How much does a girl's past..

[z0sa]

I don't know what makes folks insist she's a guy.

Except the ones who think she's me.

that's a new one to me

are you transgender Chump?

[ChumpDumper]

Realistically though, being a "proud ho" will backfire on most girls, unless they are an 8+ out of 10, with something to offer..

By "proud ho", I'm referring to the annoying females that constantly discuss their "freedom" and " ing how many guys they want and don't give a what anybody thinks"..that's cool with me, but you'll probably have a difficult time catching a quality guy to date, unless you find a new group of people/new city..

True, I don't really care for women who brag about their sexual exploits, but guys who do it sound just as stupid.

And men and women who their way through all or most of a social group have something else going on entirely. It's a big world out there, quit ing people who will inevitably exchange notes about it.

[ChumpDumper]

that's a new one to me

are you transgender Chump?

What makes you think I-- er, CF is?

[FkLA]

Its definitely not surprising or hard for a 21-22 yr old to have slept with that many.

But it is repulsive and taints her for life, any guy that would try to get into a committed relationship/marriage with a girl like that is just asking to get ed over.

[ChumpDumper]

Its definitely not surprising or hard for a 21-22 yr old to have slept with that many.

But it is repulsive and taints her for life, any guy that would try to get into a committed relationship/marriage with a girl like that is just asking to get ed over.

Would it taint a guy for life?

[ChumpDumper]

except i didn't.

No .

and no, shes nasty. everyone's been in that .

What's your cutoff point?

[HarlemHeat37]

Another issue, from my experience, is that females that have only ever been with 1 or 2 guys are always going to be curious and jealous of missing out on opportunities that their friends have, tbh..it's human nature..

So while 15-20+ may be a lot, or too much, for some, I'd say that dating or marrying a female with only 1 or 2 partners will eventually result in problems, tbh..most females in 2012 are not content with living a boring life with minimal exploration/experimentation, and then becoming a wife at an early age..

It's especially problematic when their male counterpart has had plenty of partners and experiences, tbh..

[FkLA]

Would it taint a guy for life?

Its different for guys. Double standard but thats how works. I wouldnt disagree with the assumption that guys with a load of sexual partners wouldnt make good husbands though.

[TheSkeptic]

Would it taint a guy for life?

I think so. While it wouldn't bother me if my future partner had been with a few girls, there are definitely limits. Imo a male is just as untrustworthy as a female one.

[ChumpDumper]

0-3 just depends.

On what?

[ChumpDumper]

my intuition, WHO those 1 or 2 guys were, how long they were together, her character in general, how much i like her, etc.

So if you like her a lot, you could make more allowances in who the other guys were?

[TheSkeptic]

The skeptic has the better personality undoubtedly

...Because you don't know what we look like right?

op: if you are a young (<35), you should not be worried about a woman's past outside of any marriages or kids. You are probably not settlign down with her anyway.

and theskeptic sounds pretty sexy tbh.. while DuckingFumb is almost assuredly a pre-op male transgender.

Thanks guys though.


By the way I think I'm starting to figure you gentlemen out. Correct me if I'm wrong but if a woman

1. Doesn't let herself go physically

2. Feeds him

3. Does what he wants in bed

4. Doesn't play mind games or use sex/food as a weapon

5. Gives him space when he needs it

6. Supports him emotionally

7. Validates his ego in general

8. Doesn't stop growing as a person

The relationship is good to go long-term then right? Have I missed anything?

[leemajors]

dolt? I won't be sleeping for a week after det one.

any reason you've waited to defend CF's gender til the 10,000th or so time this forum whom you supposedly speak for called her a man?

I know if burns that CF is more intelligent and certainly more composed than you, but there are other ways to deal with it.

I think anyone else who remembers your little slur flinging fit would definitely agree you are a dolt or worse.

[TheSkeptic]

^ I'd be happy with just half of those tbh

That doesn't fully make sense to me though.

If you guys are so easily pleased then how come it seems like so many men are having trouble finding women they can get with long-term? Just looking in the wrong places or what?

[silverblk mystix]

That doesn't fully make sense to me though.

If you guys are so easily pleased then how come it seems like so many men are having trouble finding women they can get with long-term? Just looking in the wrong places or what?

It really doesn't have as much to do with all those things you mentioned as it does with a guy being ready.

You could give a guy all those things and if he hasn't really decided that he is going to settle then it won't matter.

Hasn't every guy in here had a couple of good ones that you just lost interest in? I know I have. It had nothing to do with what she was doing or not doing-I just wasn't ready to settle. It was unfair of me at the time but I realized that this is what guys do. We try to find the best possible package and then we go all out. When we've had our fill we start looking to upgrade. Until we get everything out of our system and decide that we want to settle.

When a guy is ready and he is lucky enough to meet a girl that has a few or all of those things then it will be a no-brainer and there is a pretty good chance it will last.

It could be worse though, you could end up with a guy that will just lie all the time and continue to stay with you while still playing on the side.

