I don't think "we" were ever in the mix; I think he took the meeting because he didn't want to look like he was disrespecting the Spurs.
From the Spurs' perspective, I suspect they know that and are already waiting because there's no reason not to. Even if there's only a 0.01% chance, they'd be stupid to not wait 2 days on probably the 3rd best player in the world, especially if, as it appears, Gasol is willing to wait.
As for Crabbe, that offer sheet is probably coming if the Heat match on Johnson. That's the only way it would make sense anyway.