Need relationship advice

[manufan10]

Originally Posted by TDMVPDPOY
miamiheat guy should go out on his front lawn and scratch his face....
while screaming " " as loud as he can over, and over, and over.


/thread

This.

[JudynTX]

I am so glad I never have to worry about stuff like this, ever.

[DoubtingThomas]

miami heat and faith issues? whodathunk!

[mrsmaalox]

Other way around. She used to always tell me that when I wanted to break up during the start of our relationship.

Anyway, I just gave her a lot of space and left. I told her I blame myself and that I cannot keep trying alone. I love her very much and still want to try, I always will, but if she doesn't feel it, I can't do anything anymore.

So, about 6 hours later (she went to sleep after I left), she calls me and gives me kisses and says I love you I love you, before I even say a word on the phone.

She is getting better now. She was just depressed. It took me leaving and not being around her trying to help her for her to finally snap out of it.

I imagine you've used this guilt trip defense to solve many other "problems" in your relationship.

[Kriz-Maxima]

Classic passive/aggressive bull . You suck.

I was about to comment just that CC.

[MiamiHeat]

some nasty posters in here

I bet some don't even have girlfriends and never even had a relationship last that long

[MiamiHeat]

You have an image of what she is supposed to be and she can't live up to that. That is actually a facet of your narcissism.

I completely understand that view point. To be fair though, the only thing I have asked of her is to not leave me waiting for hours (in this case only 1 hour, but I already admitted overreacting) when we are supposed to meet.

Is that so horrible? I don't think it ever warrants my reaction, but I am not doing this out of nowhere. I am not evil or something. I was hurt by her a long time ago and then I dragged it out unintentionally. So now when she is late for a long time, and I don't know where she is, I got paranoid. It's dumb really, I shouldn't have done that. Life's too short to be worrying. I know that. I easily fix it.

Anyway, I admit my mistake and have given her my heart and trust again 100% again.

You are manipulative by telling her that you lose faith in her every time she does something that does not meet with your "approval."

I don't tell her I lost faith in her every time. This is the first time I have ever said it to her in my life. The other times, I get self-destructive, I ask her things like "Why?"

and

"Are you sure you want this relationship? Do you want to break up?"

By the way, she asked me to stop bringing up the "Do you want to break up?" question because she doesn't even like to think of it. I stopped doing it after she asked.

So it's not like I'm some horrible manipulative guy here. I KNOW I am a good man, who in this case, made a big mistake that drained her of her energy and threw her into a depression.

I also think she suffers from depression anyway. Most of the time I have to walk on egg s s because if even the tone of my voice changes to non-happy, she starts asking me "Is everything ok? Your voice changed, are you happy?" and I always re-assure her, yes everything is fine, I am just x. x = tired, laid back, etc.

I don't mind any of this though. We are usually always happy and very satisfied together. We can talk for 2-3 hours everyday even after 6 and a half years. Sometimes, we look at the time, and I say "Wow, we have been just talking for 2 hours. Even after all this time, we still love each other and talk like when we first met." and she is happy and loves that about us.

[JudynTX]

some nasty posters in here

I bet some don't even have girlfriends and never even had a relationship last that long

You're probably right, but you can't expect to get a nice answer here.

[Mugshot]

You're probably right, but you can't expect to get a nice answer here.

You gotta know where to go.

[lint]

You're probably right, but you can't expect to get a nice answer here.

He's dished out some nasty responses of his own in other threads so he shouldn't be surprised at all.

[manufan10]

some nasty posters in here

I bet some don't even have girlfriends and never even had a relationship last that long

Some of us don't lock them up, chain them up, keep them in a shed in the back yard, or get butt hurt when they're gone for awhile either.

[MiamiHeat]

Some of us don't lock them up, chain them up, keep them in a shed in the back yard, or get butt hurt when they're gone for awhile either.

Aren't you the Garrido guy?

[JudynTX]

He's dished out some nasty responses of his own in other threads so he shouldn't be surprised at all.

Just sayin....

[manufan10]

Aren't you the Garrido guy?

No, but I believe you are pretty damn close to it.

[ploto]

So it's not like I'm some horrible manipulative guy here.

You can be manipulative in many ways and much of what you have written is very indicative of your being controlling. Being passive-aggressive is one of the most common ways people manipulate.

Like this line:

I told her I blame myself and that I cannot keep trying alone.

The second half of that sentence in no way matches the first half whereby you claim to have taken responsibility.

[MiamiHeat]

If i am doing that, it's not intentional. I just want her to know I am not giving up, just like she didn't give up on us back during the start of our relationship. She was/is in a state of depression, if I give up and don't re-assure her that I want to stay together and will do my best, then she will be negative.

[SpursGirl21]

I am not evil or something.

You told the Jesus lovers in this forum how full of they was, your not evil at all!

Life's too short to be worrying. I know that. I easily fix it.

According to you man evolves again and again so your life is not short you will just come back as a fish or a Gorilla.

I don't tell her I lost faith in her

Show her a few of your Darwin posts let her see the faith you really have.

So it's not like I'm some horrible manipulative guy here. I KNOW I am a good man,

Your Good alright you spend most of your life worshiping Darwin the rest of it watching Zeitgeist

. We can talk for 2-3 hours everyday even after 6 and a half years.

3-4 hours? ! How long does it take to sell her on your mind opening Evolution theories? I gave in after only reading 5 of your posts!

some nasty posters in here

You want nasty go check out the Jesus is just a myth a waste of time posts you made in the 100s of Evolution topics.

You guys are way too judgemental on me

If you say MR. Zeitgeist .


At least I can say you finally did prove Evolution is real!

you somehow evolved from a Prick to a real !

[Daniel Plainview]

People of the club I won't waste your time...
I normally don't respond to these type topics and I have no intentions on making my son suffer anymore than he already has reading seven pages of bull !.
But being in the oil bussness as long as I have I can say, if this MiamiHeat fellow would spend less time worrying and more time drilling he could be a wealthy man.

[JoeChalupa]

People of the club I won't waste your time...
I normally don't respond to these type topics and I have no intentions on making my son suffer anymore than he already has reading seven pages of bull !.
But being in the oil bussness as long as I have I can say, if this MiamiHeat fellow would spend less time worrying and more time drilling he could be a wealthy man.

Maybe he is just too slick for his own good.

[I. Hustle]

some nasty posters in here

I bet some don't even have girlfriends and never even had a relationship last that long

The funny thing is that most of us that are calling you a dumbass are married.




Dumbass

[JoeChalupa]

Perhaps a little faith wouldn't hurt? Works for us.

[half a man]

MiamiHeat you need to be all man not half a man!

[I. Hustle]

[Alex Jones]

[JoeChalupa]