[spursfan1000]

As long as she hasn't had sex with any of my friends or family & if she's clean

[angelbelow]

...Because you don't know what we look like right?
By the way I think I'm starting to figure you gentlemen out. Correct me if I'm wrong but if a woman

1. Doesn't let herself go physically

2. Feeds him

3. Does what he wants in bed

4. Doesn't play mind games or use sex/food as a weapon

5. Gives him space when he needs it

6. Supports him emotionally

7. Validates his ego in general

8. Doesn't stop growing as a person

The relationship is good to go long-term then right? Have I missed anything?

Lol that is actually a pretty solid list.

I would add:

1. Mother skills/responsible.

2. Legit individual hobby/job.

These two don't apply to me:

"2. Feeds him"

I am the chef in the family. My mom doesn't cook and my dad is re ed so I had to learn everything myself. Besides I doubt she'll (gf/wife) ever be able to cook as well as I do. It's important that she cleans the kitchen though. Dishwasher can do the plates, etc and I usually wash my own knives and pans.

"4. Doesn't play mind games or use sex/food as a weapon"

I think allowing them to play mind games and using sex is a way to keep the relationship healthy. It can be annoying but is an effective way to fulfill her attention needs. You just have to understand their perspective and play along.

[DeadlyDynasty]

As long as she hasn't had sex with any of my friends or family & if she's clean

What if she had sex with Magic Johnson?

[spursfan1000]

What if she had sex with Magic Johnson?

Then I'm gone

[DeadlyDynasty]

Then I'm gone

Oh, so you're a racist now?

[ploto]

The main facet of this discussion that bothers me is the hypocrisy. I simply do not fathom how men think they can sleep with a bunch of supposed " s" who must not have high morals according to them. However, somehow they still view themselves as moral paradigms. You do realize that when that "pure" woman comes along, she may very well judge your past behavior as making you unworthy of her high morals.

[ploto]

also women really shouldn't be complaining considering yall are the ones who choose playas and get all wet at the thought of competing for a guy who obviously pulls all kinds of ass. then you turn around and have the audacity to act all hurt whenever he does the same to you and moves on to the next.

You obviously do not know me.

[TheSkeptic]

It really doesn't have as much to do with all those things you mentioned as it does with a guy being ready.

You could give a guy all those things and if he hasn't really decided that he is going to settle then it won't matter.

Hasn't every guy in here had a couple of good ones that you just lost interest in? I know I have. It had nothing to do with what she was doing or not doing-I just wasn't ready to settle. It was unfair of me at the time but I realized that this is what guys do. We try to find the best possible package and then we go all out. When we've had our fill we start looking to upgrade. Until we get everything out of our system and decide that we want to settle.

When a guy is ready and he is lucky enough to meet a girl that has a few or all of those things then it will be a no-brainer and there is a pretty good chance it will last.

It could be worse though, you could end up with a guy that will just lie all the time and continue to stay with you while still playing on the side.

You're probably right but I'm not convinced it's a guy thing. I know as a woman I've turned down long-term relationships for various reasons. Weird as it sounds since I'm still pretty young, I honestly think I could've been married by now if it wasn't for my future plans so I should think the whole concept of being "ready to settle down" is one that applies to both genders.

Lol that is actually a pretty solid list.

I would add:

1. Mother skills/responsible.

2. Legit individual hobby/job.

These two don't apply to me:

"2. Feeds him"

I am the chef in the family. My mom doesn't cook and my dad is re ed so I had to learn everything myself. Besides I doubt she'll (gf/wife) ever be able to cook as well as I do. It's important that she cleans the kitchen though. Dishwasher can do the plates, etc and I usually wash my own knives and pans.

Are you a white guy by any chance?

I guess in your case there'd definitely be a trade-off. Cleaning up on her part would just be common courtesy though imo. It doesn't make any sense but if I were the main cook (as I expect to be) I think it would hurt my feelings to not get any regular help with that. You're obviously a little more stable there than me.

"4. Doesn't play mind games or use sex/food as a weapon"

I think allowing them to play mind games and using sex is a way to keep the relationship healthy. It can be annoying but is an effective way to fulfill her attention needs. You just have to understand their perspective and play along.

...What I would give for that kind of patience.

See I put that list together based on what I was observing in this thread and I think you're probably the first to state the opposite (though notice how it's not your preference ).

Idk. I find the whole pouting/withdrawal thing really childish personally. And anyway, don't men give you more attention when you're not causing drama? How does letting her get away with what's clearly bad/counter-productive behaviour help the relationship in your view?

[z0sa]

I know if burns that CF is more intelligent and certainly more composed than you, but there are other ways to deal with it.

I think anyone else who remembers your little slur flinging fit would definitely agree you are a dolt or worse.

'fit' and 'dolt'? you bore me dude. i think you should apologize for being so easy to troll.

[DMC]

As long as she hasn't had sex with any of my friends or family & if she's clean

That leaves your sister out of it...


just kidding..