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I don't like talking to anyone over the phone in public places. I get where you're coming from. You took it to the extreme though, brah.
I'm in a Barnes and Noble with a big-ass pile of magazines in their sitting sections, as is my wont. And this asshole in the chair next to me is jabbering away on his cellphone for well over 5 minutes. Finally I can't take it anymore so I get up, say "GOD INGDAMMIT, NOBODY WANTS TO LISTEN TO YOUR PHONE CONVERSATION!" and storm out. I realize that I have a bit of a temper, but I consider his behavior anti-social and rude. I went up there to read, not listen to this wad jabber on his cellphone. I have no idea what he was talking about anyways, since he was speaking in Spanish.
In his shoes, I'd step outside because I prefer privacy for my conversations and don't want to bother other patrons. Whenever somebody calls me and I'm in a position where I have no privacy, I keep the conversation short and tell the other person I'll call them back when I'm in a better place to talk, unless it's an emergency. I don't speak Spanish but I could tell from his demeanor that he was just having a normal phone conversation. Anybody else bugged by people talking incessantly on cellphones in public?
I don't like talking to anyone over the phone in public places. I get where you're coming from. You took it to the extreme though, brah.
It's not like I got up in his face or anything, I'm not some Tough Guy. I didn't give him an opportunity to say anything back. In a related story, I have a VERY SHORT FUSE.
I have a pretty short fuse, too. like that never pisses me off that much. If I ever get annoyed by someone, I'll just give them a really pissed off look.
I always try that first, but the dip in this case was too engrossed in his conversation to notice my heavy sighs and glares in his direction.
I'm with you on this one. Those big box book stores all have some sort of cafe. Go there if you want to jabber on your phone. The rest of the store should be treated like a library.
Sounds like you were kind of a for saying it like that. Always best to be polite first and then if they are rude go ahead and be a . You should have just asked him politely if he wouldn't mind moving since it was the reading area.
Doing it the way you did it is pretty much the fastest way to create a scene. The guy basically has two choices the way you did it, either let you punk him publicly like that, or get back into your face.
Honestly, that type approach is something the world pretty much needs less of.
I mean look at it this way, that simple act by you likely pissed that guy off then he might have gone on to be shortempered with someone and so on and so forth.
<<<<< Always polite, until given a reason not to be.
BTW, doesn't suprise me that you are sort of a liberal...they do that a lot these days.
Well, to be honest, I'm not proud of my reaction. I have serious issues with anger management. Too long to get into here, but I recently went on an anti-depressant (as in today) and went to my doctor yesterday to seek treatment for severe depression and anxiety. I'm about to start going to a cognitive behavioral specialist. It seems to be the judgment of all that know me that I blow up at the little things (long stoplights, waiting in long lines at the grocery store, other minor annoyances, etc.) because I can't or won't blow up at the big things (not comfortable sharing here). I know I need help and I'm seeking it.
Glad you did what you did. I hate people who talk on their phone in doctor's clinics specially those 35 yr olds who try to talk to girls and gaming them for a . Inconsiderate bas s should do their phone chatting outside the office.
well, whottt is correct, I should've started off with the polite approach, and then escalated it from there if that bore no fruit. It just amazes me that people today don't seem to have any concept of common courtesy.
It's terribly annoying when someone's being overtly loud in a relatively quiet, public place. My BIGGEST beef, though, is when people are on the phone in the middle of a profanity-laced rant...ESPECIALLY when little kids are around. Workin in customer service for the majority of my still somewhat young life, I'm usually the one that has to ask them to either keep their voice down or take their conversation outside.
As you might've guessed, they apologize profusely and walk calmly out the door.
magazines count as reading?
You know what's funny, I would definitely consider you one of the hardest posters to piss off on these forums(and I've tried). It's amazing how things change. I wouldn't say I'm hard to provoke in real life, but I definitely go out of my way to be polite to people and treat them with respect(and then be a once I get a good reason).
I strongly reccomend you not take any anti-depressants and I also strongly reccomend that if you do, you research what you are taking thoroughly and don't just assume it's safe because a doctor is giving it to you.
For instance Paxil...this is flat out evil. I took this crap and actually had homicidal thoughts(which was even worse than it sounds at the time considering I always had a gun nearby and was frequently dealing with pissed off drug dealers and wife beaters and was also attempting a career change that pretty much ruined me financially), plus it can physically addict you after a month..took me 4 months after getting off that for the electrical jolts to stop...and I think I'm still a little bit twisted up from the entire experience. Plus I had anger issues as a kid.
I can tell you that you can learn to control it...you just need to find a focal point for you to outlet your anger in a relatively safe fashion, then you can learn to control it. But you do have the power to control it. You just have to realize it.
And if that doesn't work you can always get a secondary job that puts you in conflict with s where your anger can serve a positive purpose.
And you can always smoke pot(although some pot will actually give you anxiety). It was the stress relief we used for the first 250k years of our existence. Yeah it's a legal hassle, but anti-depressants can your mind permanently in very subtle ways. Not only by detatching you when you are on them, but leaving you with various forms of psychosis when you aren't on them. The pill you are going to get treats the symptom, not the cause.
My one experience with Prozac is that it did nothing to treat the underlying issues in my life, but it did wonders in controlling my temper and helping me to mellow out. They are not supposed to be happy pills, but coping pills. I don't expect anti-depressants to fix my issues, but give me a baseline to work through them. That's where the talk therapy comes in. I did Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy about 3 years ago, and it was a life-saver in many ways. It's the kind of therapy where they get you to change self-defeating behaviors and thoughts, instead of spending lots of time going over your childhood so you can figure out that you're ed up bc your dad didn't buy you a GI Joe doll one day when you were 8 years old. I need to get back to that.
