Friends w/benefits
All things I have weighed mightily over the past week or so...It could mean that she is a keeper.
If she's a keeper, then I guess I could see how it plays out.
She has said repeatedly that she doesn't have other prospects, but who knows? I sure don't.
I have given consideration that she just wants to be friends, but she pretty much attacks me every time we hang out. It's just the buyer's remorse she has afterwards that has me wondering.
Perhaps her thinking i'm some sort of player is keeping her from being certain of which path she wants to take. Either way, I appreciate the advice from y'all.
Friends w/benefits
We have known each other for a couple years now and normally, I don't usually date girls that are my friends because of past experiences. Well, one day out of the blue she told me that she has liked me for the longest time and I, at first, was shocked that she confided that into me because I didn't think she had any interest besides being friendly. Well, we've been out on 3 dates now so about 2 weeks later and I'm being mystified by the signals I'm receiving.
Could be. Though I'd gladly take stock in that aspect, Sonic. It's been a while since I've had that much fun lol.
I have also thought about this scenario as well. I don't really want this to happen between us because we have a common network of friends that may be damaged if things get ugly lol...but then again, that could happen if we were to get serious.Friends w/benefits
Well coming from someone who did not kiss Bo until we had been dating for six weeks ( and by dating I mean we were spending extensive time together daily.)...
If this is a nice girl, she may be giving you mixed signals because she is still trying to process all the feelings she has for you.
Like you said, it is a major transition to move from being friends only to a romantic couple.
Not knowing the girl, it is hard to know whether she is being a tease ( since some girls are) or if she is really interested in you and these are natural new relationship jitters she is having.
Bo has always helped our relationship a great deal by being so patient and understanding with me.
I wish you all the best.
If the situation were Bo and me and if Bo were confused by me, I would want him to ask me about it.
Caaaaaareful, though. I know this isn't your first rodeo, Gem, but the "what are we doing?" talk doesn't always yield positive results.
if a chick is giving you mixed signals its because she either doesn't know what she wants or knows damn well what she wants and just wants to play games.
either way, it's a safe bet to pull back. that will just make her want you more if she is interested, in which case, you'll be in the drivers seat to call the shots as you please.
and if she isn't interested, then you're better off anyway.
True. The timing and tone of questions is important.
But I have found that making assumptions- I.E. trying to guess what someone else means/ thinks/ feels- has gotten me into more trouble than anything else when it comes to relationships.
Options should only be limited to vehicles, trips, DVDs, blurays, video games, etc. Don't become an option Gemini.
You and Bo seem to have a storybook relationship! I'm glad that you've found your man and subsequent happiness! That is so hard to find in the modern era!Well coming from someone who did not kiss Bo until we had been dating for six weeks ( and by dating I mean we were spending extensive time together daily.)...
If this is a nice girl, she may be giving you mixed signals because she is still trying to process all the feelings she has for you.
Like you said, it is a major transition to move from being friends only to a romantic couple.
Not knowing the girl, it is hard to know whether she is being a tease ( since some girls are) or if she is really interested in you and these are natural new relationship jitters she is having.
Bo has always helped our relationship a great deal by being so patient and understanding with me.
I wish you all the best.
Yeah, her and I have already kissed, but that's partially due to the fact we've known each other for a while now. I, at first, was the one more cautious than her and I've known her to be a sweetheart and not one to be overtly flirty. That doesn't mean she isn't a flirt, but from what I've seen and known--she's been real stand-up(ish) in how she conducts herself (which...is why I'm taking a chance on her...)
I'm just going to continue to just chill and let things progress in a way that will alow me to see clearly what she wants. If it doesn't work out; well, that'll be too bad and we'll see if we can remain cordial. If it works out; then I would be happy to take it to the next level.
I wish all the best for you both!
Yes, this isn't my first rodeo...but it is my first venture into changing a platonic relationship into something possibly more, so I appreciate the advice. I am never an option and I'll keep it that way, so if she at all plays me like that--I'll be gone with the quickness. I have no time for games which is why I'm just curious as to what'll go on. But, I am patient and will just sit back and see what unfolds. Thanks for the advice peeps...
You'll never know unless you ask. It's a yes or no decision she has to make "to tell you what she's thinking or not". If you wait for her to "feel" it you may be waiting for a long time.
I'm quite aware of that, Maalox, but yeah...I know if I don't at least be semi-assertive w/o the overt aggressiveness, it will be a long time. I'll be sure to have an eye on the clock with this one.
*burp*
Especially if her problem is commitment phobia. It would be terribly unfair of her not to lay it on the line. But generally I'm not in favor of starting relationships with platonic friends--when there are mutual friends involved. That's too much pressure for a new relationship. Good luck
Oh yummm. Sloppy Joe's for dinner sounds pretty darn good
MMMMmmmmmmm Nachos ....
I think my in-laws are coming over tonight for a visit.
They have had an open invite for some time and can finally take us up on it.
My mother-in-law has given us a lot of decorations- many of which I was able to incoporate into our apartment. I hope she likes what I have done with the place.
Pineapple limeade chiller from Sonic.
From where?MMMMmmmmmmm Nachos ....
What's a chiller? A smoothie type thing?Pineapple limeade chiller from Sonic.
Believe it or not the cafeteria ...From where?
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