Hang in there Miamiheat sometimes change takes time!
Still don't buy it.
MiamiHeat and his "girl"
Her telling him she was going to kill herself is manipulative as ...that's the ultimate act of manipulation. I realize she probably wasn't being intentionally manipulative, and she probably doesn't even realize it was manipulative, just like he's not really aware of how what he does his maniplation when he's doing it, but that doesn't change the fact that it was extremely manipulative. It's basically holding him hostage.
I'm not defending him but it's BS to say he's manipulative when she got him to stay in a relationship by doing that.
Regardless of what you want Heat, if she's got that deal of threatening suicide, she needs more help than a relationship. You will not find happily ever after down that road.
Nah, she's a dumb too. Both of them are idiot emo s.
You only need three things to fix any relationship
Okay, all you ST posters that have chimmed in or followed this thread.....
We ave not heard the girlfriend's story, but does it sound like one or both of these persons is a serious co-dependent?
eh
I thought Miamiheat was a stud!
Updates?
I think the problem is more that you've been doing this FOR 6 and a half years. You're manipulative and controlling. You've broken her.
You're not going to change, you're going to say just enough to get her to let her guard down, and then you're going to mind f her again.
"I've lost in faith in you."
Give me an break. I don't think the picture with the leash is too far from the truth.
Good Lord, haha, I just read the first 3 pages of this thread and all I can say is my head and stomach hurt. The OPs "problem" and how he thinks he can deal with it and deal with relationship situations is puzzling to say the least, and how this has gone on 9 pages/and some of the great responses are pure comedy.
isn't rocket science, at 26, I would expect a person to at least understand how to treat others, remember the golden rule? IF anything it sounds like you being with a chick that long has obviously neglected you from figuring out yourself first/or at least a grasp on basic communication/social skills. I would suggest you take a break from what seems an odd relationship, and not odd in a good way.
"l have 3 sons so l know you are no gift! You're not even good looking!!"
Are we going to get any updates or was this all BS?
She was clinically depressed. We are fine, and I'm helping her through it combined with therapy from a psychiatrist + meds.
Her mother is a diagnosed bipolar. Mother takes meds daily for the past 10 years for it...
She had never given me problems like this before, but she was always a little overly sensitive. I have to really be careful of overreacting with her from now on.
Women are sensitive and read into things all f'd up all the time. Life has problems. It's just standard procedure.
Speak for yourself!!!!
And it's still all about you right? The cycle continues......
dumb comment maalox.
The thread in this internet forum IS about me, missy. It's MY outlet, MY place to vent. So yeah, it's about me. I'm here to deal with MY problems on the internet with strangers, away from my family so when I go back to real life, I can be strong for her and my family and do whatever has to be done to help her.
I'm not here to make you feel better or walk on egg s s with mrsmaalox on SpursTalk so that she can hear what she wants.
Last edited by MiamiHeat; 09-19-2009 at 11:13 AM.
Same line jumped out at me, too. Is he talking about his girlfriend or his dog- definitely not about someone he treats as an equal. I just don't think he will ever get it.She had never given me problems like this before...
I have been suffering from depression on and off for over 2 years now and so I recognise all these signs as I had them myself.
I know that there are certain types of depression and they are usually caused by 1) something major in your life that needs sorted out 2) a chemical imbalance in the brain. Lets rule out number 2 and say that something in her life needs sorted out. The only major change in her life recently is that she has started back at school after the summer to do highers. She is always telling me about how hard it is and how much work she has although she always manages to get it done and is doing quite well from marks she is currently receiving. She has what you might call an unruley younger sister who seems to get preferential treatment from her parents and I have seen this for myself (but she makes it sound a lot worse than it is!). The only other thing is she is not happy with our relationship. We love each other very much but the actual relationship has become rather boring and pretty much a routine. You may remember my post about it.
The thing is it is a viscious circle now. I am pretty sure the relationship is causing all or part of this depressed behaviour and in turn is making it worse i.e. being bored, not wanting to do anything, being tired etc. Now because I have been suffering from depression myself on and off, I am getting worried that this might tip me back into it and so make her worse and make me worse etc etc. I have touched on the subject with her and she says that its just because she is having trouble sleeping. I know a lot of people go through some type of insomnia in their lives but what she describes is an exact symptom of depression. It is being very tired all day then at night going to bed and sleeping straight away out of sheer exhaustion but then only to wake up in the early hours, around 4 or 5am and not being able to get fully back to sleep, and then it's time to get up. This is exactly what I had. I am pretty convinced she has depression but I'm not sure she realises it. What can I do? I am very worried about her and our relationship. If I am wrong and bring it up with her it could really damage our relationship. I am quite sure that some of you may suggest counselling which I too think might be a good idea but as I said I'm not sure she realises anything is wrong, it could just hurt her and damage our relationship, I whistled for a cab and when it came near the license plate said fresh and it had dice in the mirror
If anything I can say this cab is rare but I thought nah forget it. I pulled up to the house about 7 or 8 and I yelled to the cabbie yo holmes smell ya later I looked at my kingdom I was finally there To sit on my throne
We are fine now though.
Last edited by MiamiHeat; 09-19-2009 at 01:15 PM.
YOU DONT EVEN KNOW ME TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT
wtf, what a weirdo you are to make quick judgements off of 1 situation
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