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Oh , and C smokes but she doesn't kiss on a first date? Riiiiight
In all seriousness, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now" is just about the worst way to approach the conversation. Especially if your super awesome reason is the ol' vague standby "got a lot of things on my plate." Might as well just open the first date by telling her you're hoping to get ed, by multiple women, but intend to stay non-committal and emotionally closed off the whole time. Have fun with the psycho self-esteem cases who actually go for it.
Also, I think I may have actually laughed out loud at the notion that men have to protect themselves from all the women begging them not to use condoms.
Oh , and C smokes but she doesn't kiss on a first date? Riiiiight
And you know this sound because...it's all good if you enjoy the sound of man on man lovin' or engage in it--its your prerogative.
Oh , and C smokes but she doesn't kiss on a first date? Riiiiight
Lol I like your moxy kid. You'll go far
Did you have to shred your mancard as a requirement to register at OkDesperateCupid?
Good to hear things are better, Fin. As for advice, things will work themselves out as they should. High's and Low's man...
You got half that right. You hit it like no tomorrow first, then you tell her all that crap."I don't kiss on the first date, but I do, but lets get hammered and make out and I wanna come over and cook you dinner and..." WHOA THERE! C sounds kinda psycho, man -- I'd let her down easy with some "I'm not ready to date because my fiancee left me" and save her for a rainy day.
That done, go with your gut and see what happens with A with a clean conscience.
That's my unsolicited advice to a total stranger.
If you met them both online then they can problem assume that you are at least conversing with someone else, as should you. I say you don't owe either one any disclosure unless it starts getting serious with one of them.
Well in a backwards way-you hit it right on the money.
The reason why any guy would say such "standard" is because at this point you should WANT to keep things this informal and put off all the game=players & psychos that will inevitably come out of the woodwork when they "smell" a nice guy approaching.
And don't be mistaken...these first women that the OP will attract will most likely be the "psycho self-esteem" cases who WILL go for it.
Unfortunately..Findog seems like a decent guy who will end up wasting his time with these psychos...because he will undoubtedly try to be a decent person around these psychos who only drag you down into deep,deep holes.
By keeping this distance and by saying vague ...you are actually telling them that they are not that important that you would actually expend creative effort to make them feel like anything other than filler material.
Of course, the self-esteem cases will see this as a challenge to, "solve this puzzle/guy.''
Believe it or not...regarding the protection issue;
Maybe you are above these women but I can't tell you how many times things get complicated in a relationship because guys believe that the nice little girl they have been lucky enough to catch...is not as clean as she makes herself out to be...and guys will drop their guard and think that maybe because she isn't or wasn't screwing around on her last boyfriend or husband...it does not mean that the husband wasn't screwing around and bringing home something.
Not to mention child support if she's NOT "the one" and still gets knocked up.
I think I miss your posts the most.
Just flat out ing stupid.
I wouldn't expect you to understand.
The game is the game.
It sucks that it has to be played...but it is what it is.
The more I think about last night, the more the red flags pop out with C. Regardless of whether or not A was in the picture, I don't think I really want to pursue anything with C.
If you wanted to kiss me, why send me away as some sort of test, or insist on keeping me out late when you know I have to get up early in the morning? I didn't do a good enough job on maintaining boundaries.
No. It doesn't have to be played.
I see you haven't changed.
Well, you can ask any guys here...and any in your private life...(since I think it is safe to assume you don't place much weight on opinions on this board--just a hunch based on your responses,comments,opinions,etc)...
ask them how has it gone in their experience, when;
they absolutely treated a girl with honesty, respect and played absolutely no games from the start to the end.
Ask them (and any male posters here--please enlighten us with YOUR experience also) how that went and ask them how they were treated in kind by these women?????
You may not like what you hear...
Damn dude. I realize you are on the rebound but you have major issues. Troll for squeeze on an internet dating site and then start a thread about it on an internet sports/social forum, and decide to dump her today after sticking your tongue down her throat last night based on the input you got?
Could've seen CF getting into it with someone in this thread a mile away.
Thanks for the advice. You're correct in assuming that I've never before discussed relationships with my friends.
It has been my experience that everyone gets ed over in relationships at least once or twice because it's impossible to completely avoid assholes. However, it has also been my experience that maintaining honesty and respect in a relationship, no matter how serious or casual, is the easiest way to cut out a lot of unnecessary drama.
You get dumped a lot, don't you?
Just a hunch
Pretty easy call.
Indeed.
Just listen to your heart and go with the flow.
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