My fiancee just left me

[Halberto]

Instead of giving you a lecture about how you ed up like everyone else is, I want to tell you one thing: women hate vulnerability and are very insecure themselves. Since I first got to college I've approached every woman this way and 90% of the time I used it for my benefit. If you still want her back, find someone new and don't reach out to her. She'll eventually find out through friends, facebook or whatever. She'll get curious to see who the rebound is and once she does it'll plant a seed that will eventually with her head. It doesn't matter how less attractive the new one is, all that matters is that you look happier without her and it will drive her insane. It's stupid, but women are children so you need to act like one sometimes.

[Findog]

You can't take her back under any cir stances, man. But it's good that you're trying to move past it all.

I have a car again. Do you have a regular pickup time at UT-D?

[Findog]

Instead of giving you a lecture about how you ed up like everyone else is, I want to tell you one thing: women hate vulnerability and are very insecure themselves. Since I first got to college I've approached every woman this way and 90% of the time I used it for my benefit. If you still want her back, find someone new and don't reach out to her. She'll eventually find out through friends, facebook or whatever. She'll get curious to see who the rebound is and once she does it'll plant a seed that will eventually with her head. It doesn't matter how less attractive the new one is, all that matters is that you look happier without her and it will drive her insane. It's stupid, but women are children so you need to act like one sometimes.

I took her off my facebook, because I don't need to be looking at her profile and I don't want her to know what I'm up to. And other than the letter, I haven't called, texted, emailed, whatever.

The idea for the letter came from here:

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...ule-46556.html

I chose Option 1.

[monosylab1k]

I have a car again. Do you have a regular pickup time at UT-D?

I'm not regular, but I like to go Thursdays around 7-ish. Not sure if I can go this week, but I do get out there at least a couple times every month. Check your PM's in a few minutes

[Mono's understudy]

I agree with mono

[monosylab1k]

I agree with mono

crofl I know who you are

[koriwhat]

couples counseling? a letter in the mail? just drop it man and move on.

sucks... life's a ... move on to the next chick.

[Phillip]

tbh make sure you get everything you can off your chest first about the whole situation. i think your letter was a good idea, especially letting her know that you felt that she may have handled it in an uncool manner, and if you have anything else to say, try doing so, but in a dignified manner (beating the out of her, cussing her out, or something rash like that doesnt count, but im sure you are smart enough not to do something like that. i said it in the case i overestimated you and you end up being a ing dumbass like koriwhat or someone like that), so that you have as few regrets about it as possible down the road when you look back. the "i wish i had..." thoughts could end up kicking your ass, so make sure you think with a clear state of mind about anything that you know about yourself that may bite you in the ass in the future that you may be able to handle right now.

[Phillip]

couples counseling? a letter in the mail? just drop it man and move on.

sucks... life's a ... move on to the next chick. or in my case, the next dude!

lol MAV !!!!

fify

needed more

[Phillip]

So?

I see post after post in this thread concerned with how Findog "looks" if he does anything other than kick this girl to the curb.

Why are so many people concerned with how they "look"? What does he really lose by making himself clear to someone whom he obviously cares for?

Even if the odds are small that a reconciliation is possible, only a fool would say they are zero. And I will never fault a guy for trying in good faith to keep something good together. Love requires risk. No risk, no love. Though I take it from quite a few responses in this thread that many guys here are not interested in risk nor love.

I agree with this. Even if it doesnt end up working out, at least down the road he can look back, knowing he tried his best to make it work, and can live better with himself, instead of in regret.

[Leetonidas]

I agree with mono

There he is

[monosylab1k]

so someone who can pull this kind of bull out of the blue deserves a second chance?

tbh Findog if you ever get back with this chick, you are the fool here. but I know ur smarter than that.

[Mack BrownTurdFagGit]

I agree with this. Even if it doesnt end up working out, at least down the road he can look back, knowing he tried his best to make it work, and can live better with himself, instead of in regret.

i don't know what it is but i feel you dumped smegma on me when I invited you over to have a 3some with me and LaMarcus Bryant and you declined asshole

yeah yeah America/basement/calf tats/ ! per the usual

[monosylab1k]

If this was just some BF/GF , then yeah maybe reconciliation is okay. But she agreed to marry him, she made a commitment to him, and then out of the blue pulls this crap? her. If she ever comes back, it's only cuz she thinks she has Findog by the balls and can control everything.

