I agree that Motoblur is bloated and unnecessary, but keep in mind that this is essentially first-gen stuff. Before the Droid, there was no single phone running Android that had a large user base. The manufacturers are still figuring out how to integrate Google's OS with their own experience. Again, if you'll recall, the iPhone and even the iPhone 3G did not even have certain basic functions like copy-paste for a while. It took Apple quite some time to tinker with the product to get it to the level it's at now, and I recall many a gnashing of teeth back in the day about the iPhone not having a slew of features following it's first 18-24 month's of existence. These things take time, and I think there's a lot of opportunity for Motorola/HTC/etc to improve their UIs to be more friendly and streamlined.
There's a fair amount of marketing babble in what you just said. Every major purchase you buy creates a user experience. Driving a Prius is much different than driving a Taurus or a Leaf, for instance, even though all of them are cars that do almost the exact same things. Android is, at worst, nearly as capable as iOS. There isn't a lot of separation between them, especially for the average person who just wants to make calls, play Angry Birds, and text to people. For the technically savvy, it's arguable that Android has already surpassed iOS.
This is all well and good, but the next huge group of people to be introduced into the cell phone world are the ones that grew up playing Halo, Call of Duty, and had Ps2s when they were young. A "really solid user experience" is going to impress them far less than a phone that can outperform a laptop from 2008. In fact, Apple is going to run into a crunch between people who don't want to pay $200 for a smartphone and people who want the bleeding edge hardware, I think. It just seems like it's going to be increasingly hard to market a phone that's behind the times technologically and as expensive as the top of the line Android devices. Are they in trouble? No way, they're going to retain a large part of their consumer base who are loyal to them because of the stellar reviews the past iPhones have received. But they're going to have a lot of trouble expanding, unless they do something truly magical with the iPhone 5. Should be interesting to see the next rabbit they have in their hat.
I would say that at this point an Android is just as easy to check your mail on, surf with an included browser on, and to do most of the basic functions that an iPhone does. If basic functionality is the issue, then I'm not sure how much longer iOS will be ahead of Android or even Windows 7 Mobile.
I think it's going to have to be nothing less than pure innovation from Apple at this point. Android has already become the best selling operating system in mobile devices in the States. Apple is going to have to do something seriously potent with their new phone to convert people, but I feel like I'm being redundant now.
I hope it continues. My worry is that Apple will stick their heads in the sand and rely on their ultra-slick marketing to drive sales, rather than to continually improve their phone year by year to keep up with the other manufacturers.
I think most of it came from T_W_F opening his mouth and inserting his foot repeatedly, then bashing others for calling him out on it.