youre not cheating, theyre cheating. go for it.
So, about 7 years ago, I lost my V-card to my best friend's girlfriend. She was in town to see him, but had stopped by my house on a Sunday morning to have breakfast 'cause we had grown "closer" over the last few months. My parents had left for church already where my best friend (the preacher's son) was awaiting us. Anyways, we kept it up for months afterward. She eventually broke it off with him. She started to get crazy clingy (I can guarantee that it had almost nothing to do w/ my sexual prowess and almost everything to do w/ some lingering daddy issues.) I tried to end it, and even found someone else. She kept coming around, we kept messing around (she was a giver), until I eventually had to completely change my number and force her out of my life.
So, needless to say, I'm a cheater. I never feel good about it, BUT it does tend to make things a bit more...porn scene like. I worry, though, about karma, comeuppance, all that . Pretty sure "I got mine" a few years later when the girl I had left the "crazy clinger" for broke it off with me. We had been living together for a couple years by then. She broke it off, I moved out, and, rumor had it, she had a guy over the following weekend. I was ing DEVASTATED...'specially considering she and I still worked together.
Anyways, I guess I'm curious whatchoo guys think 'bout it all, your experience with this. Is it deplorable, fun, etc? The timing of this question is due to the fact that I've started messing around with a girl that had moved to Dallas w/ her boyfriend from New Jersey. She and I work together, and last Sunday, we officially began to inappropriately "fraternize." She's supposed to be coming over in a few, and my guilty conscience won't shut the up.
Figure ST could either ease my conscience, or further add to my guilt.
Last edited by Fpoonsie; 03-04-2011 at 03:14 AM.
youre not cheating, theyre cheating. go for it.
Last edited by The Reckoning; 03-01-2011 at 12:16 PM.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Succinct, but wise.
I suppose I WAS cheating on my gf w/ the clinger early on; thus, my mention of the comeuppance years later. And, I'm just thinking if it were me in this guy's shoes, how pissed I'd be. "What goes around, comes around" to quote JT and whomever else.
The guy (her bf) is huge, by the way. I wouldn't stand a chance. So, I'm not only feeling guilty, but a little nervous.
trolling aside, dude cheating is the lowest of the low. don't ever do it. I never understood why somebody would ask out a girl then just cheat on her. Girls will find out, and it won't be fun,
i've been lucky. in many relationships but never been cheated on (to my knowledge atleast). I imagine it sucks, but I'm one of the rare guys that can just cut ties instantly. I don't believe in the players lifestyle, having a gf is a good thing but I don't need one at all. If they're gonna knowingly cheat just break it off right then and there.
What the is a V-card?
dont date if you cant fly straight. if they have a bf, its them cheating, and its not your problem. if you have a gf, then you dont really care for her and you should break it off and keep her as a playmate.
you shouldnt worry about the bf unless you know him personally, and he can track you down.
in balls i have a headache right now.
Is he really your "best" friend if you his girlfriend?
The card you HOPE your daughter still has in her possession....![]()
I felt horrible WHILE I was cheating. It resulted in being the best. ing. bf. ever (infidelity aside). I was constantly doing things for her, buying her , going down on her for hours, etc. ANYTHING to make myself feel better, or simply not as bad. And I wouldn't have cheated either. I really cared for this girl and had begun to really HATE my ex, but this ing chick was NUTS. She was all over my junk as soon as she'd track me down, knees on the floor, mouth open. And my junk isn't worth that much attention. She was just...I 'unno. She couldn't let it go.
And I'm the kind've guy that can't cut ties easily. People tend to linger, along w/ my ty feelings. All this "big talk" aside (which really isn't even what this is), I'm a completely over-sensitive little . It's disgusting.
It's my ultra-hip term for my virginity, grandpa.
viagra coupons you get from medicare. you should check it out. ask your doctor about it.
That question has come up often. He was my longest friend, so I just naturally gave him the "best" le. I figured all was right with the world (and my guilt had subsided) when he got engaged to some chick. She ended up dying in a car accident a couple weeks before their wedding. So, yeah, guess who went back to feeling like an asshole?
fpoonsie, for real. dont be a pussy, be in the pussy. she's a worthless cheating . treat her that way. tap that and dont think twice. .
if you know her bf personally, thats a different story because youre violating an unspoken bond of trust between men that women arent allowed to interfere with. its called "bros before hos"
Yeah, I have no idea if he could...at home, that is. I work right next to where they live, though.
in balls i have a headache right now.
Sorry.
Nah, I've met him, but we don't "know" each other.
So far, you're making the most sense.![]()
even more reason not to cheat. Most girls turn ing nuts when they find out if you cheated, if this girl was nuts in her normal stage.......
tbh, you just need to find hobbies that are more important than girls. when I was in high school, I was the exact same way. If a girl would ignore me, break up with me I would think about it for weeks sometimes months. then I discovered that playing basketball, running, lifting weights, etc just completely relieved all the stress. for me, just playing basketball has gotten me through a lot in life. not just relationships but every stressful situation
Well, at least that last bit shouldn't have any bearing on your feelings. I guess you can give yourself a bit of a pass since it was your first and people are nuts at that age, but I've seen too many friendships ruined by a chick neither guy ends up liking after it's all said and done. There are just too many women out there to bother with that .
im speaking from a practical view.
you can talk about hobbies and keeping your mind off chicks and whatnot, but the real situation is that we're MEN. if a girl is going to run around you flaunting her , you have an internal instinct to tap that ass. it happens. go for it, but dont get caught with your pants down. know your boundaries, and be civil about it. let her know (afterwards because you dont want to mess up your chances) that youre looking for nothing more and it was a "mistake".
go for it, but dont get caught with your pants down.
dont in any possible way whatsoever try and start anything with her more than fooling around. also, dont make it a long term deal either because that never works.
Honestly, my only hobbies thus far are watching basketball and ST. Otherwise, it's work or school. It's a sad list, admittedly.
I went through a "hittin the gym" phase for a while after that one chick I lived w/ broke it off w/ me. It was relatively therapeutic.
Ya know, the thing about that. I've heard that countless times, but none of these "too many women" wanna me!![]()
tbh, i was just talking about getting over breakups.
in this situation, if Fpoonsie doesn't even know the bf, I don't see what the big deal is if the girl is trying to flirt with him. I would say he should go for it
However, if the BF happened to be a longtime good friend then you tell the to off.
I tend to look at it differently. I'd rather be upfront about my intentions to begin with, but I'm old and haven't been on the market for awhile.
Yeah, my current best friend (she's a chick, CD. Not to worry) pretty much had the same advice. Don't make this more than what it is. She's "trash" and you're to treat her as such. She's aware that so often, with any casual "play" I have, I tend to feel the need to give them "thank you" gifts (lunch, presents, etc) for taking the time to play w/ my penis. It's embarrassing.
I would ask the girl directly-why she is cheating on her boyfriend- and then I would make her feel like the pig that she is.
I would also ask her if she is ready to be used like the that she is-because that is all she would be anyway.
If she still wants to screw you...then whatever...
what usually happens is that in this situation...the guy will go ahead and bone the chick...then things will get complicated...
then the guy will begin to justify her behavior, start telling his friends...that "she's not really a bad person''..."she really was in a bad relationship''...etc...
then one day the guy convinces himself that he is in love with her and that he wants to keep her....
one day...this guy gets cheated on by this same little ...
then the guy blows snot-bubbles all over town.."why, why did she cheat on me?...I treated her so good''...on & on
Meh, no wonder I'm not familiar with it.
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