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I say beat that (no ) but that's only if they are out of control
if you are able, verbal is the best way ya smell me homes?
I apologize if this topic has been posted before, but what are your views on corporal punishment? I say beat the little bas s (open-handed of course) and teach them some respect.
I say beat that (no ) but that's only if they are out of control
if you are able, verbal is the best way ya smell me homes?
Oh yes. You have to give them a whoopin once in a while.
tlongIII come defend yourself.
Most kids only need a couple of really good whippings. Then the fear of one becomes pretty effective.
warning, time-out, whuppin'. In that order.
Once they're old enough to talk back, they're old enough to get smacked! ... The wise words of the late Bernie Mac
I don't believe you can teach someone respect. You can teach them fear and elicit respectful behavior, but they still won't necessarily have respect. I have 3 kids and they have occasionally been spanked. Every person I associate with has kids, some spank, and some don't; some have good kids, some have brats---I really haven't seen an association either way.
just tell them you love them afterwards and it's all good.
Fair point, but wouldn't you agree that kids these days (god I sound like my old man) are more out of control than former generations? We live in a more sensitive era too
You have to.. this is how I learned respect at an early age. After that, I never got beatings... nothing compared to what me and my brother did to each other every time we fought... but we respected everything else!
Yes kids are more out of control, but (sounding like your old man here) times are different.
My personal experience with my own kids is that in some situations spanking works, and in others it doesn't. I was beaten A LOT when I was a kid and I really wasn't a bad kid; but that was the one size fits all punishment at our house. I don't think the spanking had a negative effect on me, but I also don't think it helped who I am today.
Kids these days definitely need to have limits set, but I think spanking is only one way to do that.
I wouldn't beat my kids especially since this is the 2000's we're talking about. Child Protective Services need to earn their money after all. Taking away their phone, video games, and internet seem like a much worse punishment for today's kid too.
Should you beat your kids? No probably not.
But can the occasional, well timed spank, with a strong understanding of why it was deserved, be effective? Of course.
My mom was the type to scream and hit whenever anything happened. It was the go-to response for everything I may or may not have done all the way through high school. After that many years, it didn't mean anything anymore. My dad, on the other hand, was generally very even tempered. He raised his voice to me once, maybe twice, when I was a kid, and spanked me (not a formal "get the belt" spanking, just a quick swat on the backside) twice. That he got angry enough to do that made it abundantly clear that I'd crossed a line and even as a kid I knew I never wanted to get him that pissed off again. Which was much different from my reaction to my mom, who, despite a lot of good times together, I pretty much thought of as just crazy and angry all the time -- there was no association between what I did and how angry she got, so there was no real reason for me to alter my behavior. I was a good kid, though not perfect, but I knew damn well I could have been a saint and would still have gotten smacked.
Tbh if you need to beat them you failed somewhere along the way.
That being said, I got my ass whooped several times....
It is a necessity.
I believe spanking is the easiest way for parents to shift the odds of their kids' future personalities to becoming decent people who are empathetic and sensitive to their actions when they might hurt others.
Nothign is ever certain in development but spanking is by far the easiest way to change a developing child's environment to noticeably shift the odds.
Kids who do not get spanked have more of a tendency to become egotistic, blue-blood wannabe, unapologetic....in short, assholes.
There are exceptions but for the most part this is undeniably true.
Some people will be nice and feel common human feelings like remorse whether they are spanked or not. But overall I am certain spanking is a necessity if you want to stack the odds in favor of your kid not turning into an asshole.
tartan heads beat their wives too...
I knew a guy who's dad threw gas on his leg and burned it because he broke a window when he was 8. The dad was drunk and the kid learned to not break windows anymore. The kid eventually became a serious drug addict and ended up dying in a drunken car accident later in life but he didn't break anymore windows. So I guess that punishment worked to an extent.
A lot of people are talking and not even stating if they have kids.
My parents spanked my brothers, but I rarely was spanked. I am a pretty nice guy from all accounts, so I don't see how it mattered for me that I was not spanked.
My son is 11, and was never spanked. I don't plan on it either. He is a good kid, although we will have to see what happens as a teen.
I was a teacher, and I could control a room full of 8 year olds without having to resort to any kind of physical punishment.
However, many kids from my class I know were spanked, and they mostly came from poor families. Those kids did not seem to benefit from it; their behavior was not better than the middle class kids that were mostly not spanked. They just learned that big people will hit you, so don't piss off people bigger than you. Also, if you are bigger, you can do what you want.
I can make my kid cry by taking away all of his games and tv and friends, so I have no need for hitting him anyway. Once someone is big enough to understand you, you should be able to motivate them to do what you want if you are smart enough.
Let me guess, you are white.
My mom just hit me once but it was cool. I ended up alright.
I don't have kids, but it wasn't that long ago that I was one. When a kid is spanked, he learns to think before he acts... he thinks of what the consequences might be and if you're getting spanked for it then it might be wrong. They don't think about right or wrong though, they think about whether they could get spanked for it. Yes, there is fear involved... but you need that. Respecting elders isn't bad either..
You HAVE to. Your children will become spoiled brats even as they grow if you don't give them some physical punishment. They think that "eh, mom/dad won't spank me anyway so I'll continue this "
But "beat" is a strong word.
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