Hanging out with another guy/gal alone during a committed relationship.

[The Batman]

You made it sound like its completely forbidden for the woman to hang out with a male alone. Whether you know him or not.

First you need to know your woman and know if she's capable of some dirty shenanigans and second you must have trust in that relationship otherwise everything falls apart.

And no, there are certain things each party keeps from the other. Like Joe said, there is a difference in girlfriend and wife.

The latter you must have at least some control of what/where she is at all times wherein a girlfriend you cant exercise that power because you will come as an over bearing and jealous boyfriend.

1. Women, in a committed relationship, have no business hanging out alone with a guy, unless he's gay. She shouldn't do so out of respect for her significant other and not to put herself in that situation.

2. Doesn't matter how well you know her. If she wants to another guy, then she will.

[Koolaid_Man]

if you live in san antonio and watch the news, then you should be familiar with this story about a lady at a "male friends" house who found out her "bestie" was secretly recording her take showers and . keep being naive and pretend that you can have a male friend and kick it. that only flies with ugly es, true story. if a man is besties with a woman, there is an ulterior motive there.

ing aye

http://www.woai.com/news/local/story...jg.cspx?rss=68

[JoeTait75]

What difference does it make if it's a gf or a wife? I agree with everything you've said but i just don't see any difference between GF and wife.

To me there's a big difference between being in a relationship w/a BF or a GF and being married. IMO until you put a ring on it you're still kind of a free agent to a certain extent.

[Reck]

If you don't keep your guard up, you'll end up like BRHornet, hating everything about life. The cuck posterboy, you can tell his wife got plowed by big daddy Tyson.

I dont think I'll ever be in a serious relationship (get marry, have kids) so chances of that happening are slim.

Things that occur around you do affect you. I have seen/experienced so many failed realtionships around me that I am dead sure I dont want to commit to something I will be later regretting.

[apalisoc_9]

You made it sound like its completely forbidden for the woman to hang out with a male alone. Whether you know him or not.

First you need to know your woman and know if she's capable of some dirty shenanigans and second you must have trust in that relationship otherwise everything falls apart.

And no, there are certain things each party keeps from the other. Like Joe said, there is a difference in girlfriend and wife.

The latter you must have at least some control of what/where she is at all times wherein a girlfriend you cant exercise that power because you will come as an over bearing and jealous boyfriend.

Wow, This is just flat out terrible. I don't want to even bother arguing with this guy...

[Koolaid_Man]

if you live in san antonio and watch the news, then you should be familiar with this story about a lady at a "male friends" house who found out her "bestie" was secretly recording her take showers and . keep being naive and pretend that you can have a male friend and kick it. that only flies with ugly es, true story. if a man is besties with a woman, there is an ulterior motive there.



http://www.woai.com/news/local/story...jg.cspx?rss=68

ing aye

[thunderup]

You dont need to argue with me, I wouldn't argue the point I just made because it happens to be true.

Or maybe you can tell me what's not the least true in what I said.

The point you attempted to make is valid if the guy is some type of pussy who doesn't have knowledge about the going-ons in his GF's world.

One is already cheating if they are doing it emotionally.

[apalisoc_9]

To me there's a big difference between being in a relationship w/a BF or a GF and being married. IMO until you put a ring on it you're still kind of a free agent to a certain extent.

This I can understand.

[Reck]

1. Women, in a committed relationship, have no business hanging out alone with a guy, unless he's gay. She shouldn't do so out of respect for her significant other and not to put herself in that situation.

2. Doesn't matter how well you know her. If she wants to another guy, then she will.

Exactly, so what's the point on watching what she does 24 hours a day?

When I see "committed relationship" I think of just girlfriend. Its not like you're engage to that person. Let's be honest here, unless you marry the she's going to feel like she can do anything she wants.

[Koolaid_Man]

wow, so this is how bad it's gotten as a society that we're actually having this conversation

why don't you bump some of your old of you got cheated on.... Mavs>Spurs do you remember that one story you told about how you caught your then girlfriend in a truck sucking off her half-brother ..I remember it like it was yesterday had me rolling for days... then when you caught them you attack him with a baseball bat and then ran to your brothers apt and hid in his closet..You said you heard helicopters overhead searching the area for you....that's one love story I will never forget...and personally I believe it's true because something like that can happen only to people like you

[Reck]

To me there's a big difference between being in a relationship w/a BF or a GF and being married. IMO until you put a ring on it you're still kind of a free agent to a certain extent.

Wow, This is just flat out terrible. I don't want to even bother arguing with this guy...

Exactly, so what's the point on watching what she does 24 hours a day?

When I see "committed relationship" I think of just girlfriend. Its not like you're engage to that person. Let's be honest here, unless you marry the she's going to feel like she can do anything she wants.

LOL this is basically what I just said to the Batman in my previous post.

Apalisoc is just an incecure person.

[The Batman]

Exactly, so what's the point on watching what she does 24 hours a day?

