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Did she warn you and give you reasons as to why it wasn't working? Or were you surprised and had no idea she felt that way?
I know many of you will poke your fun at this, but when it comes down to it,
I'm really hurt, don't have many people to talk to about it. This is the worst night
of my life, and I'm already losing sleep.
I could use someone to talk to right about now.
Did she warn you and give you reasons as to why it wasn't working? Or were you surprised and had no idea she felt that way?
Last edited by Avante; 11-15-2012 at 08:40 AM.
We had been rocky for a while, but it always comes back to how I used to neglect her and make her feel unloved. She never got over that, even though I changed and gave her everything I could, it never took. I fought hard to make it work, to see it crumble, is the worst feeling.
Whatever you do don't do anything stupid. She likely will hook up with someone else in no time so you have to do the same. Lots of girls out there. She will either come back to you or you will meet another girl. Things will get better as time passes.
I really don't want to believe that she'll hook up with someone so quick, after five years. But maybe you're right, and I have to see it in that harsh way.
Right now the last thing you want to hear is advice on things. But you did say you wanted to talk. Women need those little things, they need to feel important in your life and they love a good listener. If you are so wrapped up in you that you aren't doing those little things that make such a big difference you will pay the price.
When I was running the streets back in the day, I found so many women out looking for a guy who would listen. 90% of them had a guy who paid no attention to her and just wouldn't listen. So your situation is the norm, it appears you simply waited too long. I'm taking it you guys aren't kids, did she ever mention marriage and you didn't seem too thrilled about that idea?
If I were you I'd write her a letter, telling her how things will be different, how she means the world to you, she is your everything, that without her you are nothing. Then send her some flowers with the letter attached. Let her know her wants and needs mean everything to you.
Good luck!
Last edited by Avante; 11-15-2012 at 07:52 AM.
You have a few months, if she was with you for 5 years it will take awhile for her to get out there again. She wouldn't have stayed that long if you weren't very important to her unless she had no job/money.
How well did you get along with her friends?
lol 5'11" 230
lol your girlfriend leaving you cause your fat
5-10 225
5-11 228
Last edited by Avante; 11-15-2012 at 07:06 AM.
Those guys in the top vid are probably so inflexible they have problems wiping their own ass.
It's all good, bro. Keep your head up, stay positive, focus on school/work, reel another one in sooner or later.
Ok man this isn't the place to screw around and hijack, if ya had any class you'd realize that. So after this I'm done with your dumb ass, respect this guys thread.
See that black guy, he was an NCAA wrester and an all pro fullback (now at closer to 250) for the Chargers...Lorenzo Neal. Stay stupid slick.
Michael Turner the stud running back for the Falcons....5-11 245...fat??? I won't even go into all the great body builders that would be considered fat on any chart. Would 5-6 200 pounds be fat? Franco Columbo Mr.Olympia,
Sorry Roger.
Last edited by Avante; 11-15-2012 at 07:54 AM.
Even though you did try to change............. let me tell ya from experience. When a woman loses the love, and her heart isnt into it anymore, there aint a damn thing you can do about it. Emotionally she is done, so basically she is DONE. That being said, there are tons of single women out there that would love to have you......so dont be too hard on yourself. Chalk this up as a learning experience, and dont do the stupid you did before with the next hoe.
Actually very few couples with that kind of longevity break up for good the first time they seperate. It usually takes a couple break ups.
Last edited by Avante; 11-15-2012 at 08:09 AM.
True.........you got me on that one. It usually does take a couple three breakups before her mind is set. Once it is set to leave though..........forget it. She isnt coming back.
You have my sympathy. It's a painful thing to go thru, several months later and it still hurts like the first day. Don't know what to say except at this point it's all about self preservation; I personally can't pretend and do the "but we can still be friends" thing right away---she'll assume you are reacting out of anger, but whatever, you need to protect yourself.
Most likely she already has someone else. An emotionally lazy person who is feeling sorry for themselves because they are "neglected" doesn't get out of something to be alone. They get out when they find someone who will meet their emotional needs with minimal effort from themselves; more than likely she's been waiting to see how the other thing would play out before she broke with you.
rub your as long/hard as you can until you feel exhausted and don't see even urine tricking out of your tip. smart guys never let themselves intrigued by those es and it's really a grievous loss. it was never a smart choice for a guy to get emotionally devoted to a female and you don't have to continue the mistake by prolonging the 's impact on your life tbh. just play some more computer games n do some trolling job on spurstalk, and you'll feel that life can be MUCH more colorful and meaningful w/o having a tbh
i understand the feeling of loss, though im a lifelong celibate. i broke one of my laptop the other day, which i had been playing with for more than a year, and i felt really depressed and had some hard time falling asleep but it ain't worth a damn. just take a few deep breaths n you'll realize that you're still alive at least, it doesn't mean for you no matter how much $ or how many es you have if you don't have a healthy life tbh.
Agree with Rogue. If a relationship or lack of (in your case) is causing you to be emotionally and/or physically unhealthy, drop it immediately and get yourself healthy. This may make me sound like an asshole but when in a serious relationship you have to seriously consider being an asshole at times. When the relationship is too rocky, you entertain the idea of breaking off, that way it makes it all the better when it actually does end. That's my opinion, anyway...
Damn, yall some relationship gurus up in this muthafawka!!! When my relationship starts floundering, I just toss her salad. Its all good then.
Bingo! She's already riding someone else imo. Move on.
Your best bet is to stay in your apt. till the pain goes away. Listen to The Cure on loop with a bottle of Cutty and a 12gauge close by.
in six months she'll come back and do the "let's be friends" routine or even want to get back together. tell her that she can consider you a friend but to stay out of your life because she's not good enough for you. that's when she'll feel equally as bad because she ended up not having her way. you win.
in the meantime go find yourself an international woman whose second language is english. she'll appreciate you more and make better sammiches.
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