How do I handle this ethically?

[Viva Las Espuelas]

I'm not defending newly-found C but you indicated y'all had a fair amount of drinks, no? Sounds normal to have done what she did with a little liquor in her.

[Pick of Destiny]

this is not the time to start acting like a pussy.

Rebound the out of those es

+1

[tlongII]

55 year old bachelor

53 year old bachelor

[Viva Las Espuelas]

14 minutes and no additions?

Slippin', guys.

[MannyIsGod]

If I was single today, I think I would be scared to death of STDs. I would administer a test on C prior to proceeding.

[The Reckoning]

im sorry but being honest never got anyone laid. unless it was an honest estimate with a hooker.

[tlongII]

A is four years younger, she's prettier, she's a non-smoker unlike C, and she lives 30 miles from my ex-fiancee, whereas I found out C lives like a mile from my ex-fiancee's apartment and I would have to take the same exit to get to her place. I have avoided that area for the last five months as best as I can, and I always get upset when I have no choice but to drive through it.

C'mon dude!

[TenBuckTammy]

im sorry but being honest never got anyone laid. unless it was an honest estimate with a hooker.

Honesty has nothing to do with it. Money talks.

[silverblk mystix]

Findog,

Great to see you are getting past the last disappointment.

I would definitely keep them both at a little distance and just tell them you are enjoying being single, you enjoy your freedom and don't like playing games.

"I am dating and not really looking for anything serious,right now."

I would also advise telling them the reason why;

"I gotta lot of things on my plate right now.''


This gives you time to get to know them-beyond the initial hormone-crazy period.
...and also puts you in a position where YOU are NOT the one chasing them and having to get jerked around.

Wear a raincoat--no matter what they tell you.

One last thing...don't assume the nicer girl is actually squeaky clean...she just knows how to make herself look respectable...so far...

[Viva Las Espuelas]

One last thing...don't assume the nicer girl is actually squeaky clean...she just knows how to make herself look respectable...so far...

Werd. Beware, the wool

[ididnotnothat]

Take it slow. Period.

[The Gemini Method]

see if both are down for a little 3-way and whomever has the best answer--you keep as your main thing and the other is the side strange.

[I. Hustle]

Figure out which one you like best. Then after you have made that decision bang the other one until things get serious. I say let C be the banged as she seems really eager and will give head right away.

[The Gemini Method]

Whomever you choose to go with--don't project your last heartbreak and do what makes you happy. You don't owe either one an explanation of whom your seeing and what's going on in your relational life. However, since you're coming off something devastating, don't prolong your decision and let the emotional quotient become impacting. There is nothing more difficult to do than choose a lady in amidst a return to thoughts of a love past. Goodluck, though, I hope whomever you choose does turn out to be a great memory washer and allows you to move on completely from what transpired in your last relationship.

[mrsmaalox]

Whomever you choose to go with--don't project your last heartbreak and do what makes you happy. You don't owe either one an explanation of whom your seeing and what's going on in your relational life. However, since you're coming off something devastating, don't prolong your decision and let the emotional quotient become impacting. There is nothing more difficult to do than choose a lady in amidst a return to thoughts of a love past. Goodluck, though, I hope whomever you choose does turn out to be a great memory washer and allows you to move on completely from what transpired in your last relationship.

You work for Hallmark, right?

[I. Hustle]

Whomever? You sound like a gay.
Pick a that seems less skanky.

[I. Hustle]

You work for Hallmark, right?

Lol even Maalox agrees and she's a chick

[AmericanPsycho]

wussification

[4>0rings]

Ultimate troll job.

[Axe Murderer]

So it's been almost six months since my ex-fiancee left me. I took my time healing and working on myself before finally attempting to date again.