[Phillip]

so someone who can pull this kind of bull out of the blue deserves a second chance?

tbh Findog if you ever get back with this chick, you are the fool here. but I know ur smarter than that.

not saying she deserves it, or that he should get back with her. just saying he should at least do what he can to say he tried his best to make it work, so he has no regrets about it on his own end. some people wont let those kinds of thoughts turn into regrets for themselves, some will. everyone is different. findog may be one of those who does, especially judging by the fact that he sent the letter in the first place. if he didnt send it, obviously he wouldnt be worried in the least bit about such thoughts bugging him down the road.

[SomeCallMeTim]

so someone who can pull this kind of bull out of the blue deserves a second chance?

tbh Findog if you ever get back with this chick, you are the fool here. but I know ur smarter than that.

"Deserve's got nothing to do with it."

Love doesn't take into account a wrong suffered. Maybe that makes a person a "fool" and I do believe in boundaries, including a "point of no return" -- but I don't think that's been crossed here. YMMV.

And -- believe it or not -- people do make mistakes, learn from them, and change. It's called growing up, maturing, taking responsibility, etc. Not everyone does it. Some do.

Quite a few of us wouldn't even exist were every relationship based on the black-and-white rules you seem to favor.

[BUMP]

It's pretty much been said over 100 times in here, but I feel there's no way you can go back to that and the best is to forget about it completely. Yeah it was shameful at first, but it we've all had super embarrassing moments and the sooner you forget about it the sooner you move on. It's already been 2 weeks, so it's pretty much over.

[Leetonidas]

After reading through this...it's interesting to see how everyone puts their differences aside when someone needs some serious advice (well, not everyone, I saw plenty "stop being a got" posts ). I will just go ahead by saying that it sucks, I feel for you, we've all been in a similar situation and time is the only thing that will make it better. You just have to live your life. Once you start enjoying things again and she is out of your life long enough, you won't even remember what she did to make it better. Just keep yer head up.

[Phillip]

After reading through this...it's interesting to see how everyone puts their differences aside when someone needs some serious advice (well, not everyone, I saw plenty "stop being a got" posts ). I will just go ahead by saying that it sucks, I feel for you, we've all been in a similar situation and time is the only thing that will make it better. You just have to live your life. Once you start enjoying things again and she is out of your life long enough, you won't even remember what she did to make it better. Just keep yer head up.

your best post ever.





























































got

[Leetonidas]

Knew that was coming.

[koriwhat]

fify

needed more

... if you want me to call you a i can, it's easy to do.

btw, thinking it was a good idea for him to send love letters to a chick who dumped his ass and is most likely in' some other dude already and has been. hahaha!

what are you 12? that's not a good idea at all.

[Jose Canseco]

so someone who can pull this kind of bull out of the blue deserves a second chance?

tbh Findog if you ever get back with this chick, you are the fool here. but I know ur smarter than that.

+1 just like Sammie's dumbass staying with Ronnie

[Phillip]

... if you want me to call you a i can, it's easy to do.

btw, thinking it was a good idea for him to send love letters to a chick who dumped his ass and is most likely in' some other dude already and has been. hahaha!

what are you 12? that's not a good idea at all.

love letters are one thing. but getting personal feelings off his chest and trying his best to do all he can in his power to make it work, is a completely different ballpark, you ing dumbass.

[koriwhat]

love letters are one thing. but getting personal feelings off his chest and trying his best to do all he can in his power to make it work, is a completely different ballpark, you ing dumbass.

yeah, i'm the dumbass who wants fin to "make it work" with a chick who straight up clowned his ass from the get go and took off when the time was right. you're looking more and more like a pussy by the day.

[JoeTait75]

If Fin wants to "make it work" he'll do everything he can to ignore this chick. Writing her, calling her, acknowledging her in any way is completely counter-productive. I know this from hard experience.