How am I being defensive? I asked you a question about whether or not you should fold with a flush or full house because the unspoken rules state that you should stop betting if someone is tapped.
Do you mean this as a general rule of practice? Of course you bet with a made hand. Do you play only when you've got a made hand though? This is an actual question.
How am I acting like that? I'm disputing the notion that his friend is calling him out, when he actually made a pretty solid poker bet.
It's also just about the easiest player in the world to read. "Oh, Tony is betting this hand, he must have something good. I'll lay down my cards pre-flop so he doesn't get any money."
Does this concept include other people's hands as well? Because when you check holding a pair, and there are at least one or two other people at the table looking for a straight or a flush draw, is your hand somehow going to become stronger? Checking is for people who are ON a draw (or who want people to think they're on a draw), not for people whose hand has a better chance of being weaker if there are more people in the pot.
The "checking until I know I have everyone beat" is exactly what makes an average poker player average. There's nothing special about kicking everyone's ass with a set of aces on the flop, or a nut straight flush. It doesn't mean you have skill when you're 99.9% sure you've got the other players beat.
As the OP had stated, he had been checking down and folding for 45 minutes. Had he said, "Well I was just calling/raising bets off left and right and for some reason I kept getting beat!" my at ude toward his play would have been much different. Of COURSE Hold'em is about patience and making confident bets when you know you've got your opponent staring down a set and you're sitting on a high flush. But it's also about nutting up and betting into a pot that you're not sure you've got licked, because you're reading your opponents and you think they're holding rags.
Some of the best plays I've ever made were because I simply decided not to play the hand with the cards I was dealt. So instead of the dealer throwing me a 6-4 off suit, I called in the big and decided that I was REALLY holding A-Q suited, and bet accordingly into a group of weak hands, and won some nice pots from them.