How is Melo being honest?

We all know he's not testing the waters next season because of a possible lockout and drastic changes in the CBA rules. His mind is set on either the Nets or the Knicks. If we're going by Jamstones assumption, Melo is telling the Nuggets F/O that "No I'm not asking you to trade me but I will not sign an extension either" Melo appears ready to make the Nuggets FO look bad by playing the victim role here. When he plays for a new team next year, he'll have this freedom to tell the press that "He was traded" and "Did not management to trade him" when we all know the Nuggets are forced to do this or they'll come empty handed. Melo doesn't want accountability, plain and simple. He wants to leave without guilt, but truth of the matter is he was ready to leave in the Summer of 2010. Had he come up clean at that time, the Nuggets would have more leverage because of the FA madness going on at that time.
If Melo really wants to exercise honesty, he needs to tell the Nuggets Management point blank that he's not signing with them. Period. The only reason Melo is not playing in NJ or NYK right now is due to the incessant demand of the Nuggets front office for a wide variety of talent and cap relief, all this for the price of their leaving Star.
And people can't really compare Lebron's situation to Melo. You see how bad the Cavs are/were this season, it was a great decision for Lebron to leave since winning a championship is the only goal left.
Melo is surrounded by a wide range of solid supporting cast, and in the playoffs, Melo has been disappointing failing to elevate his game. So from a basketball point of view, he's leaving for all the wrong reasons. If he's leaving because he wants to be closer to his family then there's nothing to be said about that, but lets not make Melo a person of great honesty or he's willing to test Free Agency when we all know he's in a predicament because of possible drastic changes in the CBA rules.