brah. Screw her Mamma, her sister, whomever. She's still going to get 1/2 of what ever you aquired together in the last ten years, debts included!!! If you do have kids, Keep your "Johnny Joe" clean, cuz if she gets custody, she'll run you over!
    That's your answer right there.

  22. #72
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    That's your answer right there.
    No, actually. I live in Oregon, not Texas. Oregon is a "no fault" state but not a community property state. And there's nothing of any value to split up, anyway.

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    Sounds like your on the ball, Strike!!! Good luck to you, man!

  24. #74
    Believe. Fabbs's Avatar
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    Strike,
    Please tell us you have contacted an Oregon atty who can tell you what the exact laws are in Your City, OR.

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    I'm making that call tomorrow.

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