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it depends over what...
Never in all my life was I so upset or angry with either parent that I never wanted to talk to them again. Who does that?
it depends over what...
talk to my uncle about it, in idiot
Did that all the time when I was under their ruling.
My mom and I are not speaking right now. It happens.
Do you want me to tell her anything for you?
nah, we were very close until the past few years when she has made my sister, the oldest, pretty much the only one she tells anything to and my brothers and I have to hear from her.
I love my mother will all my heart but it doesn't, IMHO, give her a free pass to act rude and diss my family.
I pray that things will get better but only time will tell.
I was actually thinking about posting a thread like this to see if anyone else has had this happen to them.
I had no idea. Sorry to hear it. I'll see if I can talk some sense into her.
Just a sad situation. I lost my mother 2 years ago this May and we never ever feuded about anything. Wish she were here still...
I hear ya. Like I said, we were very close up until a few years ago when she started to only confide in my sister. I have many, many fond memories of the good times and that is what I will take with me. But since the bond that we had hasn't been the same for years I don't dwell on it much. As a matter of fact my brothers feel the same way although they didn't have a major falling out like we did. My younger brother, the baby of the family, has even told her that he feels like a step-child compared to the way she treats our sister.
Oh welll. I will pray on it....yeah, that is right...I believe in Jesus.
There are things beyond the OP's imagination when it comes to her parents.
She should be happy for that.
Nope. Couldn't imagine hating my parents.
My momma was a crack head.
Parents gave me life..ain't a damn thing I could be that mad at them for, tbh...well, I'm sure there are, but I'm sure Judy's situation isn't one of them. What's the problem, Judy?
I've never been that pissed off at either of my parents----my mom on the other hand was a very "conditional love" kind of person; you lived up to her standards or she had no problem writing you off. She did it to me several times and after a few months or a year I'd break down and call her, she'd apologize and we'd start again. I just accepted the fact that she had some kind of emotional baggage she couldn't get past and always had to be in conflict with someone.
That is my mom. My sister calls her every single day and expects me to do the same thing so she will throw a guilt trip on us saying that we've forgotten about her, etc. My sister also has a much more flexible work schedule and is not married so she can take off and take her to her Dr. appointments so tells me that she is the only one that does things for her. Every time they come up to SA to visit they always go straight to my sisters house yet won't drive the extra 25 minutes to ours.
It is an ac ulation of things and then she started giving the cold shoulder to my wife and when I asked her why she wouldn't even say o to her she wouldn't answer. So things got heated and my wife begged her to tell her what she did and my mom said nothing. In the end my dad was telling my mom to hug my wife and to move on and she refused.
It has been about 2 months since it happened and since next month is Mother's day I am going to reach out and see if we can all get along but things that were said and not said have ruined what close relationship we had and it will never be the same.
It hurts and it is sad seeing how close we once were. Every time I see a commercial or show about mom's it is like a slap in the face.
Just this weekend I was watching some show about NAS and how close he was to his mom...that was us....and how bad things have changed. I too never thought my mom and I would be where we are now.
But life goes on.
Sometimes happens. And sometimes parents are assholes who deserve to be shut out. Consider yourself lucky your parents haven't done anything ed up enough to require such a distance.
One of my best friends was molested by her father. She hasn't seen or said a word to him in more than a decade, which I think is entirely reasonable in that situation. My maternal grandfather is an abusive (emotionally, and, when he was drinking, physically) bas , and my mother and her siblings have all gone through phases where they cut ties with him for several years at a time. He's still a part of our lives, and I know that we all care enough about him to not wish any specific harm, but he hasn't done too much to earn anyone's respect or warmth.
Conversely, on my dad's side of the family, which is primarily uptight, WASPy Swedes, people who barely know or care about each other (or in a few cases who flat out dislike each other) share superficial pleasantries and come together for a meal once or twice a year in which no one says what's on their mind. I've never been convinced that was any healthier than just calling someone out for being a and taking some time away from each other.
My 20 yr old daughter has not seen or spoken to her father in almost 7 years. He was verbally abusive to her for years and finally became physically abusive the summer of 2005. The visit ended early with police involved & she has refused any contact with him since then. He still sent gifts for about 4 years but she returned every single one of them, even when he sent cash. He tells everyone it's just a phase and she'll get over it.
Fantastic parents. I got lucky.
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I had everything I needed. My mother was the best. My dad was an asshole. Not abusive or anything that severe, but he could have been alot nicer. I learned alot from him about how NOT to talk to my wife and kids. Still love him though, but its hard to stroke up conversation with him these days.
I'm on the other end of this.... I am the parent. My youngest son graduated last May from high school. In his senior year, he started running with a wild crowd. Smoking weed, skipping classes, getting arrested at school for posession of dip, grades tanking, etc. He was always a real good kid, good grades, respectful, played sports, clean cut.
He was clearly spiraling downhill. Had many talks with him trying to right the ship to no avail. Finally gave him ultimatum that if he didn't shape up, I was sending him to Ohio to lve with his mother (who had moved away from he and his brother 6 years ago). He continued with his behavior, so I shipped him to Ohio. He is going to Ohio University, doing well and real pissed at me for sending him off away from his friends. He just texts occassioanlly. We were so tight when he was coming up. It hurts.
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