Need Advice, How Do You Turn a Woman Down at the Office?

[ohmwrecker]

Be honest. Tell her you don't want a serious relationship, but your down to . (A woman in her 30's would probably tear your ass up, btw.) If she ain't down with that, tell her to move along.

[313]

Lol breh just piitb dry no lube
If she protests, just whisper "ssshh no tears, only dreams now"
Then tell here you don't date coworkers
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Profit


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[Bulaien999]

Hook one of your s up with that pussy, problem solved.

[Spanklin]

Why don't you text her highly suggestive pop songs and see how she responds? You'll find out if she's a freak, or turn her off.

Here, start with this:

[Spur|n|Austin]

If you have not dated anyone at the office, just tell her you do not date coworkers.

THIS

[DJR210]

her and bust in like 3 minutes. Problem solved, she'll never bug you again.

[mrsmaalox]

Be honest. Tell her you don't want a serious relationship, but your down to . (A woman in her 30's would probably tear your ass up, btw.) If she ain't down with that, tell her to move along.

This and only this. Tell her before you go out.

[CuckingFunt]

The answer is always to be polite and honest.

Saves everyone involved tons of unnecessary drama. Including/especially yourself.

[rascal]

Be honest. Tell her you don't want a serious relationship, but your down to . (A woman in her 30's would probably tear your ass up, btw.) If she ain't down with that, tell her to move along.

Worst suggestion. That will piss her off and she will tell her co-workers and all the women in the office will have a bad opinion of you.

[DUNCANownsKOBE]

Just reply to the texts with ty, 1-2 word responses, tbh..everybody knows those annoying, short texts when you're trying to game</3..

At work, don't try to look good for a week or 2, and just be boring when you speak to her IMO..

Don't act like a or tell her the truth, though, just make yourself unappealing..it could take longer if she's persistent and a clinger, which is probably the case since she's a single Hispanic woman in her 30s(probably eager to birth a few kids and get fat, tbh), unfortunately..I wouldn't make it an obvious or mean-spirited rejection, since you have to work with her every day, obviously, so I'd try the subtle, "making yourself boring" approach..

[ohmwrecker]

Worst suggestion. That will piss her off and she will tell her co-workers and all the women in the office will have a bad opinion of you.

Oh, no! A bad opinion? You don't know about women. She would be dumb to tell anybody because it would make her look bad and even if she did one of those chicks might take him up on the offer.

[rascal]

Oh, no! A bad opinion? You don't know about women. She would be dumb to tell anybody because it would make her look bad and even if she did one of those chicks might take him up on the offer.

You think a woman who wants a relationship is going to take you up for only sex with no relationship? That is an insult for women who want a relationship. You know nothing about women. She will be insulted by the offer and sure will be pissed off enough that she will find a way to make you look bad amonst her friends in the office and cause some type of drama you are trying to avoid.

[Wild Cobra]

Her perspective I'm afraid this would sound like an excuse. Saying that, this is probably what I'm going to end up going with.

Excuse or not, unless you are real positive of someone, it's best not to date anyone at work.

[ohmwrecker]

You think a woman who wants a relationship is going to take you up for only sex with no relationship? That is an insult for women who want a relationship. You know nothing about women. She will be insulted by the offer and sure will be pissed off enough that she find a way to make you look bad amonst her friends in the office and cause some type of drama you are trying to avoid.

She probably won't take him up on the offer if she wants a relationship. That's the point, dummy. He wants her to leave him alone. He can reject her without actually rejecting her. He is offering her something she doesn't want, but he is still offering her something. I guarantee she will be too embarrassed to make a big deal out of it.

[rascal]

She probably won't take him up on the offer if she wants a relationship. That's the point, dummy. He wants her to leave him alone. He can reject her without actually rejecting her. He is offering her something she doesn't want, but he is still offering her something. I guarantee she will be too embarrassed to make a big deal out of it.

Women have no problem getting sex if that is all they want, so it is a stupid offer in the first place. Don't think for a minute she will just sit back and do nothing and not bad mouth you with her friends who already know she is trying to get into a relationship with you.

