Ok, so. On August 25, the love of my life and I had a little problem. Basically, what happened was the following : we were getting ready to watch something together, we had it all set up. She said she was going to go get some pizza (previous home-delivery) and re-heat it. I said ok, how long will you be, she said about 20 minutes. I said, "that long to re-heat pizza?" and she got a little nervous and felt bad about it. I told her it was ok, it's fine, just seemed a little long. She said "i'll just stay" and I told her not to, just go, it's fine. So then I waited for her in front of the TV for 45 minutes. She said her mother had made a sudden call to her and was arguing with her about something. She said she was also a little sad about the previous discussion (about me saying "20mins?")..... Neither of us yell or cuss, but I did get upset. I got sad and told her I lost faith in her (yes I need to watch what I say to loved ones, there's a little history here about iness and trust though) and she got really sad about it. Since then, she has been horribly depressed. Since Aug. 25 she has been depressed.
I ask her if she still loves me, she says yes, with all of her heart.
I ask her if she still wants to try, she says yes.
I ask if she still wants to be with me and have a life with me, she says yes.
Yet, she says her heart is sad, she says it feels black and she doesn't have the energy to do anything. She wants to try but she is still not happy. She says she doesn't even know if we can ever be happy because she doesn't know if she can make me happy.
I have told her, re-assured her, from the very night of the 'problem' (which I don't think was THIS big of a deal) that I love her, want to be with her, she makes me happy, and that this was a wake-up call to treat her with loving soft hands, instead of expecting her to be strong and deal with it.
I tell her I am going to try and help her, she says thank you.
What do I do? Does she just need time? We have been together for 6 years and about 8 months. I am 26 yrs old, we were our first love, our first everything and we were always very happy together and planned our whole life together. Basically, I am the center of her world and she is the center of mine.
Will she be ok or do I have to start believing that after about 12 days now, she is no longer able to be happy with me? I mean, I have NEVER done anything to hurt her, except push her away (not physically, only relationship wise and say stupid things like "I lost faith in you now" when she does something that upsets me.) Yes, I am going to change that. In the past, she has done small things to hurt me, nothing big, and I don't stand for it. So, now she says all the weight of those little problems have finally gotten to her and now she doesn't know what she wants anymore.
Is she just depressed and will be ok?
It's hard for me too because I miss her. I miss laughing together, being happy together. It's been almost 2 weeks now.
I will do anything for her, so it's not a problem to help her through this if that is what it is.
Advice appreciated please
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what? All that was was a copy paste of maybe MiamiHeat's most stained post (which is saying a lot).