I set up a profile on OkCupid and I now have two prospects. I met A first. I really like this girl. We've gone out twice, and the second date was going so well that I knew she would say yes if I asked her out again. This was last Thursday night. I had a wedding and a birthday party going on this weekend, and I didn't want to appear overeager, so I asked her out for Sunday afternoon the weekend of April 2-3. At the end of the date we're making out, and she says "Sunday, April 3rd? That's too long to have to wait to see you again." So I suggested getting together during the week and that I'd call her Sunday (yesterday) to work out the details. So I called her yesterday afternoon, three days after our date, and we've made arrangements for me to go to her place this Thursday and I'm going to cook her dinner. That's in addition to our scheduled date next Sunday. In between dates I don't text or call. The only red flags I can see so far is that she's beautiful and has a lot of male attention. She was telling me about two guy friends of hers that want to be more than friends and she's not into them that way. I figure I have to assume that this early in the game I'm not the only guy in the picture.

C is another girl I was chatting with on OKCupid during the same timeframe. We met for drinks last night. C was WAY into me. Usually for a first date with somebody I met online, I try to keep it short, like 1-2 hours and just leave it at drinks. She was very affectionate and throwing a lot of compliments my way, and wanted to grab dinner. I agreed. So then we had dinner, and she said that for a second date, she'd like for me to come over and cook me dinner. Since I already have plans with A for Thursday and Sunday, I said I had previous plans those days and could do something sometime else. So I walk her to her car, give her a hug goodnight, and she says "I'm really into you but I don't kiss on a first date." And I said that was fine, said good night and got into my car and drove off. Then she starts texting me "I wanted to kiss u...I want to keep hanging out" etc. I agreed to meet her at this other bar. We ended up hanging out a total of five hours from first meeting for drinks, then dinner, then drinks again. I broke a lot of my own rules for a first date. At the second bar, we were holding hands, she was still throwing a lot of compliments my way, and then when I walked her to her car, we made out a little bit. She said she was free Saturday for me to come over and I agreed.

Ethically, neither one of these girls is my girlfriend, so what I do owe them in the way of disclosure? I haven't had relations with either yet, but if things keep going well, I think that opportunity will present itself with both of them. I like A better, and although she hasn't come on nearly as strong as C, I can tell she is definitely into me. A is four years younger, she's prettier, she's a non-smoker unlike C, and she lives 30 miles from my ex-fiancee, whereas I found out C lives like a mile from my ex-fiancee's apartment and I would have to take the same exit to get to her place. I have avoided that area for the last five months as best as I can, and I always get upset when I have no choice but to drive through it.

I like A better and don't want to do anything to f*** up my chances with her. Should I cancel the second date with C, or just see how things play out with A first? If C pushes for sex, should I simply say that this is my first foray back into the dating scene since things ended with my ex, I'm dating other people and right now I'm not looking for anything exclusive? Would that be being honest and setting expectations? (we exchanged romantic history so she got the Cliff's Notes version of what happened with my ex-fiancee). C just came on so strong that I was a little bit intimidated.

I've never juggled two women before, but neither one is my girlfriend yet, so I'm not sure what is ethical and what is not. It seems like it's unethical to be sexually active with two different people if they're not aware you're dating other people, even if you use protection like I always do.

Nice man, good to see it's working out.

I don't really have advice, prior experience tells me that you'll eventually find out which one you like more after a few more dates and then choose her.

[The Gemini Method]

Whomever? You sound like a gay.
Pick a that seems less skanky.

Didn't know my text sounded like anything. The guy was in a sad state the last time and most of the crass ...I went the other route.

[The Gemini Method]

You work for Hallmark, right?

I am a card writer and my gf's name is Summer.

[mrsmaalox]

I am a card writer and my gf's name is Summer.

Excellent

[admiralsnackbar]

"I don't kiss on the first date, but I do, but lets get hammered and make out and I wanna come over and cook you dinner and..." WHOA THERE! C sounds kinda psycho, man -- I'd let her down easy with some "I'm not ready to date because my fiancee left me" and save her for a rainy day.

That done, go with your gut and see what happens with A with a clean conscience.

That's my unsolicited advice to a total stranger.

[I. Hustle]

Didn't know my text sounded like anything. The guy was in a sad state the last time and most of the crass ...I went the other route.

Your text does have sound. It sounds like a guy getting buttsecksed