When I see "committed relationship" I think of just girlfriend. Its not like you're engage to that person. Let's be honest here, unless you marry the she's going to feel like she can do anything she wants.

Committed relationship doesn't have to be marriage though, it can just be committing to be exclusive. And I'm not advocating watching her 24 hours a day. If she doesn't respect me enough to not hang with another guy alone, then she can get gone. If the guy is straight, then nothing good will come from it. We all have that one girl who's a friend that we wanna .

[mavs>spurs]

o wow gotta know the modern trendy "trust" crew would show up and try to talk down to the real men and lecture/hen peck us into accepting their perversion.

[Reck]

The point you attempted to make is valid if the guy is some type of pussy who doesn't have knowledge about the going-ons in his GF's world.

One is already cheating if they are doing it emotionally.

I didn't say you should completely turn a blind eye to what your girlfriend is up to. That much is a given, I didn't realize I should have made that clearer.

That happens naturally by just being in her life. What I said was you shouldn't put a camera on her 24 hours a day because you may be scare she's messing about.

[AussieFanKurt]

If they indeed you over, do you expect someone with that moral code to tell you that they've ed you over?

Think about it.

probably true, lucky gf has no male friends

[Reck]

probably true, lucky gf has no male friends

That seems impossible..

[apalisoc_9]

By "committed relationship" do you mean GF, or do you mean wife?

Because if you're married you really have no business spending time alone with anyone of the opposite sex. Even if there isn't anything going on it's just disrespectful to your spouse. It makes it look as if they have no control over you- and if you're married, yes, you should have a certain amount of control over where your spouse goes and who they see alone. That goes for the husband and the wife.

And having "known" (in the biblical sense) at least one married woman in my single days, my experience says there is often a definite reason why she would want to be alone with someone of the opposite sex, and that reason isn't healthy for a marriage.

Everything that I would have said has been said here already.

You simply cant have her on watch 24/7 and I assure you, she has friends you have no idea of whom they are. What do you really think a woman will tell her man absolutely everything?

That is some 1960s thinking you got going on there.

LOL this is basically what I just said to the Batman in my previous post.

Apalisoc is just an incecure person.

HOw is this the same? Are you fcking dumb or something?

[apalisoc_9]

I didn't say you should completely turn a blind eye to what your girlfriend is up to. That much is a given, I didn't realize I should have made that clearer.

That happens naturally by just being in her life. What I said was you shouldn't put a camera on her 24 hours a day because you may be scare she's messing about.

No one said that.

stop making up you dumbass. Girls can have friends, everyone know that's a given..that's not the issue here.

camera 24 hours

[Cane]

Gotta lay down the rules and foundation early. Especially for a committed relationship. If this stuff is news after committing to a relationship or they refuse to respect your paradigms, then it's time to cut ties since it'll just make you go Tony Soprano or Raging Bull against the whole situation.

You my wife?!! YOU MY WIFE!?!

[Reck]

To me there's a big difference between being in a relationship w/a BF or a GF and being married. IMO until you put a ring on it you're still kind of a free agent to a certain extent.

Exactly, so what's the point on watching what she does 24 hours a day?

When I see "committed relationship" I think of just girlfriend. Its not like you're engage to that person. Let's be honest here, unless you marry the she's going to feel like she can do anything she wants.

HOw is this the same? Are you fcking dumb or something?

Reading comprehension for the inadequate time.

[Reck]

No one said that.

stop making up you dumbass. Girls can have friends, everyone know that's a given..that's not the issue here.

camera 24 hours

Damn you're really obtuse aren't you?

I said that. My first post here you got. Reading is really not your strong suit.

[Trill Clinton]

o wow gotta know the modern trendy "trust" crew would show up and try to talk down to the real men and lecture/hen peck us into accepting their perversion.

yea its pretty sad. there is a reason why its rare for women and men to bestfriends. eventually someone is going to catch feelings and that complicates the friendship. why people are acting like this doesn't happen 99.9% of the time is beyond me.

for those of you who trust your girl/man, how many hetero m/f best friends do you personally know of that have been established for more than a year? s damn near unheard of.

[apalisoc_9]

Damn you're really obtuse aren't you?

I said that. My first post here you got. Reading is really not your strong suit.

I never mentioned in the op if it's a wife or a gf. You backtracked and tried playing it down with the wife/gf once you realized you're comapred to the other posters in here.

[Reck]

I never mentioned in the op if it's a wife or a gf. You backtracked and tried playing it down with the wife/gf once you realized you're comapred to the other posters in here.

The are you talking about?

Joe brought up the girlfriend/wife comparison and I extended on it ya dumb .

[apalisoc_9]

Everything that I would have said has been said here already.

You simply cant have her on watch 24/7 and I assure you, she has friends you have no idea of whom they are. What do you really think a woman will tell her man absolutely everything?

That is some 1960s thinking you got going on there.