As for pot...I've smoked pot almost every day, multiple times a day, for all of my adult life. When I was in college, it was a social thing I did with my friends. Over the past several years, it's made me turn inward in a way that I don't like. I've chosen to stay at home on Friday and Saturday nights many many times to smoke pot by myself instead of going out with friends and being sociable. I have nothing against pot, and I'm sure I'll smoke it again someday, but right now, it's not in my best interests to smoke. I've got to mellow out and regain the motivation to engage with the world, and pot won't help me with that. It doesn't have the same effects for everybody, and right now pot turns me into a hermit. I know on some level I was choosing to self-medicate and fill up some hole with pot, but it didn't fill that hole in a way that is satisfactory. I ran out two weeks ago and chose not to re-up.
It's been a ty year on a number of fronts, and lately I've been feeling overwhelmed and have had a hard time coping.
If I were you I'd look at things like your job, your diet, the people you surround yourself with, and see if those are the causes. You say you handle the big events well, and let it loose in the little events...do you have an abnormally large amount of big events? And if so why?
Is it that you really hate your job?
Diet is huge too...I drink a lot of Dr. Pepper and have pretty figured out that I turn into Satan after a few of those. It's no mystery to me why some chicks are so freaking moody either, bordering on psychotic between all the sugar they eat and they take like birth control bills which totally their mind. Granted they are going to be moody anyway to an extent...but next time you go on a date or something and your girl sucks down a piece of pie or icecream...watch her mood change and I'm talking usually downwards mood swing. And if you are ever in a relationship and your chick goes on the pill...watch out. If you've ever had a girl that just went totally on you and you can't figure out when or why, I guarantee if you look back on it you will usually be able to trace the change to when she went on the pill.
Omega 3 Fatty Acids(fish) are pretty good about adjusting your brain chemistry if you have anger issues...or so I've heard.
I'd be real wary of those anti-depressants if I were you, and I say this to you sincerely.
Did you have a short temper before you went on Prozac?
Job is a huge part of it. Mainly there is a project due in the middle of September that I am responsible for, and it's not a stretch to say that my job is on the line. It's a corporate environment, and I'm slowly realizing that this is not what I want to do with my life. The good news is that 2 weeks out it's 90% done and there don't seem to be any minefields left to navigate, but the last 3 months have been incredibly stressful trying to get this done.
The people I surround or have surrounded myself with in Dallas leave a lot to be desired. I grew up in Fort Worth, lived in Austin for 7 years, and moved to Dallas from FTW last December to be physically closer to my job. Dallas sucks in a lot of ways, mainly the people. There are a lot of good people in Dallas, and I've met a few of them that post on this forum, but overall Dallas' sucky reputation is richly deserved. I have little tolerance for fools, so I have mainly eschewed my Dallas "friends" to go home to FTW on the wkends.
Financially, I threw a lot of money into my car keeping it running, and it was one of those deals where had I known how much I was about to drop on it, I would've gotten a new car. Now I'm not in a position to take on a monthly note, and I've got to keep this clunker running while I get above water again.
There's been some really bad luck/frustrating situations on the dating/lady front - not any one thing, but all the above has just left me feeling overwhelmed.
It was after Nash left the Mavericks. He seems to look so happy in his avatar.
Yes. It's part of the genes I've inherited, I have a really short fuse for things like traffic, waiting in lines, stuff where you are not in control. It's an axiom that you shouldn't sweat stuff you have no control over, but it's easier said than done. That's part of why I moved closer to Dallas, so I could take the bus to work and not deal with a rush-hour commute. I'm very fast at things, I pick up things quickly and do them efficiently, and I get infuriated when I have to wait on other people and things that aren't as fast.
RE Pot:
I don't think pot works when you use it all the time. I don't think it should be used daily. And it's also when you use it. Don't look at it as some kind of fun thing...because it's really not fun if you think about it. IT's really not something you should use when you are going out with people or socializing either if you think about. It really doesn't enhance those experiences.
#1 it turns you into a dumbass.
#2. it can have unpredictable effects. It's not just that it effects each person differently, it's that weed has different effects. But there is definitely weed that puts you in a better mood when you are feeling depressed.
I don't think it's really a good social thing either. It's got the rep of being that but it really sucks at it...not something good to use when you have you need to be doing either.
It's something that needs to be respected.
But I'm saying if you are in a mood, abd you know how to use it, I definitely think it's better than most of the anti-depressants you are going to be given. But it definitely depends on the weed as well.
I have an addictive personality; I inherited it from my alcoholic father. I rarely if ever drink, but that addictive personality manifested itself with a voracious consumption of weed. I loved it from the first time I ever toked up. I know that it's not physically addictive, and any harmful effects dissipate with cessation, but I can't use it in a leisurely manner. Put a bag in front of me and I will smoke and smoke and smoke until it's gone.
Well traffic pisses everyone off, and it's a very real negative influence in all our lives...I dream of getting the out of Austin with it's traffic problems.
Anytime you have people packed in together tempers are going to get short, this is pretty much a proven fact. The more people are crowded the more animalistic and primitive they become.
Ha. I lived in Austin from 98-05, and I stayed the off 35 between 2-7 pm. If I needed to travel north-south, it was Mopac or city streets. Last time I was there was February, and it seemed worse than ever.
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