[ohmwrecker]

Women have no problem getting sex if that is all they want, so it is a stupid offer in the first place. Don't think for a minute she will just sit back and do nothing and not bad mouth you with her friends who already know she is trying to get into a relationship with you.

The key element you seem to be missing here is that she is being rejected. He can reject her without making her feel undesirable or unattractive, but he is rejecting what she wants. He is putting it all on himself . . . "He" is not ready for a serious relationship, but "He" finds her attractive. It's the only thing to do and he doesn't have to lie. It's the perfect way to reject a woman. You get out of an awkward situation before it even starts and you make her feel desirable and wanted. It's a win/win, hoss.

[rascal]

The key element you seem to be missing here is that she is being rejected. He can reject her without making her feel undesirable or unattractive, but he is rejecting what she wants. He is putting it all on himself . . . "He" is not ready for a serious relationship, but "He" finds her attractive. It's the only thing to do and he doesn't have to lie. It's the perfect way to reject a woman. You get out of an awkward situation before it even starts and you make her feel desirable and wanted. It's a win/win, hoss.

You cause an unnecessary awkward situation when you introduce your sex offer. Leave sex out of it.
That opens up a way for her to make you look like the type of asshole women are trying to avoid. And she is being rejected with your offer if you believe it or not.

[TDMVPDPOY]

tell her u love ...

[ohmwrecker]

You cause an unnecessary awkward situation when you introduce your sex offer. Leave sex out of it.
That opens up a way for her to make you look like the type of asshole women are trying to avoid. And she is being rejected with your offer if you believe it or not.

You jackass. You don't literally come out and offer sex. You offer casual dating/friendship with the caveat of a serious relationship being completely off the table. Most people, except for you apparently, can translate that into a physical relationship. Did you really take my OP that literally? smh.

[rascal]

You jackass. You don't literally come out and offer sex. You offer casual dating/friendship with the caveat of a serious relationship being completely off the table. Most people, except for you apparently, can translate that into a physical relationship. Did you really take my OP that literally? smh.

Way to move the goal posts from your initial stance.
Now you are into casual dating her.

[ohmwrecker]

Way to move the goal posts from your initial stance.
Now you are into casual dating her.

I'm not moving goalposts. I'm changing language. You don't say exactly what's on your mind to people all the time. You change the language to fit in whatever societal situation you are in. I am willing to bet that no one but you thought I was actually suggesting that OP literally tell this chick he is "down to ". My god, but you are stupid.

[CuckingFunt]

She probably won't take him up on the offer if she wants a relationship. That's the point, dummy. He wants her to leave him alone. He can reject her without actually rejecting her. He is offering her something she doesn't want, but he is still offering her something. I guarantee she will be too embarrassed to make a big deal out of it.

Nope. If she was really as interested as the OP fears, she'd see a friends-with-benefits situation as the opening to get the relationship she wants. Men often use the promise of a relationship to get sex, women often use the promise of sex to get a relationship.

[The Reckoning]

on the real, don't date her...but if one of yall is on your way out to a new job or position, hit it on the way out imo tbh fwiw.

[CuckingFunt]

He can reject her without making her feel undesirable or unattractive.

There are other ways of doing that. Common decency and politeness, for one.

The only times a rejection has made me feel undesirable or unattractive have been when the person doing the rejecting came right out and told me they didn't desire me or find me attractive.

[SupremeGuy]

I had a very similar situation at my first post-college job. I was in my early 20s and the World was my ing oyster, but this older Christian-type chick at the office kept throwing herself at me. ing pissed me off cause then other coworkers would ask why I wasn't giving her a shot and all this other bull that was none of their business. Truth be told, I just wasn't interested in some ing chick in her late 30s that was average for her age at best. Anyways, everyone thought it was ok for this chick to basically sexually harass me everyday. I still regret not trying to sue the dumb place, but , if I had done anything like that, it probably would have been impossible for me to find a new job.

Anyways, my advice is that you have to get in front of the pitch. Tell her you're not interested as bluntly and as quickly as possible without being a . If you've waited a few months, it might already make it an odd situation at work, regardless of what you do.